Hello everyone,
I am very new here, but I'm hoping to find some insight on poly dynamics and others who are in similar shoes as myself.
I feel like this could be a novel, so I'll try to be brief.
I am currently in a great triad and I love my partners like crazy. They are married and I started dating my girlfriend initially... and then months later it just happened where we all started dating. Totally unexpected, but great nonetheless.
I'm struggling with a few things though, and I'm wondering how others have handled such feelings/situations. I struggle with the fact that I will never get married again. I have 4 kids, I am divorced, but I always envisioned myself marrying again. I don't know exactly why I'm hung up on this, but I feel like I am mourning the loss of a dream if that makes any sense at all. We are in a closed triad.
I also have a hard time being "the other". I don't even know what to say about this, except that I sometimes feel like it's me and them, where they are the base unit, and I'm "the other". They do nothing to make me feel this way, in fact, they do the opposite. They are fantastic and really work hard to make me feel like an equal part of the triad, but there are some things that just can't be helped. Of course the relationships would be different, they've been married for a long time! But even looking forward, I wonder how things will ultimately work out in terms of everyone feeling like a completely equal member of the relationship.
Then there's kiddies.... but I think I'll save that for another post, hahaha!
Thanks a lot, any insight is greatly appreciated.
I am very new here, but I'm hoping to find some insight on poly dynamics and others who are in similar shoes as myself.
I feel like this could be a novel, so I'll try to be brief.
I am currently in a great triad and I love my partners like crazy. They are married and I started dating my girlfriend initially... and then months later it just happened where we all started dating. Totally unexpected, but great nonetheless.
I'm struggling with a few things though, and I'm wondering how others have handled such feelings/situations. I struggle with the fact that I will never get married again. I have 4 kids, I am divorced, but I always envisioned myself marrying again. I don't know exactly why I'm hung up on this, but I feel like I am mourning the loss of a dream if that makes any sense at all. We are in a closed triad.
I also have a hard time being "the other". I don't even know what to say about this, except that I sometimes feel like it's me and them, where they are the base unit, and I'm "the other". They do nothing to make me feel this way, in fact, they do the opposite. They are fantastic and really work hard to make me feel like an equal part of the triad, but there are some things that just can't be helped. Of course the relationships would be different, they've been married for a long time! But even looking forward, I wonder how things will ultimately work out in terms of everyone feeling like a completely equal member of the relationship.
Then there's kiddies.... but I think I'll save that for another post, hahaha!
Thanks a lot, any insight is greatly appreciated.