Hi, I have been a serial lurker for a few months now, this website has helped me immensely so thank you to all who post.
I am in a long term relationship (coming up to 5 yrs this yr) with a man (i'll call him the Crow). My journey started in November last yr when I was researching into Paganism and found the word polyamory. When I learnt what that was I could not believe that people actually live it! I felt like it made so much sense & it sounded great! I understood that this is what I have felt all my life. With my current partner I had resigned myself to the fact that I was very happy with him & would not be looking for anyone else, ever again. But I always have crushes & always wanted to experience more love. Also, as I am in my 20's, I felt like I needed to experience more (after only having one other boyfriend).
I worked up the courage to tell my partner that I thought I was poly and what did he think. Even though I love him & know he is very open minded I was very nervous as I did not know what his reply would be. He was surprised and seemed quite happy about the possibility. After a few weeks his opinion of poly went up and down as he tried to figure it out in his head and I tried not to rush him. To me, there is no doubt in my head that I am capable of loving more than one even though I've only had crushes. He was not sure if he could.
Anyway, after a few more months of discussions he has agreed to open our relationship & take it slowly. He can see now that he too may have been poly all along. :)
One of my main worries is how to appraoach someone who does not know what poly is who I would like to date! :confused:
Will keep you all posted on how it all happens.
Welcome!!! Take it slow and hope you discover what you are looking for!
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