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Interested32 04-19-2012 11:32 PM

Awkward
 
Hi. I am interested in finding a friendship that could possible lead to a relationship. I am shy and not very experience in relationships. I am looking but am worried that I am not giving out the correct signals.

CielDuMatin 04-20-2012 12:01 AM

Why do you feel you are giving out the wrong signals? What signals do you want to give out?

I like your approach of doing the friendship first thing - so many people try to skip that part - friendships have been the foundations of the best relationships I have had!

servio 04-20-2012 06:03 AM

Seems like you are headed in the right direction by putting yourself out there... you'll find someone in due time. *clears throat* Hi, there! :D

Interested32 04-28-2012 06:31 PM

Awkward
 
Basically the transition signals such as Interested to Friendship, Friendship to Relationship, Relationship to Long Term

nycindie 04-28-2012 08:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Interested32 (Post 134254)
Basically the transition signals such as Interested to Friendship, Friendship to Relationship, Relationship to Long Term

Well, instead of giving signals that need to be interpreted, you can actually communicate directly and clearly what you want.

Examples:
"I like hanging out with you!"
"I think we can be friends."
"You're fun to be with."
"I like you."
"I'd like to get together with you sometime and do ___."
"You're my best friend."

"I want to get to know you better."
"Your friendship means a lot to me."
"I'm attracted to you."
"I'd like to see if we can have more than a friendship."
"I think we really work well together."

"I'm interested in seeing you long-term."
"You mean a lot to me."
"I feel like I can commit to this."
"I love you."

CielDuMatin 04-30-2012 07:37 PM

Yup, I'm with nycindie - trying to hide messages means that they can be misinterpreted, and the secret to good relationships is good, clear communication, so why not start that off right form the beginning?


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