Hi everyone Im brand new to this forum, I hope this is the right section to post in. I've been in a 'mono' relationship with my husband for 10 years.
To make a long story short, it took us 9 years & a LOT of tears to learn that what a society had taught us forever, the concept of monogamy being the only 'right' way to live, just wasnt working for either of us. We are so in love, but just had sexual attractions to others that we couldnt ignore. So as of last year, we began a 'polysexual' relationship. (forgive me if that isnt even a real word, im not sure?) But we can have sex with others, as long as we are both honest about it. It is working out great for both of us.
There is one guy in particular, ill call him R, that I have been sleeping with for a year now. He is close friends with my husband, and i have been lucky enough that they have agreed to a threesome with me on several occasions (<--lucky me, i know!.
The reason for me writing this, is that I am getting feelings for R , that are more than just sexual.. And before anyone says it, no, i am not one of those people who automatically gets attached after sex.. Sex & feelings are very seperate for me most of the time). I am very interested in pursuing a polyamorous relationship with them both. The problem is, my husband seems hesitant.. I feel that he just doesnt know enough about the lifestyle, which I understand, I know it isnt exactly mainstream.
Id appreciate SO much any advice on how to educate my husband without coming off as overly pushy, or worse yet, making him question our current lifestyle in general.. ?? Thanks everyone!!
To make a long story short, it took us 9 years & a LOT of tears to learn that what a society had taught us forever, the concept of monogamy being the only 'right' way to live, just wasnt working for either of us. We are so in love, but just had sexual attractions to others that we couldnt ignore. So as of last year, we began a 'polysexual' relationship. (forgive me if that isnt even a real word, im not sure?) But we can have sex with others, as long as we are both honest about it. It is working out great for both of us.
There is one guy in particular, ill call him R, that I have been sleeping with for a year now. He is close friends with my husband, and i have been lucky enough that they have agreed to a threesome with me on several occasions (<--lucky me, i know!.
The reason for me writing this, is that I am getting feelings for R , that are more than just sexual.. And before anyone says it, no, i am not one of those people who automatically gets attached after sex.. Sex & feelings are very seperate for me most of the time). I am very interested in pursuing a polyamorous relationship with them both. The problem is, my husband seems hesitant.. I feel that he just doesnt know enough about the lifestyle, which I understand, I know it isnt exactly mainstream.
Id appreciate SO much any advice on how to educate my husband without coming off as overly pushy, or worse yet, making him question our current lifestyle in general.. ?? Thanks everyone!!