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BlackUnicorn 08-17-2011 12:26 PM

How did you meet your most recent partner?
 
Just wanted to a test theory AND the poll feature of the forums.

I recently read that an overwhelming majority of couples have met each other at work, online or in a bar/club. I was surprised because I thought the most common way to meet someone would be through existing friends and connections.

Anyhoo, maybe this could help someone who is wondering how to meet other polys in what are the most common places where they may be found.

(Don't worry about the headline, I posted this while I didn't know that you could have a multiple-choice polls. Also, I don't know how to search the forums for polls only, so don't know if there's already been one like this :().

Inyourendo 08-18-2011 01:38 AM

We are in a quad. I met male DP on PMM and DH met female DP about the same time on okcupid. I really liked male DP so i added him to facebook and we were friends online for over a year before we actually met. female DP did some editing work for DH. kind of funny how we all came together.

Inyourendo 08-18-2011 01:43 AM

oh i even met DH on myspace almost 3 years ago.

Teiksma 08-18-2011 09:18 AM

I met my boyfriend, who is only at the time, in a ecoteric event in my best friends house. I was then with one woman who is jelous and she did't let me to be poly, and then we brake up, and now I am with this man, but we are still only two :(

Allstar 08-18-2011 10:38 AM

I met my girl while dancing locally.

nycindie 08-18-2011 06:34 PM

I met my current lover at a bar but I didn't check off "night life" because it was at lunchtime and we were both there to eat. So it wasn't the typically expected bar pick-up. I chose "somewhere else" for him, because I was thinking of it as a restaurant.

Past lovers: I met Burnsy & Dreamy online (OKC), Shorty through a mutual friend who introduced us, and my husband at the post office.

I have, in my life, dated people I met at the laundromat, in the subway, on an interstate bus, and even while window-shopping on the street -- I strike up conversations with strangers in public places very easily! I've also been involved with neighbors and lots of guys I worked with or for (yes, a few of my bosses). So, for me, there's no set pattern. But I was thinking yesterday how I've never seen any possibilities at school.

PS - In my post-marriage life, I don't think of anyone as partners. I think of them as lovers. My ex-hub was my partner, and I don't know if I want another.

SourGirl 08-18-2011 09:06 PM

The wording doesn`t quite apply to me, but I`ll try to be clear in the interest of polls ! :)
I only have one 'partner', my husband, and I met him via online 11 years ago.
Of the two people I currently 'date' , one I met online 2 yrs ago, and the other I know from high school.

AnnabelMore 08-18-2011 09:11 PM

I met Gia and Eric at college, and met Davis at a gaming convention when we were teens (neeeerds).

BlackUnicorn 08-19-2011 03:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nycindie (Post 97986)
PS - In my post-marriage life, I don't think of anyone as partners. I think of them as lovers. My ex-hub was my partner, and I don't know if I want another.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SourGirl (Post 98014)
I only have one 'partner', my husband, and I met him via online 11 years ago.
Of the two people I currently 'date' , one I met online 2 yrs ago, and the other I know from high school.

Hmm, I thought partner was a nice, neutral term that meant "someone I am/have been sexual with", and then "life-partner" would carry the meaning of someone you actually are in cahoots with.

So much for assumptions *sigh*.

SourGirl 08-19-2011 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn (Post 98169)
Hmm, I thought partner was a nice, neutral term that meant "someone I am/have been sexual with", and then "life-partner" would carry the meaning of someone you actually are in cahoots with.

So much for assumptions *sigh*.

Nobody was complaining. I wanted to be clear from my end, as I am technically not doing the poly-thing anymore.

So you meant 'sexual partners'... is what you are saying now ?
I thought partner meant someone you had a intimate relationship with, or share a common goal.
If I am only in a early 'dating' stage, and haven`t fucked a one of them, no, I don`t consider them my partners.


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