Basically recently I have scarred away a guy I have been seeing by being to clingy and insecure and I would really like to rectify the situation although I fear its too late.
He is aware of my other partner who is now on the way out because I am not sure friends with benefits is a situation that is for me anymore, and not aware of a very recent new partner who is a girl I have become involved with very recently. He will know, if I ever see him again (ahhhrgrrrgg Im an idiot) because its the right thing to do.
I fear when I tell him he will be scarred away again as a result of beginning to view me as a potentially unstable mate as well as clingy. I would like to clarify that its not a case of jealousy or envy, its more a case of being quite demanding time wise. He has also accused me of being posessive, which is probably accurate in terms of my demands on his time.
I really want to break this cycle so i don't screw things up with the girl and i would really like to sort it out with the guy although I fear its too late.
All I want to do is have relationships with people I adore in a situation of equality and freedom but basically Im so bad at polyamory I need to be put in a bucket and thrown off a pier by a person specially qualified to throw things a long way. What do I do?
He is aware of my other partner who is now on the way out because I am not sure friends with benefits is a situation that is for me anymore, and not aware of a very recent new partner who is a girl I have become involved with very recently. He will know, if I ever see him again (ahhhrgrrrgg Im an idiot) because its the right thing to do.
I fear when I tell him he will be scarred away again as a result of beginning to view me as a potentially unstable mate as well as clingy. I would like to clarify that its not a case of jealousy or envy, its more a case of being quite demanding time wise. He has also accused me of being posessive, which is probably accurate in terms of my demands on his time.
I really want to break this cycle so i don't screw things up with the girl and i would really like to sort it out with the guy although I fear its too late.
All I want to do is have relationships with people I adore in a situation of equality and freedom but basically Im so bad at polyamory I need to be put in a bucket and thrown off a pier by a person specially qualified to throw things a long way. What do I do?