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linkoric 09-28-2010 02:56 AM

Are all the same?
I'm pretty new to this, yet, the relationships I've seen the most of by far is with two men and one women. Is this all there is? I'm looking for a true loving and fulfilling relationship with two women, Should I give up? I don't mean to whine but I'm not just interested in a threesome. I'm getting extremely discouraged, any advise?

sage 09-28-2010 05:13 AM


I don't know if what you say is true, ie that there are more 2 male 1 female relationships on here. Maybe there are more Vs like that but I would think MFF triads are more common.

You sound like my partner and he is experiencing the same frustrations. He does have an intimate (non-sexual) relationship with a long distance love but she only partially fills his need. He would like someone to be part of our life on a regular basis. He says the only time he has ever felt totally complete was when we were staying with his other and we both cuddled up with him in bed.

I have a theory that maybe his need comes from a rather insecure childhood where he was raised by his mother and older sister (his sister was more nurturing than his mother, but she married and moved away when he was only five) Any similarity with you?

Perhaps understandably it takes a very special woman to knowingly go into either a V relationship or a triad. Bi-sexual women are the most likely contenders. Maybe you could seek out one bi-sexual woman first and then both seek another?

best of luck

linkoric 09-28-2010 06:05 AM

actually, my father died when I was 14, my mother was often at work, but did her best. I have an older sister, but she didn't help much in raising me. And I have been seeking a bi-sexual woman, I'm just having terrible luck.

redpepper 09-28-2010 06:49 AM

It sounds like you might just be having terrible luck.

To quote myself from this thread http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=762


Originally Posted by redpepper (Post 46077)
How to get our attention as women? stand out! be positive, present on the site, cheery and have fun!

this is all you can do, that and be the best damned primary to yourself that you can be. THAT is very attractive!

linkoric 09-29-2010 06:43 PM

I really am thankful for all the tips.

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