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Kraven 03-02-2012 07:03 AM

age old question
Maybe you're tired of hearing it, frustrated with answering it so consider it an update...maybe someone found a secret place lol

Where does one go to to find love in the lifestyle, how does one go about finding someone to share this wonderful experience with when you're single? Opening a relationship is one thing but you're single and you want nothing to do with monogamy, you want to hit the gate running and loving on a multi-person level...what do you do?

Any advise...

Jericka 03-02-2012 07:32 AM

I use OKCupid. There are a fair number of poly folk with profiles there. It is easier to weed out the people who are really not polyamorous than meeting people in a bar or elsewhere.

Cloud 03-02-2012 12:22 PM

I know its not easy being single in this lifestyle. I was there. . . But it is not impossible to find someone/couple even if you are a single. To what other mono single does, except, you have to let them know you are poly. Sooner the better.

Wish you the best. :)

drtalon 03-02-2012 12:41 PM

Find a local group and be social: http://www.polymatchmaker.com/main.m...DULE=POLYGROUP

nycindie 03-02-2012 04:14 PM

Many threads here on this subject, with good info. Do a Tag Search for: "dating" , "meeting people"

RfromRMC 03-02-2012 05:42 PM

Local poly groups and poly meetups is the first step I'd try. Get out there and meet people! :cool:
Worldwide list at polygroups.com

Online dating is the next step. Polymatchmaker is the only real poly-oriented site, and then you got okcupid is not poly but poly-friendly. Try both.

strixish 03-04-2012 04:04 AM

First, make friends with poly people. Meet-ups, munches, etc., are a great resource. Go to them first with the intention of developing a network of like-minded friends (not for finding partners). Make friends, and meet their friends.

Second, now that you know a lot of poly people, start looking for people to date.

My long term relationships all started out as long term friends.

enduser76 03-04-2012 09:10 PM

Although I am new to the idea of poly/open, I have found that other people alike that I have met have always been honest and open from our first meeting about being open/poly - that is something I have and will be applying when and if I find someone of interest. :)

feelyunicorn 03-04-2012 11:01 PM

I`m in the same spot between a rock and a hard place. I am trying to meet people both in non-monogamous groups, and LGBT clubs.

I might as well fag it out. j/k ;)

nycindie 03-05-2012 05:07 AM

Don't limit yourself to dating only people who label themselves poly or belong to poly groups, etc. In most places, that would be a very small community. There are plenty of "civilians" who are open to non-exclusivity and have never heard the word "polyamory" before. Just be honest whenever you approach someone.

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