onewayward
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My hubby and I (55/48) have had a wonderful marriage. Till about 10 years ago we were into the swinging lifestyle. For him, I was centric (he’d have been quite happy remaining monogamous). When we had another woman/women playing with us, it was invariably when other men were around.
Our swinging more or less ended when I fell in love with a guy who had moved into our neighbourhood. He was married and cheating. I was not cheating. Anyway, to cut a long story short, though both hubby and I were burdened with this huge guilt that my lover was cheating on his wife, this intense relationship carried on for a long time. When it ended, all three of us were shattered (hubby and my lover got along hugely).
I have a stepson from my hubby’s earlier marriage. He’s 26. I have a daughter from my hubby. She’s 19. Both have moved out. My daughter’s up north now, but visits us over the odd weekend.
She has a casual thing going with this boy who visits us when she’s down. He’s around or little older than my stepson. It’s not serious, as in, both are clear that it’s headed nowhere.
Now the problem!
Something in me is telling me that I am falling for this guy. And, perhaps, I haven’t been able to really hide that from him either (so hubby tells me), because he has started responding somewhat. Like, he’s started dropping by even when my daughter hasn’t come down to spend the weekend/holidays with us. And he’s been calling me often with some excuse or the other (must confess, I’ve called him a few times as well).
Just can’t figure how to handle this. But don’t want to let go either.
Help!
Our swinging more or less ended when I fell in love with a guy who had moved into our neighbourhood. He was married and cheating. I was not cheating. Anyway, to cut a long story short, though both hubby and I were burdened with this huge guilt that my lover was cheating on his wife, this intense relationship carried on for a long time. When it ended, all three of us were shattered (hubby and my lover got along hugely).
I have a stepson from my hubby’s earlier marriage. He’s 26. I have a daughter from my hubby. She’s 19. Both have moved out. My daughter’s up north now, but visits us over the odd weekend.
She has a casual thing going with this boy who visits us when she’s down. He’s around or little older than my stepson. It’s not serious, as in, both are clear that it’s headed nowhere.
Now the problem!
Something in me is telling me that I am falling for this guy. And, perhaps, I haven’t been able to really hide that from him either (so hubby tells me), because he has started responding somewhat. Like, he’s started dropping by even when my daughter hasn’t come down to spend the weekend/holidays with us. And he’s been calling me often with some excuse or the other (must confess, I’ve called him a few times as well).
Just can’t figure how to handle this. But don’t want to let go either.
Help!