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sygma 05-07-2012 03:39 PM

Pre-Disposed for Polyamory?
I'll admit I didn't even know polyamory existed until a few weeks ago. It was sort of a relief because I feel pre-disposed to love more than one man at a time (even in second grade when I had a crush on both Jonathan and James). Since it isn't in our culture to be polyamory, I developed a sharp self-hatred and an internal mantra, "I am a terrible person."

I am in a long-term, very loving, monogamous relationship but have had several affairs. I feel terrible about these affairs. I even considered sentencing myself to exile to pay for entering into them.

My question is: is polyamory something that people chose or do you feel that there is a predisposition that is a little out of our control?

RfromRMC 05-07-2012 04:05 PM

This has been a discussion we've had often on this board. Everyone has a different opinion, but I can safely say I'm not the only one who strongly feels that: Yes, polyamory is the more natural path for myself.
We've had many people here to say that they tried to be monogamous and it just didn't work and they failed at it, badly.

Some people will go so far as to compare it to a sexual orientation. I have heard folks say a poly person trying to be monogamous is like a gay man trying to have a relationship with a woman. Now....I will not go so far as to say being polyamorous is a sexual orientation. Not quite. However, I do like the phrase "Relationship Orientation", much better! It seems to fit well, and that's how I tend to describe it to my non-poly friends. :cool:

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