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polyq4 03-25-2012 03:14 PM

Combining
 
I am involved in a fourple and i am going to bring up the idea of the four of us living together. Has anyone else had experience doing this?

KyleKat 03-25-2012 03:34 PM

I haven't but if you are all comfortable with each other and you are all responsible it shouldn't be a problem. Just make sure you discuss the logistics like bills and chores and groceries. Nothing ruins a relationship faster than money and maintenance.

JaneQSmythe 03-25-2012 06:44 PM

Coahbitation
 
Dude was already sort of living with us when we got together so I don't know that I have much advice to offer.

I remember the big multi-partner cohabitation thread had a lot of good points though:
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2349

Good Luck!

JaneQ

AnnabelMore 03-25-2012 08:57 PM

How long have you all been involved? That would be the biggest question for me, whether all the dynamics are worked out yet. It can be hard enough to get along with roommates, better not add any tensions into the mix!

polyq4 03-26-2012 10:57 AM

It will be almost 4 years now, we have gone through a bunch of ups and downs but now we spend most evenings and weekends together. We slept over there again this weekend.

Jericka 03-26-2012 07:03 PM

If you do it, make sure that everyone has some spot for privacy that is their own, if you can.

Depending on how comfy everyone is with a lack of privacy, maybe it won't be a problem? For me, though, I'd go nuts without a door to close between me and EVERYONE at least once in a while.

RfromRMC 03-28-2012 01:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jericka (Post 130379)
If you do it, make sure that everyone has some spot for privacy that is their own, if you can.

Yeah, after you tackle the obvious questions of does everyone get along and all that jazz, the biggie that most people overlook is SPACE.

In my last relationship, we had three guys (plus some pets) in a modest three-bedroom, 1.5 bath ranch house and we about killed each other. I cannot even fathom four. :eek:

If you got a really big house, that'll help immensely.

Another option is, both halves of a duplex. Actually, that would be pretty cool.

redpepper 03-29-2012 05:37 AM

There are some great threads here on "living together" "moving in" etc. if you look in the tag section. I agree that privacy and ones own space is very important. It has been in our situation of three adults living together in a MFM vee. We went through a long period of time where we mulled over every detail at great length. I am so glad we did, because when we actually moved in together it wasn't as big a deal. You can read about it on my blog around the summer of 2010.


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