Opening Up in TX
I'm 33, female, and have been in a monogamous marriage for almost 7 years. Long story short, a couple of years ago, my husband expressed an interest in seeking out other sex partners. We discussed it at the time, and I was open to it, but we never progressed past talking and he never pursued anyone else.
I guess that conversation has been bumping around my mind for a while, and my desire to do the same thing -- have other partners -- has intensified in the last couple of months. I sought out a polyamory-friendly therapist (found him on the kink-aware professionals list) to help me think through this and have started up the conversations with my husband again.
Last week, on vacation in California, hubby and I spent hours sitting in front of the fire and talking about all the logistics of having other partners, and I think we both realized that neither of us is looking for one-night stands or bar hookups (maybe bar/party makeout sessions :) ). So I started exploring polyamory. I've read The Ethical Slut and Tristan Taormino's Opening Up, and would be glad to hear recommendations of other books and resources.
But... now I think neither of us really knows how to proceed. I hope I'll find a lot of good information here on the forum!
Welcome to our forum.
I think "Polyamory: the new love without limits" (by Deborah Anapol) is a good book; also "Sex At Dawn" (by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha) comes highly recommended.
Also you can find Book and Website Recommendations at ... http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1096
"Ethical Slut" and "Opening Up" are like the top two major book titles, so you have a good foundation.
A few other staples:
Polyamory in movies/music/art? ... http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=733
Golden Nuggets ... http://www.polyamory.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=26
Have a look at those three links, and browse around on the site, you will find a lot of good information.
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