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DC7783 08-18-2012 01:33 AM

I'm new here
Hey there,

My name is Delmar I have been with my wife know for 11 years,we have a 10 year old...We both work I'm a photographer and a vender and kinda-of a jack of all. My wife works at wal-mart and goes to school. We like the outdoors thing hiking, fishing, camping ect.

I'm a starght-ish guy not sure never realy been with a guy. My wife is Bi she has been with women before only a few.So um yeah I Dont know what else to put...

mindrip 08-18-2012 03:40 AM


Welcome to the group. Hope your experience is a pleasent one.

GalaGirl 08-18-2012 04:18 AM

welcome! Just jump in anywhere. :)


Kesrie 08-18-2012 10:41 AM

Welcome! I'm new here too :)

I have a few questions for you if that's okay?

How long have you known you were poly?
Is your wife poly?
Have you had poly experiences in the past?

DC7783 08-18-2012 04:01 PM

I'm not sure just yet I have been doing some resarch and came a cross this and polamory seems very interesting the way every thing that I have found on polyamory sounds good to me so fare. I would Like to find someone close to use so we could go and talk with them on it in preson.

I have not talked with the wife about this yet...

CielDuMatin 08-18-2012 04:25 PM

Welcome to the forum.

My only advice at this stage, other than the learning that you are trying to do, is not to let this go too far in your mind before you talk to your wife. If your wife says that this is a "no way!" then you can stop spending the time doing the research. Also, the more your wife perceives you have gone down this road, the more threatened she will feel.

But you don't have to bring it up directly about you - I have posted before about some celebrities that are poly - maybe talk with her about them in some natural way and see what sort of reaction you get.

DC7783 08-18-2012 05:49 PM

Are there any poly members in Arizona? I think if we where able to meet someone from a group it would make things easer like if she had questions that I could not answer they could...

kdt26417 08-19-2012 12:57 AM

Hi DC7783,
Welcome to our forum.

You could try our Dating & Friendships subforum if you haven't already; also you could try Googling "polyamory Arizona" and see what turns up. There might be a local poly group in your area that you could meet with.

Of course if you have questions, and don't know the answers, you can always post on this site, and there will be people willing to help out. Don't be in too much of a hurry; take your time to learn all about polyamory before attempting the lifestyle. But kind of along the lines of what CielDuMatin said, tell your wife soon that this is something you've been researching.

I hope that this site can prove to be a good place to get the help and answers that you need.

Kevin T.

DC7783 08-19-2012 04:11 AM

awesome you guys are the best I will do that. I have dropped a hint to her but its touch and go...in the good way

kdt26417 08-19-2012 08:18 PM

Sounds promising; keep on moving forward a little at a time.

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