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alexisnpaul2012 06-12-2012 02:26 AM

confusion plz help

CielDuMatin 06-12-2012 03:02 AM

You can't make her do anything that she doesn't want to, and it's a waste of energy trying, to be honest.

If this isn't working for you, then you have to tell that to your boyfriend and not take the "it'll get better" answer when you know it won't.

If he won't listen, then you need to end the relationship with your boyfriend.

PinkDragon 06-12-2012 03:05 AM

I'm not anywhere near being an expert on poly relationships, being new to this myself, but I do know that you can't /make/ someone do anything. My only advice is to calmly, rationally explain to him how you feel. After that it's up to him to decide what he wants to do.

From what I understand, this is the problem with unicorns and unicorn hunting. And, yeah, I'm in a triad right now so I'm learning about this as I go.

I have already resigned myself to the idea that if I don't make a real emotional connection with Lovely that Bear might decide he wants to continue a relationship with her even if I don't. That is just something one has to face if one is going to be poly.

Sorry I couldn't offer more help.

alexisnpaul2012 06-12-2012 05:27 AM

thank u guys and yea i was afraid of that answer 4rm both of u

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