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Mohegan 04-29-2010 01:54 PM

Date Ideas?
 
Good Morning Everyone!

The husband and I are one step closer to having a girlfriend. We are going on our first "official" date with her on Saturday. But I am at a loss for what to do. We are college students and don't have a lot to spend. But we want to do some thing special with her. She comes over to hang out here a lot so we wanted to take her out to do something "different". I was thinking antiquing as she wants some new jars and bottles for oils and herbs. The husband hates to shop though, so... I have no idea what to do. I was hoping someone had some ideas to share. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks

Ilove2men 04-29-2010 02:35 PM

Well, my date night this Friday was supposed to be an after hours picnic at a beautiful recreation center. Cheap wine, a few goodies to go with it, a blanket, and a starry sky. But unfortunately it's raining! So we are doing an indoors picnic instead. It sounds like you have a day date. I enjoy picnics in the park. I like smaller parks with less people because I like to swing.


One of the best dates I've ever been on was my fiance took me to a local bakery that had a few tables and a giant assortment of mini cakes, pastries, and fruit tarts. I'm a big foodie and for less than 20 bucks we ate our hearts out. It was fun tasting one and being like omg you have to try this! Or even the ones we didn't like the other would still taste and we got to enjoy each others reactions. Taking turns feeding each other ect ect. It was a really sweet date. No pun intended.

Mohegan 04-29-2010 02:55 PM

I kinds like that idea. Maybe some shopping, some eating and some play on the playground. Thanks! I hadn't really stopped to think about how hard it is to combine the likes of three different people.

NeonKaos 04-29-2010 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Mohegan (Post 27942)
I kinds like that idea. Maybe some shopping, some eating and some play on the playground. Thanks! I hadn't really stopped to think about how hard it is to combine the likes of three different people.

I hope you haven't "ruled" out taking the opportunity to do things with her one-on-one (such as, the two of you could go shopping together WITHOUT him). You don't have to limit yourselves to only doing things as a group of three.

Ariakas 04-29-2010 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by YGirl (Post 27943)
I hope you haven't "ruled" out taking the opportunity to do things with her one-on-one (such as, the two of you could go shopping together WITHOUT him). You don't have to limit yourselves to only doing things as a group of three.

Brilliant :)...you might find developing the relationship as individuals and as a triad will make it stronger...this is something I learned here and intend to bring into any, hopefully, future relationships :)

Mohegan 04-29-2010 04:13 PM

Thanks for the thoughts, my husband has spent a lot of time with her, she and I are still figuring eachother out. We definitaly enjoy eachother and are interested in seeing where things go. I hadn't ruled out just she and I, just kind of thought we'd all enjoy a group outing. But your thoughts have made me consider spending more one on one time with her. It took me out of the "us" and "her" mindset. And put me into an individual relationships mindset. Probably a better place to be for all of us. Thanks Again!!

polytriad 04-29-2010 04:18 PM

keep it simple. Dinner and a movie. You and your husband can sit on either side of her in the movie and at dinner your husband can put a chair at the end of a booth and there or you and him sit on one side and she on the other. I prefer movie before dinner so at dinner you have something common to talk about to break the ice. get dinner at a place where its mellow enough to talk but not to romantic to where its forward. Pick a movie with comedy..like "date night" its fitting...Good luck

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Originally Posted by Mohegan (Post 27938)
Good Morning Everyone!

The husband and I are one step closer to having a girlfriend. We are going on our first "official" date with her on Saturday. But I am at a loss for what to do. We are college students and don't have a lot to spend. But we want to do some thing special with her. She comes over to hang out here a lot so we wanted to take her out to do something "different". I was thinking antiquing as she wants some new jars and bottles for oils and herbs. The husband hates to shop though, so... I have no idea what to do. I was hoping someone had some ideas to share. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks


CielDuMatin 04-29-2010 04:37 PM

I'm not a fan of movies as dates, simply because it doesn't give you much of a chance to interact, unless you are all movie fans and love sitting around and discussing it afterwards.

You didn't say what time of day it was going to be on Saturday, or where you are, but going to a park if the weather is decent is good. Walking and talking can be fun, sitting and watching people go by and chatting as well. Some parks have the possibility to rent bikes and the like.

We have some nice wine-growing areas around us, so a mini wine tour can be fun for us.

Visiting some sort of museum, if it's not too stuffy - we have a great museum like that - the Corning Museum of Glass - cool stuff for artists and geeks alike!

Shopping can be a mixed blessing, especially if some of you aren't really into it.

Sitting in a cafe or coffee shop can be fun, if the weather isn't good. The other benefit is that a lot of coffee shops have those free "what's on locally" papers - you can use that as a basis to discuss something else that the three of you would like to do on a future date.

If you are trying to gauge your relationship with her, then I think time where you can just interact without any pressure would be a good idea.

Most of these ideas can be done on a limited budget.

polytriad 04-29-2010 04:50 PM

I could see walking in a park or going to a coffee shop to chat. I'm a fan of simple so if you go in the evening/day or morning you could walk a bridge most of the bridges I am around in Northern CA have Vista points where you can sit and chat before walking or sit and talk after walking...amazingly enough its not to loud with all the cars wizing by.

idealist 04-29-2010 09:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Ariakas (Post 27953)
Brilliant :)...you might find developing the relationship as individuals and as a triad will make it stronger...this is something I learned here and intend to bring into any, hopefully, future relationships :)

You could spend time with her....just the two of you- shopping or something ....and then have him meet the two of you later !!


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