redsirenn
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I met Ouroboros's other interest this weekend. I spent Friday night over there, and all day Sunday with them on the river. She is still in town until Tuesday evening.
I realized I don't really have a problem with jealousy, which is great. However, I still feel incredibly uncomfortable. I thought about this for a while and realized that I just don't feel like I am treated as "special." He treats me well, but all day Sunday I felt some distance and could not pin it down. I have always known that if this was going to work, that it would require more than the usual compassion, affection, etc., than in a monogamous relationship, because the people involved need to FEEL involved.
I brought this up briefly last night, because she was still around, but only mentioned that he seemed distant. He responded by saying that it was time for a check-in regarding our relationship, and that he still feels uncomfortable with the bf/gf situation we currently have.
I have no idea why, and to be honest, it is driving me a little bonkers. To top it off, I am alone this week, as ALL of my friends are out of town. Normally, I could quell fears by hanging out with them and distracting myself. But I cannot today.
I told myself before she got here there were things I wanted to see, actions of his I was going to pay attention to. I am saddened because I do not think he is doing his best to help all of us feel comfortable and wanted.
I am not a needy person, in fact, quite the opposite. I know there are others that I may not even know yet that will fulfill all my desires. Because of this, I have the confidence to move on, if I need to. BUT, I don't know what to do here.
Do I talk to him now and give him a chance to act on things before she leaves, or wait patiently until Tuesday evening?
I realized I don't really have a problem with jealousy, which is great. However, I still feel incredibly uncomfortable. I thought about this for a while and realized that I just don't feel like I am treated as "special." He treats me well, but all day Sunday I felt some distance and could not pin it down. I have always known that if this was going to work, that it would require more than the usual compassion, affection, etc., than in a monogamous relationship, because the people involved need to FEEL involved.
I brought this up briefly last night, because she was still around, but only mentioned that he seemed distant. He responded by saying that it was time for a check-in regarding our relationship, and that he still feels uncomfortable with the bf/gf situation we currently have.
I have no idea why, and to be honest, it is driving me a little bonkers. To top it off, I am alone this week, as ALL of my friends are out of town. Normally, I could quell fears by hanging out with them and distracting myself. But I cannot today.
I told myself before she got here there were things I wanted to see, actions of his I was going to pay attention to. I am saddened because I do not think he is doing his best to help all of us feel comfortable and wanted.
I am not a needy person, in fact, quite the opposite. I know there are others that I may not even know yet that will fulfill all my desires. Because of this, I have the confidence to move on, if I need to. BUT, I don't know what to do here.
Do I talk to him now and give him a chance to act on things before she leaves, or wait patiently until Tuesday evening?