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Sweetheart 12-02-2009 10:29 AM

Who's feeling the effects of the economy?
They may not be calling it a depression, but man it sure comes close. Anyone else taking a hit?

Erosa 12-03-2009 12:05 AM

I can't say that I personally have felt too much of it. But I do see it's effect all around me. :(

crisare 12-03-2009 12:40 AM

Definitely. My day job is secure, but my side biz is completely stagnant - it's a luxury service anyway, so there's just not a market right now.

greenearthal 12-03-2009 02:21 AM

It landed on me pretty hard. I make less than half what I was making a little over a year ago.

foxflame88 12-03-2009 07:37 PM

I've been looking for work almost a year now. :(

Fidelia 12-04-2009 10:20 PM

I was one of the first people in my area to lose my job. Spring 2008. Had a steady job one morning, and by mid-afternoon the entire office was shut down. Ouch.

It was pretty traumatic at the time, but it's turned out to be a blessing, in many ways.

When I came home from work early that day, my Fidelio was an absolute mensch about it all. Kind, loving, and supportive in every way that counts. After some of the initial shock wore off, we sat down and took a hard look at our finances, and came to the conclusion that if we were careful with our resources, I didn't need to rush out and grab the first job I could find.

Iím still not working, at least not for a paycheck. And as the economy continues to soften, Fidelio's pension goes farther and farther. (He's retired military.) What we used to refer to as his "fixed income" we now think of as his "steady paycheck." We donít spend what we used to, but we donít do without anything we need, either. And because weíre smart with our money, weíve been able to help some of our family and friends over some of the rough spots, too.

We spend our time differently now, because we have more time to spend. I live a little slower now, and breathe a little deeper. My sweetie and I take a walk together every evening now. Backyard BBQ and birdwatching has replaced dinner and a movie. Because we enjoy good wine, Fidelio has learned to make it. He took it up initially with an eye to saving money, but heís made a hobby of it and thoroughly enjoys it. Iíve expanded my garden, which Iíve wanted to do for years but havenít had the time. When there's an excess, I take it to the local food bank, sometimes the farmers' market.

The main thing Iíve learned in all this has been to quit looking out at the world to see if we have enough. Once I started looking at what's right here, turns out that we have plenty.

LovingRadiance 12-05-2009 02:17 AM

It's definately tighter here. So far hubby isn't out of work which is good. BF was for a few months but a friend of a friend of a friend managed to help him get a good lead and back to work.

But utility costs have been driven up significantly as have costs for all grocery items due to shipping and that means that the money we do have isn't going as far anyway.

In addition to that is the number of people we care about who can't take care of themselves or keep their jobs that we are trying to help out and that has become a NIGHTMARE job in and of itself.

So yes-definately affected. :(

Sweetheart 12-05-2009 10:21 AM

Fidelia, that is great that you took a negative situation and turned it positive. Very cool. We're still trying to figure out how to do that... :p

greenearthal 12-05-2009 01:59 PM

Here in the frigid climes of Buffalo. NY we are preparing to do winter with no gas service. I had an electric hot water heater installed last month so we finally have hot water again, but the only cooking and heating we can do is what we can do with electric.

The gas bill used to be a full 40% of the monthly household costs anyway. Gid riddance to it.

Ceoli 12-05-2009 02:08 PM

I had to move to Florida from the UK last March around the height of the recession. I've spent a good amount of that time unemployed. When I have found work it has been low hourly wage work. Even the job I got being a lead teacher at a private school for autism only payed $11.50 an hour for 32 hours a week. All the other work has been temporary seasonal theme park work that pays even less.

Despite being a certified teacher in music and special needs, there simply haven't been the jobs to apply for. Even the staffing agencies don't have openings for new people because their books are full with all the other teachers who lost their jobs. Also there are practically no theatre jobs here, just theme park corporate jobs and they are all taken up. For the next year, I'll be more likely focusing on finding the steady income of a teaching job rather than finding theatre work. Though I have a job waiting for me back in London.

So this year, my income is about a sixth of what I earned last year. Fortunately, I started a retirement savings when I first started teaching. I have to cash that retirement in now in order to pay my overdue UK bills, and it means I lose a good percentage of it, but it is still better than the alternative I face, which is bankruptcy.

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