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atankerfixer 10-12-2012 08:01 PM

Hello, my wife and I watched a show on cable about this lifestyle that really got us thinking. We have been married17 years, most of which has been an open marriage. We have always felt the need to be with others and have for the last 8 years had one exclusive"friend" (male). We are now curious about finding another woman or couple.
We live in ND which can seriously reduce the options! We really have no network to draw from, or knowledge of any local network. Being a conservative Lutheran area has really hindered our efforts.
Suggestions??? Any will help.

opalescent 10-12-2012 08:52 PM

Well the usual suggestions are to try OKCupid and to see if there are any poly groups in your area. Meetup.com is a decent place to try. But, yeah, you may have to travel quite a bit to meet folks. On the other hand, you've found one partner already so that is hopeful.

atankerfixer 10-12-2012 09:30 PM

Yup! And i found her in Arizona!! Lol we'll keep trying!!

kdt26417 10-16-2012 11:29 PM

Hi tankerfixer,
Welcome to our forum.

On this site, we have a Dating & Friendships subforum ... and there's:


You can also google "North Dakota polyamory" and see if anything turns up.


"As for where to meet poly people, if by some chance you are interested in anything alternative like Renaissance fairs, goth culture, sci-fi conventions, indie music, bdsm, or any small fringe group, you will be more likely to meet people who have at least heard of poly and are accepting of it."
-- SpaceHippieGeek, http://polyamoryonline.org/smf/index...57394#msg57394
Even if it's not an "alternative" type group, if there's a club or something in your area that does something you're interested in, you can always join that group and it just gives you a way to get out there and meet people. If you meet someone on a platonic level and get to talking about poly, then they can decide how they feel about it without any "pressure to agree." Then if they do decide poly doesn't bother them too much, and some kind of romantic connection subsequently develops, you'll already have "had the poly conversation" with them.

Hope something here helps,
Kevin T.

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