Hey there!
Welcome to the forum. I am pretty new here too. I just want to let you know to be careful with your questions and comments. I did some posting over the last couple of days and seem to have drawn some heat from the local elders on this thread.
http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showpost.php?p=112006&postcount=13
I thought I was being polite and fair, but maybe I wasn't. It's hard to say.
Anyway, I hope things work out well for you here.
Take care!
PD