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IsntLifeFun 12-01-2011 04:58 PM

anonymity in posts
I understand anonymity and all, but reading threads where people are given arbitrary letters instead of fictitious names makes it difficult for me to follow along. Anyone else have this difficulty?

I.e. I'm seeing A who is married to B who is also dating C. And I'm married to D. If I start to go into details, then, to me, it starts looking like an algebra problem.

I humbly suggest that anyone thinking about doing this, at least consider using simple pseudonyms to help prevent confusion, and identify gender. Harry, Sally, Dick, and Jane for example.

Thanks :)

PS I like algebra, too.

opalescent 12-01-2011 05:37 PM

I agree, IsntLifeFun, that letters instead of pseudonyms makes it harder for me to follow what is going on. It would be nice if people made up nicknames. That's one of the really fun things about this forum - you get to make up cool nicknames for the people in your life!

So, while I wouldn't want to require it, it would be lovely to have more nicknames than letter designations.

I hated algebra. Geometry was ok.

nycindie 12-01-2011 06:06 PM

A little fun I have with my dating is that stage of a relationship when I feel we actually have something that's going to continue in my life -- that's when I give him an alias for this forum! Oh, and I put a lot of thought into it, too, so that it reflects his personality.

Magdlyn 12-01-2011 06:16 PM

Gosh it took me 18 months here to even come up with a pseudonym for my primary.

Now Ive got 2 new guys whose names both start with J. J1 and J2. I have no idea what to call them! Smoochy and Hottie? lol

Somegeezer 12-01-2011 06:50 PM

Took me a while to really get into the nickname thing at all. I like calling people by their actual names. But for the sake of anonymity, you're almost forced to. =P Thankfully, most people I know have some sort of name they go by on the internet. My own being "Somegeezer". I also use "Solid Conscience ~ Liquid Mind", or shortened to just one or the other. Almost trademarks of who I am. I think it's great when a name can show your personality. =]

AnnabelMore 12-01-2011 08:47 PM

I've had fun picking fake names for the people in my life. Some of them I chose without thinking much about it, some have more meaning. Using pseudonyms that could be real names ("Jake" versus "Huggybear") works really well for me.

aishah 12-01-2011 10:29 PM

i'm not really anonymous. but i agree, letters make me feel like it's an algebra problem! and they make it really difficult to follow long posts.

Phy 12-10-2011 04:18 PM

So true ... especially if it's the hundredth post with a person abbreviated with 'J' in it ... -.-' I am not that creative when it comes to this, but even I came up with some nicknames:D I find it really hard to follow when to many first letter abbreviations are involved.

BrigidsDaughter 12-10-2011 04:50 PM

My loves get nicknames, but people who are just friends who happen to know don't. If I'm only going to talk about them once or twice ever, it's just not worth it to me to come up with a nickname for them.

junco 12-26-2011 12:13 PM

Hmm. anonymity. seems like the need for it might be less than it usually is on the net. suppose i tell you my real name is george. how is anyone going to trace me from that, or stalk me or whatever? do you know how many georges there are in the world? i think the number of programmers who could hack my member file are few, and once there, they can't find a street address that isn't typed in.

am i being like duh, everybody knows that?

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