-Husband and I have been together for almost four years, married last October, 2010.
-Girlfriend and I are best friends since school.
-We formed a triad in early April.
While I've had several jealousy moments, I've talked about them with both involved parties and have tried to work through them with success, but I've recently realized there's something else nagging at me.
It really bothers me when they have sex without my permission beforehand. This is the only thing I can really think of. For example, tonight:
She and he slept in the bed and I slept on the floor. I had trouble sleeping and heard them kissing and whispering, but didn't really hear anything else after that and fell asleep. I woke up two hours later to a soda can being opened up and her saying that she had finished.
And it bothered me. I really wish it didn't, and I'm still searching to maybe why, but the fact is I might not be ready for them to be having sex without my knowledge/permission. I want to get to that point, I really do. I think its worth working for.
I'm just not sure how. I feel like I'm whining if I bring it up, but I know its unhealthy, but I'm still inclined not to say anything. Or maybe I'm annoyed that I was woken up to have missed all the fun and have since been up because I can't go back to sleep because I'm annoyed and starving.
I hope this is enough information, and thanks for anyone who can give me advice. I'd appreciate it.
-Girlfriend and I are best friends since school.
-We formed a triad in early April.
While I've had several jealousy moments, I've talked about them with both involved parties and have tried to work through them with success, but I've recently realized there's something else nagging at me.
It really bothers me when they have sex without my permission beforehand. This is the only thing I can really think of. For example, tonight:
She and he slept in the bed and I slept on the floor. I had trouble sleeping and heard them kissing and whispering, but didn't really hear anything else after that and fell asleep. I woke up two hours later to a soda can being opened up and her saying that she had finished.
And it bothered me. I really wish it didn't, and I'm still searching to maybe why, but the fact is I might not be ready for them to be having sex without my knowledge/permission. I want to get to that point, I really do. I think its worth working for.
I'm just not sure how. I feel like I'm whining if I bring it up, but I know its unhealthy, but I'm still inclined not to say anything. Or maybe I'm annoyed that I was woken up to have missed all the fun and have since been up because I can't go back to sleep because I'm annoyed and starving.
I hope this is enough information, and thanks for anyone who can give me advice. I'd appreciate it.