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sage 09-18-2010 07:55 PM

Do we need a new word?
 
If Compersion is the opposite of jealousy what can we call the feeling we get when our loved one is hurting over another relationship and we feel that too?

All I could come up with is discompersion because of the discomfort it brings up, but it isn't right.

Suggestions please.:confused:

NeonKaos 09-18-2010 07:59 PM

anti-compersion

non-compersion

un-compersion

de-compersion

sage 09-18-2010 08:22 PM

no, no, no, I can say I'm feeling compersion but I can't say I'm feeling uncompersion or any of the others. I suppose I could say uncompersionable, but that sounds awkward. Maybe we need a whole new word?

MindfulAgony 09-18-2010 08:34 PM

Why doesn't empathy work? Is it more than that because we can experience joy when society tells us to feel jealous? We needed a word for the opposite of jealousy because of how pervasive (and strong) feelings of jealousy typically invoke.

I'm not sure that people generally feel joy when someone they want to be in a relationship with is having a hard time with their current relationship (even if we see opportunity - that's still different from joy). If we truly cared for that person, we would still probably struggle with seeing that person suffer.

So, I'm not sure what you're describing serves the same kind of role that comperson does with respect to jealousy.

I could be wrong.

Ariakas 09-18-2010 10:13 PM

First word I thought of was empathy.

rabbit 09-18-2010 10:35 PM

polyempathy?

Tonberry 09-18-2010 11:12 PM

Empathy is general, but works. Compersion is a specific kind of empathy (over positive things), and it's sad that we need such a word (because it means it's more "normal" to be upset when other people are happy), but I'm not convinced we need a specific word for when it's negative.

Actually, I would even think "compersion" itself might work, if we use it in terms of "empathy for your partner's joy or sadness over another lover".

redpepper 09-19-2010 12:14 AM

compassion compersion

MonoVCPHG 09-19-2010 02:04 AM

I think there are already plenty of existing words to describe feeling bad and supportive for a partners struggle. The creation of new words for each little thing might be fun but it serves to further isolate ourselves from the rest of society because we end up talking a different language.

ImaginaryIllusion 09-19-2010 07:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG (Post 44798)
I think there are already plenty of existing words to describe feeling bad and supportive for a partners struggle. The creation of new words for each little thing might be fun but it serves to further isolate ourselves from the rest of society because we end up talking a different language.

KAHPLAH!:rolleyes:


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