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Jtron 08-01-2011 01:26 AM

New Poly-curios guy here with a question..
 
Hello to all. I was wondering about several dynamics associated with the poly lifestyle. 1) Since I'm new to the poly lifesytle how do you meet other poly people in a safe environment? 2) If/when I meet someone how long should I wait before confiding my new found poly status? Any advice would be welcome. Thanks for listening!!

Magdlyn 08-01-2011 01:48 AM

Some people find partners on OK Cupid, a dating site. Others go to poly meetups/munches. Sometimes you just might meet someone randomly who is open to the idea...

It's best to tell a potential partner that you are poly asap.

Jtron 08-01-2011 02:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Magdlyn (Post 94871)
Some people find partners on OK Cupid, a dating site. Others go to poly meetups/munches. Sometimes you just might meet someone randomly who is open to the idea...

It's best to tell a potential partner that you are poly asap.

I figured honesty is the best policy in any new relationship. I hope there is a way to say you are poly without sounding like you are totally strange to any new or potential partners. It sounds like I need to hang around with people who already practice poly. I feel like there is all kinds of new etiquette I need to learn. I've been reading everything I can get my hands on but I'm sure experience will be the best teacher.

Magdlyn 08-01-2011 02:09 AM

On OK Cupid you can say you're polyamorous and highlight it so people can search you for that term, and vice versa.

Check the thread here, "online dating, what's your thing?"

Jtron 08-01-2011 02:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Magdlyn (Post 94876)
On OK Cupid you can say you're polyamorous and highlight it so people can search you for that term, and vice versa.

Check the thread here, "online dating, what's your thing?"

Thanks!

nycindie 08-02-2011 12:35 AM

I generally find it too confusing to use the word "polyamorous." Most folks either have no idea what that is or they think it's swinging. I tell people I am not interested in exclusivity. They usually get what that means, and it's easier to discuss it further. I don't look only for polyfolk nor just within my local poly community, either. Lots of people are open to it even if they've never heard the word before.

This has been discussed in numerous threads before. Do a search, maybe look for the tag "dating."

Jtron 08-02-2011 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by nycindie (Post 95139)
I generally find it too confusing to use the word "polyamorous." Most folks either have no idea what that is or they think it's swinging. I tell people I am not interested in exclusivity. They usually get what that means, and it's easier to discuss it further. I don't look only for polyfolk nor just within my local poly community, either. Lots of people are open to it even if they've never heard the word before.

This has been discussed in numerous threads before. Do a search, maybe look for the tag "dating."

I agree that the term exclusivity is more easily understood. Thanks for the info!

redpepper 08-02-2011 06:11 AM

try doing a tag search here for "dating"... others have been there before and have written about it here.

Magdlyn 08-02-2011 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by nycindie (Post 95139)
This has been discussed in numerous threads before. Do a search, maybe look for the tag "dating."

Quote:

Originally Posted by redpepper (Post 95207)
try doing a tag search here for "dating"... others have been there before and have written about it here.

Echo, echo....

NeonKaos 08-02-2011 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Magdlyn (Post 95298)

Quote:

Originally Posted by nycindie (Post 95139)
This has been discussed in numerous threads before. Do a search, maybe look for the tag "dating."

Quote:

Originally Posted by redpepper (Post 95207)
try doing a tag search here for "dating"... others have been there before and have written about it here.

Echo, echo....Echo, echo....

Mean girls!


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