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Tonberry 10-08-2010 01:31 AM

Pet names
 
I've been wondering a few things about pet names. Those of you who have more than one partner, do you use the same pet names, different ones, a mix of both?
If you use different ones, have you ever used the wrong one accidentally?
Have you ever used a pet name only to realise your other partner thought it was "yours" and felt bad about it?

Me, I mostly use different names, and Rag and Sean have different names for me, too. I don't use many pet names with Rag, there is really only one main one, and I often call him by his name.
Sean uses lots of pet names for me, and I guess it caused me to use lots with him, too. But as a result I've felt like using more with Rag as well, I'm not sure why.

I've never used the "wrong" one, but I always worry that I will (just like I always worry I'll use the wrong name - not just with partners, with everyone, all the time).

marksbabygirl 10-08-2010 02:14 AM

There are certain "pet names" that belong to just me.

He's good with that :)

I don't have another partner, so I don't have that worry :)

Livingmybestlife 10-08-2010 02:36 AM

I have different pet names for each. For my husband it is Bear or Bunny. He has different ones for me.

For my BF, I have different ones for him (he likes to be called Baby) and he calls me entirely different ones then my husband. I think the first time I called him that is when he fell in love with me.

Neither knows what the other's are. They don't chose to have any contact with each other, except for emergencies. Yes, I have called my husband, Baby since this all started with A. in July.

LMBL

redpepper 10-08-2010 08:01 AM

PN is "love", Mono is "bbay" (pronounced "baby") and Derby is "sweets."
My two other men I call "dexy" and sometimes "sparky" (his wife calls him that though and I often find it awkward, he likes it though *shrug*).

My boy I call "bubs" (short for "bubba").

Mono calls me "lilo," his "life love." He calls me "beautiful," "baby," "sunshine"... :) can't remember what else.

I don't feel weird when I get mixed up. I just laugh and say "oops" and carry on. None of them mind I don't think. At least not to my knowledge anyways.

Ariakas 10-08-2010 04:37 PM

hmmm I don't really have specific pet names. I don't like the idea that a pet name is owned by anyone. The only one that comes to mind, really only applies to Pengrah. I call her "my milky way" because of how she brought me out west and has VERY milky white skin. It really wouldn't suit anyone else.

Otherwise the rest are fair game. Maybe I will develop more specifics as they come along in the relationship. I figure their names are unique enough haha

Tonberry 10-08-2010 06:09 PM

Well maybe it's time to talk about the pet names I have!

Rag is my Goupinou. Doesn't really mean anything as far as I know, it's just an affectionate word I made up. He's also my (adjective+inou). For instance, my Snugglinou, or Grumpinou, or Sleepinou. Or Wonderfulinou, for an example that doesn't normally end in "y".
It's pronounced "Goo-pee-noo" by the way. Which sounds bad written like this haha.
I'm his moelleuse, which means soft (or moist, if you're talking about cake) in French.

Sean is my Seanie-bear, and my (adjective + bear). I also call him sweetie and sweetie-pie, but I wouldn't thing of these as restricted to him. I guess they just come more naturally with him because he uses pet names so often.
He calls me honey or honey bunny. He also calls me his "Canadian Girlfriend".

The guy I like is named Will, so I refer to him as my Willy-Nilly sometimes. But since we're not together (or very much in touch anymore for that matter), I don't get to call him that very much (or at all, really).
He doesn't call me anything special, since we're just friends, if that.

I like having pet names for the men who are important to me. Which is funny because I don't have nicknames for any of my friends or family. I can only think of these three people that I call something other than just their name. I don't even use short forms of names very often.

redpepper 10-08-2010 07:17 PM

Tonberry that is the cutest thing. I'm going to be adding "pinou" on the end of things now! I love it! :D

I love pet names. I give everyone close to me pet names eventually. The ones noted here are the tip of the iceberg! I have tons more for my men that would indicate their names so I won't say.

My boy I call sausage sometimes, Mr. Cooch, coochies, weiner, it goes on and on and I use them for the guys too.

The new guinea pig (pistachio) has now become stashers, wheeker (cause he says "wheek wheek" a lot), sausage. I'm sure there will be more. Quite often someone will end up being called sausage. Heh :D

I just love words I think. I like to use them as terms of endearment. I guess I call derby by another name too, but it also would indicate who she is :(

Tonberry 10-08-2010 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by redpepper (Post 47906)
Tonberry that is the cutest thing. I'm going to be adding "pinou" on the end of things now! I love it! :D

Just to give you some more insight, in French "rabbit" is "lapin" and rabbit owners often use the words "lapinou" or "pinou".
I didn't consciously do that, but it might have inspired me to some extent, as my first language is French.

redpepper 10-08-2010 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Tonberry (Post 47915)
Just to give you some more insight, in French "rabbit" is "lapin" and rabbit owners often use the words "lapinou" or "pinou".
I didn't consciously do that, but it might have inspired me to some extent, as my first language is French.

Very sweet. :D

Derbylicious 10-08-2010 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by redpepper (Post 47906)

I just love words I think. I like to use them as terms of endearment. I guess I call derby by another name too, but it also would indicate who she is :(

LOL I won't tell them what I call you then either for the same reason :D


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