nooneparticular
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A few years ago (before my wife and I discovered poly) my wife and I had a falling out. She moved out and started sleeping with another man, all the while telling me that she was not doing anything with anyone else and that I had nothing to worry about. I was reassured that there was nobody else that she was seeing or even interested in. It wasn't just sex in the end, there was an emotional bond that she admitted to me later would have probably resulted in a significant relationship had I not been around.
Fast forward a few years... We open our relationship and each of us have recently begun seeing other people. We've both been very open in our communication and honest about actions, intents, and emotions with our new relationships. After her second date with a guy that I have to admit seems like a rather cool individual that I might even be friends with because of all this, she gives me a rundown of the evening. Some old feelings of betrayal and jealousy come back. I know they aren't related to the current situation, as I don't have any problem with what she's doing with him or how things are progressing (slightly faster than my minimum comfort level, just enough that I am able to have my comfort pushed and grow a little with each interaction).
Has anyone else had an experience like this? How do you get past feelings of jealousy that are unrelated to the current situation?
Fast forward a few years... We open our relationship and each of us have recently begun seeing other people. We've both been very open in our communication and honest about actions, intents, and emotions with our new relationships. After her second date with a guy that I have to admit seems like a rather cool individual that I might even be friends with because of all this, she gives me a rundown of the evening. Some old feelings of betrayal and jealousy come back. I know they aren't related to the current situation, as I don't have any problem with what she's doing with him or how things are progressing (slightly faster than my minimum comfort level, just enough that I am able to have my comfort pushed and grow a little with each interaction).
Has anyone else had an experience like this? How do you get past feelings of jealousy that are unrelated to the current situation?