I hear what you are all saying, I do mostly agree with it and as a result haven't pursued the relationship. But there is a part of me that thinks along the lines of Schro's Cat re everyone being responsible for their own behaviour. There is the issue of judgement...i.e do we judge a potential partner on their behaviour with others before we decide whether we want to engage with them? I do believe that people are generally only as honest as others will allow them to be.
There is the issue of judgement...i.e do we judge a potential partner on their behaviour with others before we decide whether we want to engage with them? I do believe that people are generally only as honest as others will allow them to be.
i think there is a slight difference between judging someone and choosing not to participate in something. for example, i disagree with cheating and choose not to participate in it whether in my own relationship or as the partner of someone who is. i do not say "you are wrong!" i say, "i'm sorry, i can not participate in that."