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Sweetheart 12-09-2009 09:49 AM

After discovering that some of us seem to have a background in stripping (or related work), I was wondering exactly how many of us have been involved in the business?

One hand raised here (my wife, not me). :rolleyes:

Ceoli 12-09-2009 05:11 PM

I've performed burlesque before, but not stripping. My body type wouldn't be in a heck of a lot of demand in a strip club, though it seems burlesque is a bit more forgiving when it comes to that. :) I'd love to get back into burlesque when I get back to London.

nikkiana 12-09-2009 05:15 PM

Not I, though I've got a pretty strong interest in burlequse as well... I took some classes before I left NH, haven't taken any in NY yet because I can't afford the extra expense right now even though they're cheap... but I tend to follow the burlesque circuit around here, and have contemplated getting into it.

There's always seemed to me to be some subtle differences in philosophy between stripping and burlesque despite the fact that the two are pretty similiar...

Legion 12-09-2009 05:59 PM

I've done a couple strip teases for private parties but not as a professional. Though I did get paid to strip for a passion party :)

ArtemisHunts 12-09-2009 08:25 PM

never stripped myself, but have worked as a bartender/day manager in a strip club.

as comfortable as i am with my own nudity and sexuality, i dont think i could strip. something about having to be sexy on purpose doesn't make me comfortable. just like you could be a naturally funny person, but wouldn't want someone to shove you up on stage and say "make me laugh".

Legion 12-10-2009 05:57 AM

That reminds me of this g/f I had. She was pretty sexy, just naturally. But then she would put on this "trying to be sexy" sort of look/act where she would attempt to have a "smoldering" look and it was just... idk, cheesy and funny and totally NOT sexy at all. lol I never told her that but I always found her more attractive just being natural.

I think there is a difference when you are stripping as well. If you just have fun and enjoy yourself it's way different than if you are thinking hard about how you look and trying to do the sexiest things you can.

This is actually a metaphor/microcosm for life... try too hard and you lose the essence of just *being*

Ceoli 12-10-2009 11:12 AM

Indeed. One thing I love about burlesque is that while it can be very sexy and sensual, you never lose the sense of fun around it. Rarely do you see the smoldering blue ice look. It's also fun because you do take on a character and a persona when performing and that character takes on a bit more weight to your performance. And you never really lose the sense that you're looking at a performance about sexuality.

vampiresscammy 12-10-2009 04:40 PM

met my ex W, who started working at a strip club, met his co worker J (whom later became my hubby), he stopped working there for a bit, then fell on hard times and went back, but with me in toe, worked as a waitress at first, then got talked/coerced into going up on stage one night, under other circumstances it may have turned out differently, as it was turned into a horrible evening and something i don't remember fondly but my ex was an abusive jerk so all things surrounding my time with him are sullied by that really

long winded bit here, but helps explain why i was curious and thought i might enjoy stripping, but it went very poorly instead, while with the ex I started discovering differnet aspects of sex like BDSM and other kinks I was finding I really liked but with the negative aspects of the abuse, verbal, physical and emotional, it was hard to show any interest in new things when one moment he would praise an idea i had and the next he'd chastise me for having it, you can see why i finally stopped sharing my thoughts

luckily we broke up and i moved on to find J again we got together and fell in love and got married, yeah happy ending! heheh

AutumnalTone 12-10-2009 05:35 PM


Originally Posted by Sweetheart (Post 14892)
After discovering that some of us seem to have a background in stripping (or related work), I was wondering exactly how many of us have been involved in the business?

One hand raised here (my wife, not me). :rolleyes:

Aside from one night many years (and many pounds) ago, I can't say as I've done much stripping.

I did manage an adult/lingerie shop for a while and had many strippers for regular customers. I was probably the only man in the area to walk into the strip clubs and pay attention to what the dancers were wearing. I kept track of shoes, bikinis, lingerie, body glitter--you name it. If I hadn't sold them what they were wearing, I made it a point to chat with them to find out what it'd take to get them in my store so I could sell them what they wore to work.

And my regular customers would come running to chat with me when I showed up. The other men in the bar must have wondered what my Sekrit Power of Attraction was....

rosephase 12-10-2009 10:49 PM

I stripped when I was 18 for a few months. Of the poly people I know it is more likely to be in sex work (sexual healing, erotic message, pro doms, porn, porn producers) but I really know one other dancer. Lots of people who do burlesque though.

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