naturalblue
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I've been feeling pretty confused about my relationships lately and I've found counseling to be helpful in the past. I know that not all therapists/counselors are familiar/accepting of a poly lifestyle though so I wondered how you go about finding one that is.
I have been feeling less and less connected to my husband in the past 6-8 months or so and am beginning to wonder if getting married was a mistake since I have felt like this before in our relationship but always just decided to make it work (also, he is a very hard person to break up with). Adding to this is some very intense NRE with a new boyfriend (I have only been with him 3 months though, so he is not completely to blame for this, but it has thrown my feelings about my marriage into sharp relief). I am trying to keep a level head and be cognizant that NRE is heady stuff and no decisions should happen while in it's thrall, but as I mentioned, this was starting to happen before the NRE was an issue. I'm caught between wondering if marriage was the right thing to do and feeling that I already made that commitment so I need to keep it.
There are a lot of details here, of course, and I'm happy to discuss further if people think they may have advice or have been in a similar situation, but in the meantime if anyone has any experience in finding a poly friendly therapist, I would greatly appreciate any tips.
I have been feeling less and less connected to my husband in the past 6-8 months or so and am beginning to wonder if getting married was a mistake since I have felt like this before in our relationship but always just decided to make it work (also, he is a very hard person to break up with). Adding to this is some very intense NRE with a new boyfriend (I have only been with him 3 months though, so he is not completely to blame for this, but it has thrown my feelings about my marriage into sharp relief). I am trying to keep a level head and be cognizant that NRE is heady stuff and no decisions should happen while in it's thrall, but as I mentioned, this was starting to happen before the NRE was an issue. I'm caught between wondering if marriage was the right thing to do and feeling that I already made that commitment so I need to keep it.
There are a lot of details here, of course, and I'm happy to discuss further if people think they may have advice or have been in a similar situation, but in the meantime if anyone has any experience in finding a poly friendly therapist, I would greatly appreciate any tips.
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