Making It Happen
After discussing an open marriage for the past four years, my husband and I have finally agreed to give it a try. There is a guy I work with who I'm almost 99% confident that he would sleep with me if I asked him. He, too, is married, but I don't think he is in an open marriage. I'm naturally a bit shy, so I don't really know how to approach him. I figured I would ask him to get drinks some night after work and just go from there. However, I'm confused as to whether I should tell him that I'm in this lifestyle, of if he will think it is totally weird. Or, should I just let him think that he and I are having an affair? He makes all sorts of sexual comments to me and I catch him checking me out all the time, so I'm betting he would do it. I guess I need to know how to get the ball rolling and what to tell this guy.
But do not hook up with a married coworker just for casual sex and become his cheating partner. That's not honest polyamory. That is also not honest swinging. :(
From your intro, you guys seem to want to swing -- recreational sex. Where the wife has sex play partners and the husband does not but enjoys his wife's adventures. That's cool -- everyone can have the right to have what they want to have for their relationship so long as nobody is getting hurt.
In this article -- about open relationship models, it would be some sort of 1A arrangement between you. Is this model what you are after? If so, perhaps people can help you find resources.
But becoming someone's cheating affair partner -- that's not flattering to you and that IS hurting the spouse kept in the dark. You can find willing, honest sex play partners if this is what you wish to have without that kind of mess.
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