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Jansen 06-15-2012 12:10 AM

Great New Book about Polyamory
 
Hey all,

My friend and Nash introduced me to polyamory last year through doing research for his next book. It just got published now and I would like to recommend it to you. From what I've read here so far a lot of you will be able to relate to the stuff he writes about. "Threesome" explores polyamoric relationships. It's a fictional novel but based on the experiences of people living or having lived in poly relationships. I joined him for a poly meeting in London once and really liked people's attitudes as well as how natural it all seems. Anyway, I just finished the book a few days ago and loved it so I decided to help him get the word out. Would be great if you had a look and let me or him know what you think. I'm sure many of you will have had similar issues come up as the characters in the book so I'm sure you can relate to it on a personal level and possibly gain a new perspective on how to tackle certain issues. It also gives people interested in poly a first insight of how polyamoric relationships might look and feel like. Nash is a specialist on positive psychology, personal development, counselling and coaching and a respected academic with a lot of passion for exploring how people live fulfilled lives. And also he's very approachable and always loves to talk and discuss (don't give him any red wine please unless oyu have a couple of hours ;) )

Thanks and all the best
Yannick

Here's some more info on the book: http://www.threesomebook.info/ (it's like 7 pounds on amazon)
Here's a preview as pdf: http://www.existentialcoaching.net/T...ook_inside.pdf
And also, there's a book launch in West London next Tuesday (24.6.2012): http://www.threesomebook.info/?p=80#comment-5

http://www.existentialcoaching.net/threesome.png

CielDuMatin 06-16-2012 12:37 AM

My first impression, without looking at it - "Threesome" is a really bad name for a book on polyamory, because it has so many purely sexual connotations for so many people. It even further blurs the line between polyamory and swinging (which many non-poly community folks already think are the same thing...).

If I saw this on bookshelves and were looking for a polyamory resource, I would look right by this one.

Shame....

Jansen 06-17-2012 12:39 PM

Yeah I know what you mean. Yet it probably leads a lot of other people to take a closer look and possibly discover poly for them or at least understand a bit more about it.

CielDuMatin 06-17-2012 02:06 PM

Feels like getting people in kind of under false pretenses, personally, but that's just me...

Jansen 06-18-2012 08:41 AM

Well, words can have many meanings. many people will think about sex with three people when they hear threesome, yeah, but in a wider meaning it's just love between three people. Maybe this will broaden people's horizon a bit. Very few novels have exactly what they are about on the cover. If they do, they usually either sound ridicoulous or don't sell at all. I think people like what you call "false pretenses". A bit of surprise is usually quite enlightening.

CielDuMatin 06-18-2012 01:32 PM

well good luck with that. :)

nycindie 06-18-2012 03:05 PM

It doesn't interest me either because of the sexual connotation and also that threesomes are such a small slice of what is possible with polyamory. It would appear to me to be focused on three-way sexual liaisons, and I would not pick it up to even peruse through it if I were looking for a book on poly in general. Especially since I only conduct my poly relationships one-on-one separate from each other, and have no interest in group sex. But it will appeal to unicorn hunters, I bet. So, if that is who you are trying to attract, then good luck. I have to admit I am surprised that a post with a commercial link in it is still allowed up here. Such posts have had the links removed from them by moderators in the past.

lovefromgirl 06-18-2012 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Jansen (Post 140014)
Very few novels have exactly what they are about on the cover. If they do, they usually either sound ridicoulous or don't sell at all. I think people like what you call "false pretenses". A bit of surprise is usually quite enlightening.

The Hunger Games? Harry Potter?

I mean, not to burst your bubble, but those are easily two of the biggest sellers in recent memory. Most books actually end up going with titles that relate to the contents, when they're not shooting for subtler, but still THERE, narrative, poetic and/or thematic elements. "Threesome" as a title, in this case, is a blatant lie to the reader, designed to draw hir in with the promise of sex. Just cause, I'd say, for a frustrated customer to throw the book across the room or delete it from hir e-reader.

Titles are hard, yo.

km34 06-19-2012 06:06 AM

I think the title will get people's attention who are interested in sex, but once they read a description of the book (assuming one is available before purchase), they will lose interest when it isn't what they're looking for. People who are looking for poly information probably wouldn't even be very interested because of the sexual connotation.

Sure, a title that grabs people's attention is important, but if the book doesn't follow through with the promise the title makes, it doesn't do anything to satisfy the customer.

Best of luck to you and your friends. I won't be reading the book unless I find it somewhere for a dollar or less (I'll read almost any book I can buy for a dollar or less :D ).

AutumnalTone 06-19-2012 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by nycindie (Post 140058)
have to admit I am surprised that a post with a commercial link in it is still allowed up here. Such posts have had the links removed from them by moderators in the past.

Links to poly resources--even commercial resources--are acceptable here. We want folks to know what poly resources are available. Repeated flogging of such links/resources would be problematic and require action; simple posting is not a problem.

The brief version: non-poly commercial links bad; poly-related commercial links good.


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