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MyNameIsMaam 10-04-2010 01:13 AM

Lonely in a Crowd
Have you ever felt lonely, even when you are surrounded by people, most of whom you like?

Jade 10-04-2010 01:33 AM

Most assuredly. *hugs*

Ariakas 10-04-2010 04:13 AM

yes I have, its an odd feeling. It usually comes when I am feeling like I am missing someone :)

redpepper 10-04-2010 06:31 AM

no I can't say I have. I thrive on being quietly in a crowd of those I like and feel most at home this way. I hardly ever feel lonely anymore in my life. :) thankfully.

why do you ask?

sage 10-04-2010 06:49 AM

Yes my experience as been similar to Ari's. When I've been at a party or gathering of some kind and my heart is with someone elsewhere.

...but why don't you tell us more about how this has come up for you:)

Ariakas 10-04-2010 03:42 PM

I should also say I can experience this in general. In this town there are a lot of acquaintances. I can be hanging out with these "friends" at any time, and the realization that I am just another acquaintance sometimes gets to me. Regardless of how the word friend is thrown around. People have left and this town feels hollow sometimes.

So yes, if you feel comfortable, feel free to expand on what it means to you? :)

LovingRadiance 10-05-2010 04:28 AM


I definitely have and I sure don't enjoy it.

Like Ari-it's often because I am missing someone specific.

MyNameIsMaam 10-05-2010 10:42 PM

I am an extrovert, usually. Sometimes I like solitude when I need to recharge.

There are sometimes when I feel alone. Not sure how else to describe it - maybe meloncholy?

Sometimes I recognized when it's hormonally induced. This time I think that, in combination with some medical issues requiring diagnostic testing and my parents who aren't talking to me right now.

I guess I just need to wait for this phase to pass.

Derbylicious 10-07-2010 09:26 PM

Maybe it's time for some more focused, smaller group type things. It's hard to feel lonely when someone is really focused on you and wants to hear what you have to say.

MyNameIsMaam 10-08-2010 12:22 AM

I am finding that staying busy and focused helps a little bit. Working out helps a little bit too. These will have to do until the homonal couple of days of "egg week" pass by.

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