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mellsey 06-01-2009 05:47 PM

Rings
 
Hello,
my poly family are looking for "wedding" commitment rings. Does anyone have any idea or a design that would fit our poly life. Being two couples we already have one set of rings, but would like to replace them with one for all four of us that symbolizes our connection and commitments.

Lemondrop 06-01-2009 06:45 PM

Mellsey, are you planning a commitment ceremony? Do you feel that this would be on the level of a group marriage? I've considered a group marriage, but I'm a little afraid I'd be jumping into it too quickly. Would you be replacing your wedding rings altogether?

Honestly, I like the idea of a claddagh--two hands holding a heart seems to sum it all up for me. If you're looking to have something made, perhaps you could all discuss symbols that you feel embody what makes the relationship special, or represent each of you.

Mark1npt 06-01-2009 07:03 PM

We've lately been discussing this topic in our V....our recently divorced friend is thinking of having her old engagement/wedding rings broken down and having 3 rings made with all the diamonds dispersed among the three new rings so we all have a part of her. Very thoughtful of her to want to do that. I suspect my wife and I will still wear our modest wedding bands too but we haven't discussed that yet. Of course, we all 3 could just take the easy way out and order 3 distinctly matching bands that should signify to all that we are together. That would be fun to watch at parties as people put 2 and 2 together!

What kind of ceremony to do? Don't know what's legal or if we even want to do anything legal but surely a commitment ceremony of some sort is in the offing.

WaywardDruid 06-01-2009 07:04 PM

Rings
 
We have always leaned to Celtic Jewelry in our Handfasting ceremonies.

http://lazarusl.com/KnotRing.gif
http://lazarusl.com/KnotRing02.gif
http://lazarusl.com/Ring01.gif

Do a Google search or here's a online store I like to visit.

http://www.moonstone-jewelry.com/index.html

Just Me,
Tim

mellsey 06-01-2009 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lemondrop (Post 1508)
Mellsey, are you planning a commitment ceremony? Do you feel that this would be on the level of a group marriage? I've considered a group marriage, but I'm a little afraid I'd be jumping into it too quickly. Would you be replacing your wedding rings altogether?

Honestly, I like the idea of a claddagh--two hands holding a heart seems to sum it all up for me. If you're looking to have something made, perhaps you could all discuss symbols that you feel embody what makes the relationship special, or represent each of you.

We really have not talked about what type of ceremony we will do, but yes it would be a group marriage and yes it would replace our mono wedding rings. That is one thing all four of us have agreed upon. When and what we will do is still undesided. I have been looking at the celtic rings and the infinity knot is pretty cool looking.

mellsey 06-01-2009 07:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mark1npt (Post 1510)
We've lately been discussing this topic in our V....our recently divorced friend is thinking of having her old engagement/wedding rings broken down and having 3 rings made with all the diamonds dispersed among the three new rings so we all have a part of her. Very thoughtful of her to want to do that. I suspect my wife and I will still wear our modest wedding bands too but we haven't discussed that yet. Of course, we all 3 could just take the easy way out and order 3 distinctly matching bands that should signify to all that we are together. That would be fun to watch at parties as people put 2 and 2 together!

What kind of ceremony to do? Don't know what's legal or if we even want to do anything legal but surely a commitment ceremony of some sort is in the offing.

Mark1npt,
We are leaning more towards the distinctly matching bands that represent polyamory and our love for one another.

We have not discussed the ceremony yet, it will just be a private commitment ceremony. I know we can not do anything legal, which is not fair, but is life.

mellsey 06-01-2009 07:19 PM

Tim,
Thank you, I have just looked at that website. It does have some beautiful pieces.
Mellsey

ImaginaryIllusion 06-02-2009 04:16 AM

I found the perfect thing for your quad here!

http://www.cryptobuddy.biz/cgi-bin/i...oderrings2.jpg

Sorry, yes I know...look how funny he thinks he is....I just couldn't resist. (And I've never personally understood some people's inclination to having matching rings/dogs/tatoo's etc....but whatever...that's my problem, not yours)

In all seriousness, something like these interlocking types might be an option as well, with a kind of subtle symbolism...particularly if you get the sets custom made to your particular tastes. Maybe a 3 part ring, with the names of each other partner on each link for example.

http://ny-image2.etsy.com/il_430xN.61653778.jpg

Good luck in your search. Hopefully there's a local whitesmith or two that can help you realize your vision. (If there's a blacksmith guild in your area, there's a slight possibility they might know some)

Cheers.

Quath 06-06-2009 12:36 AM

I heard of a poly group getting rings where each type of stone represented a person in the group. (Maybe it was by birthstone?) So they all got rings that had those stones in it somewhere.

Danny40179 06-07-2009 11:08 AM

Congrats Mell!! The wives and I are actually going to have a commitment ceremony as well in 2013. We needed to wait that long as that's the next time that my wedding anniversary rolls around. That marks 10 years that my wife and I will be married so we're going to renew our vows, then bring our gf in and have a commitment ceremony with her so that she can be a part of our day.

We've also talked about what we would do for rings so thank you for starting this thread! There are a lot of great ideas on here. Good luck and congrats again!


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