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Cubafan 06-22-2009 01:28 PM

New arrival
Hi All

Just arrived on here and I guess into the world of polyamory a bit by accident !! lol !

My wife decided this was for her, and after many months of supportive discussion, we have decided to try this approach to life

So far it seems a bit complex, and not the easiest thing in the world we have tried to do, though it's apparent even at this stage that there are benefits coming back into our relationship that I didn't expect to see, and that may tempt me to be a "fully committed" member of the polyamory family !!

I'll try not to fumble in the dark as I get used to the web site, so if anyone out there has the time / inclination to help a newbie, I won't be too proud to listen !! lol !!

MonoVCPHG 06-22-2009 03:28 PM

Welcome to the forum! And don't worry..I have been fumbly through the dark ever since I got here. You'll be fine:D

Quath 06-23-2009 01:22 AM

It is mostly complex because we have not grown up surrounded by these ideas. So we have to figure out stuff on our own instead of relying upon society's norms to hint at the appropriate behavior.

Welcome to the forum and don't be afraid to ask or comment.

Cubafan 06-23-2009 06:03 AM

Thanks for the welcome
As my wife and I go down this journey, it's good to know others have travelled the same road, and that we can learn from their experiences

It's good to feel you are not alone !!

vampiresscammy 06-24-2009 03:58 AM

heyla and welcome :)

Cubafan 06-24-2009 06:22 AM

Thanks for making me feel so welcome !!

The UK can feel a lonely place if you feel you are maybe the only people trying to do this !! lol !!

yoxi 06-24-2009 06:25 AM

Cool - someone else in the UK :). Enjoy yourselves exploring the mystery that is People!

Cubafan 06-24-2009 06:37 AM

Thanks Yoxi!
If there are so few of us in the UK, I'd like to think that makes us special people !! lol !!

yoxi 06-24-2009 07:02 AM

I'm sure there are loads of people in the UK just getting on with polyamorous relationships without the 'benefit' of a name for the experience :). Most people I talk to about this have no problem with the concept "loving more than one person needn't = inability to commit" regardless of whether the P word ever gets mentioned.

Cubafan 06-24-2009 07:07 AM

I think that's oh so true !
One of the things I seem to be struggling with is starting a polyamory relationship, as there seem to be forums if you are looking for sex, or forums if you are looking for a traditional partner, but if you start to talk about polyamory, people seem to run a mile !!

The concept of loving and being comitted to more than one person, for many seems to be a step too far !!

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