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MaidenMell 06-04-2012 11:31 AM

Poly Family in the Making

My name is Mell and I'm new to the forums. I'm currently in an open vee. Basically I've been married to my husband for a year and a half but we've been together for almost 5 years. We talked about non-monogamy from the start but didn't open up our relationship 'til a couple of years in.

It started out just sexually open but I eventually realized so much more was missing from those encounters and that we more than capable of loving more than one person. I've had a handful of meaningful, emotional relationships since then but none that really stuck until now.

I met my current boyfriend online but it turned out he already knew my husband through a good mutual friend of ours. Things have just fallen together perfectly since then. He had some experience with a polyamorous relationship previously. We've only been together a couple of months but are already discussing moving in together and the possibility of kids down the line (none of us have children yet).

Currently I'm not interested in dating anyone else (I have a couple of good friends/play partners I see very occasionally) or adding on any relationships. My boyfriend is only interested in an emotional relationship with me, but will consider other play partners in the future and my husband has recently started dating, though nothing serious.

There isn't really a big poly community in our area. As things are becoming more serious and my boyfriend is becoming a bigger part of both of our lives we're peeking out of the poly closet more and more. I know if everything continues down the path we're headed then the three of us will be starting a family together in a year or two. By then our families and friends had better know or they'll figure it out anyway.

CielDuMatin 06-04-2012 03:41 PM

Welcome to the Forum!

You're not alone feeling that your "dance card' is full, and you're not looking for others right now - I tend to use the term "poly-saturated" to describe that state :)

kdt26417 06-04-2012 08:37 PM

Hi Mell,
Welcome to our forum.

I guess "poly-saturated" is a good word for it ... My dance card is full, and I'm just one leg in a closed V. I suppose I've become something of a solitary type, or more precisely, a socialite on several websites (like this one), but to all appearances, glued to the "square-headed girlfriend" (the computer).

Anyway, it sounds like you have had a good and healthful start into the poly journey, and I'm sure you'll continue to have good experiences with that. Glad to have you aboard with us.

Kevin T.

MaidenMell 06-05-2012 08:20 AM

Thanks. And yes I've heard "poly-saturated" before. Things will probably change in bits and pieces down the line (I don't expect my boyfriend for instance to always remain mostly monogamous even if he doesn't have plans to seek anything out). But for now things are pretty stable and joyful. I have had some less than great experiences already but think those were dealt with pretty rationally.

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