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LookingforThird 08-02-2009 02:44 AM

Poly-Dating: How to meet like-minded people
As if it will not be hard enough for us to find a single female to join our relationship as an equal partner we are both adult performers (work in front of the camera in adult films).
Being new to the Poly lifestyle (or what we call the Poly mentality) we wanted to reach out and see if our type of work will be a huge disadvantage in finding that special girl or maybe seen as an open expression of our physical freedom?

vandalin 08-02-2009 02:46 AM

Welcome to the forums.

Honestly, I think it would be as much of an advantage or disadvantage if you were monogomous and looking for a partnet. Meaning that it depends on the person you find. Just because a person is open to one type of lifestyle or life choice doesn't mean they are open to all.

Good luck finding your Unicorn.

LookingforThird 08-02-2009 02:52 AM

Thank you

AutumnalTone 08-02-2009 03:40 AM

I don't think it'll be a major hindrance. Most folks who are open to poly are likely open to all sorts of careers.

That said, the recent news reports of rampant HIV infection among porn actors will probably turn some away and make others very, very cautious. A rigorous testing schedule (which I think would be normal in your line of work) can lay to rest that sort of thing.

LookingforThird 08-02-2009 03:53 AM

I agree, but I think you all have a perspective I have yet to gain, so thank you for your response.
We are all tested every 30 days for HIV and several other STD's and as far as the HIV breakout AIM Healthcare (the main industry clinic) is suing over the false reports of multiple positive HIV cases, because in fact the most recent incident was a very isolated one involving one 42 year old performer who had only done a few scenes.
Sorry got off point....Umm, yes routine testing is good :)

foxflame88 08-02-2009 04:29 AM

Good luck in your search... the right person is out there for you. Welcome!

LookingforThird 08-02-2009 04:34 AM

Thank you fox, I see your in Georgia...we live part time near Jacksonville Florida and local Poly clubs?

LookingforThird 08-02-2009 04:35 AM

sorry fox, i meant... any local poly clubs/groups?

foxflame88 08-02-2009 05:09 AM

If there are any local groups, I haven't found them.

XYZ123 08-02-2009 02:09 PM

I was wondering if you performed with multiple partners or just the two of you, as this may make a difference to some people. For me, I don't know that I could handle multiple partner on-camera sex. However, a couple who performs as a couple wouldn't hinder me at all. (But I am married so not a unicorn. :) )

If you do have multiple partners, or know other women in the industry, you may have already met someone open to what you desire in your own line of work. If she is already alright with the sexual aspect (which I found the most difficult and am still trying to get over), and has the ability to be emotionally poly, she may be right under your *ehem* noses. ;)

I like to think there's someone(s) out there for everyone. So welcome, and happy hunting.

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