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anadventurouspair 01-20-2012 02:25 PM

Sex toys!
 
I'm interested to know what people play with. We're a couple who like dipping in and out of poly relationships, however, sadly most girls are only looking for the one off :confused:

Anywho, we're meeting with another girl soon and we were thinking of investing in a new toy. We've got the rampant rabbit, hand cuffs, beads (a couple of sets!), a few naughty outfits and dirty talk that we save for only the most depraved of encounters :-P

We're not into bondage so we were thinking that a strap-on might be fun and then I found a vibrating one that I could use on her and see what it feels like to be him for a bit (albeit, a vibrating him!) and make have a little DP fun with her also.

Does anyone have any suggestions for what's good out there? Particularly in the strap-on department? And any other suggestions for toys where three can have fun is also welcome!

km34 01-21-2012 04:49 AM

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Originally Posted by anadventurouspair (Post 121308)
We're a couple who like dipping in and out of poly relationships, however, sadly most girls are only looking for the one off :confused:

Anywho, we're meeting with another girl soon and we were thinking of investing in a new toy.

I feel like these two statements are kind of at odds with one another... If you're looking for a deeper relationship, why focus entirely on the sex from the get-go? Not that I'm opposed to purely sexual liaisons at all, it is just at odds with your first statement.

As for toys... I am a huge fan of double ended dildos... Enjoyable for both women simultaneously, although MUCH more intense for whoever is on the bottom.

nycindie 01-21-2012 05:04 AM

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Originally Posted by anadventurouspair (Post 121308)
Does anyone have any suggestions for what's good out there? Particularly in the strap-on department?

Babeland has pages devoted to all the toys they sell, where customers add their own reviews. Sorry I can't post the link here, but you can use google to find their site.

Now, I am curious about this comment:
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Originally Posted by anadventurouspair (Post 121308)
We're a couple who like dipping in and out of poly relationships, however, sadly most girls are only looking for the one off

Hmm, what do you mean by "dipping in and out?" How does one dip in and out of poly relationships? It sounds like using people, which goes against what poly is about. Maybe that's why you don't meet women who want to stick around -- if you're not really into a relationship for long term, why would anyone else you meet go for that with you?

Unless I'm misunderstanding what you mean... :confused:

SchrodingersCat 01-21-2012 07:30 AM

I don't understand what this has to do with polyamory. Nothing in your post says the slightest thing about romantic relationships, sounds like it's all about sex.

Now don't get me wrong, sex is great, I'm just confused and wondering if this forum is what you think it is. More and exciting toys isn't going to help build romantic relationships if you aren't laying a strong foundation first.

I would check out fetlife for discussions with people who play casually with different toys. This forum is more about ongoing romantic relationships.

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Do you have a good dildo that stimulates the g-spot? As well as a "safe feeling place" to use it, i.e. one where a woman can squirt all over without feeling like she's going to ruin the bed?

My other question is: why aren't you asking her what kind of toys she wants to play with, and take it from there? I can offer all kinds of ideas, but without knowing the other people involved and what they're into, it's impossible to predict what will be fun or dud. Bring out the wrong toy with the wrong person at the wrong time and playtime is over.

opalescent 01-21-2012 03:23 PM

Original posters, I hope you continue to ask questions like this here. This forum is mostly about love relationships. Now you two may or may not define yourselves as poly as the forum generally does - multiple love relationships (or possibility of such) where all involved know and consent.

There are lots of questions about relationship issues here - all good. And poly for most is not solely about sex. But I have enjoyed and learned a lot from the discussions that were more focused on sexual topics like size, birth control, what is 'normal' physical reactions, female sexualities, male sexualities, techniques, sexual identities and so on. These aren't poly but they are part of our lives and I want to talk and listen about them and learn more.

I would like to know what toys or scenarios have worked for people in threesomes or triads or V's or whatever configuration. Not every poly person wants or has had group sex but some have. And I want to benefit from others knowledge. We give advice for couples looking for unicorns all the time. Why not offer suggestions from our experiences on ideas in how to satisfy said unicorn?

opalescent 01-21-2012 03:32 PM

That said, I am very fond of blowfish - they are an erotic toys, video, and anything else one can imagine. They are very kink, trans, queer friendly too - some sex stores in my opinion are very heavily het orientated.

Also I would agree with SC above. Ask potential playmates what they like and want. You never know what's in their toy chest!


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