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southerndreams 05-06-2010 10:22 AM

a work in progress
I still haven't met D's wife. time is not allowing it. May just be a better thing though. he was showing me pictures from her show. I was seriously doing really well with the who jealousy thing until that moment. I had this huge moment of :"Why is he with me?!?" Didn't bring it up as he was just so proud to be talking about her and her work. Didn't have the heart to take the smile off his face. So I now get to explore this feeling and figure everything out.

AutumnalTone 05-10-2010 03:05 AM

Have you asked him what it is he finds attractive about you? Perhaps learning what it is he values about you will help you feel more secure.

redpepper 05-10-2010 07:08 AM

I hope you do get to meet her. It would be very helpful. I can see distinctly what it is that my nerdist loves about me now that I have experienced who he is attracted to. It makes me laugh actually and love him all that much more. She probably will have very similar traits to you in various ways but you are also completely different. No doubt you are unique in every way and he cares and loves you for it... good for you for taking the exploitative approach and attitude. It will serve you well to look at your feelings from out side of them and see them as a thing of interest rather than a threat.

southerndreams 05-10-2010 09:51 AM

thank you both. I will ask as it's the only way to learn.

southerndreams 05-14-2010 11:28 PM

grrrrr.....I'm frustrated. D and I were to get together to discuss this guy I've been seeing. it's a recent thing and I wanted D's opinion on the guy and he was going to answer my questions about the rules he and L have. he had to cancel. I feel a bit jipped. I get to see D maybe once a week and he canceled. I know that he couldn't help it and wouldn't have unless it was an emergency. so I'm frustrated and feel selfish for feeling frustrated.

southerndreams 05-16-2010 04:56 PM

well no need to discuss the guy I was seeing as he turned out to be a not so nice person

southerndreams 05-24-2010 10:47 AM

been wondering for the past 3 weeks if the lonliness will abate. if this is me needing more than I can possibly have right now. my weeks have been crazy and I need someone to talk to but don't feel that I can always talk to D. Especially since there's his wife, me and 2 others. I've tried online dating to no avail. I'm just spinning my wheels and trying to figure out what to do. Hopefully it will become clearer as time passes

Danny40179 05-24-2010 04:40 PM

*hug* Just cause.

southerndreams 05-24-2010 08:57 PM

Thanks. hugs are always needed and much appreciated

Danny40179 05-24-2010 09:32 PM


Originally Posted by southerndreams (Post 30611)
Thanks. hugs are always needed and much appreciated

You're very welcome and I agree!

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