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AnnabelMore 08-13-2011 03:02 AM

different drives with different loves
Do you find that you have different urges with different partners, sexual or otherwise? Personally, I sometimes feel very submissive and service-oriented with my gf, whereas I'm comfortable with letting my relationship with my bf be much more egalitarian. Her, I want to fetch her things and make her dinner and kiss her feet. Him I just wanna veg out on the couch together, split some takeout and watch something.

So, I'm curious -- do you find yourself falling into the same roles with different partners, or do you relate to different people very differently?

redpepper 08-13-2011 07:35 AM

I relate to each the same now really. The differences were more noticeable when we all first started out. Now they are much more subtle and I enjoy the similarities as well as those subtleties.

Nacirema 08-13-2011 04:49 PM

The way I act between people seems to more depend just on who each person is, and how I interact with them as friends. So sometimes I'm more egalitarian in general, and other times more submissive or dominant with some people.

opalescent 08-13-2011 05:30 PM

Yes, I find myself relating differently sexually with my partners. I'm more dominant with Beloved, switch with SW and submissive with Oil Man. I respond to their very different energies.

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