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Alan7388 10-26-2009 02:42 PM

Coming-Out Stories Wanted
 
Do you have a story to tell about coming out as poly to family, friends, the world?

Bitsy (of the Polyamory Leadership Network) is collecting them for her coming-out project and its soon-to-begin website, OpenlyPoly.net:

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"In a world that strongly privileges monogamy, choosing to live as openly polyamorous requires the courage to face constant curiosity and criticism from friends, family, and strangers alike. As we conduct our lives, we know we are not living openly unless we have taken harrowing step of coming out. This site collects stories of people who have taken that step...."
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You can write her at stories (AT) openlypoly (DOT) net.

Alan M.

greenearthal 10-27-2009 01:48 AM

Awww. The only kind of polyamorous I've ever been is openly polyamorous.

I feel CHEATED! :mad:

redpepper 10-27-2009 07:09 AM

there are stories already on here... do you want links to them?

Sweetheart 11-29-2009 09:05 AM

We used to be very furtive about our poly relationship, and hid it from our parents. If someone was coming over, we'd "parent-proof", hiding anything that might incriminate us, like the latest issue of "Loving More" magazine.

One day, after an outing, my Dad dropped us off at our house, and came inside for a minute to use the bathroom. When he came out, he was holding one of my wife's lesbian magazines in his hand, and said, "Uh... I was wondering..."

Oh well! The cat was out of the bag (or the lesbian was out of the closet!), so we told him. His first response was to be completely baffled. Nothing negative, just confusion. After that, we went ahead and told my Mom. She was a former hippie anyway, and was very supportive. We should have told her from the start. She encouraged us not to get married, but just to live together. We didn't listen to her, and got married anyway. Sometimes when we're dating people, we look back and think she was probably right!

It was very liberating to be "out" with my parents.

Poly seems to run in the family. My sister is in a long-term FMF marriage, and my wife's 1st husband is also in a long-term FMF marriage, with kids from both women. My sister and I were raised in a very healthy sex-positive environment. My Mom just had live-in boyfriends until she died - such a hippie!

The kids don't exactly know the whole story, but then most of them are still quite young. When we've had partners who lived with us, the kids didn't question any of it - it was just the family. We homeschool, so they know that in many cultures people have more than one spouse. We have many gay/lesbian friends, so the kids know that a man can have a male spouse, and a woman can have a female spouse. We also have a gay couple who are "uncles" to the kids. At least 3 of our kids have shown signs of being straight and at least 2 seem to be mono (one is married), but we are still supportive of their lifestyle choices. :p

Erosa 11-29-2009 08:59 PM

I'm eagerly lapping these stories up as I find them. LOL. It's fascinating to learn about the experiances of others.


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