And those sometimes wont go away altogether Aquarius, they just get further apart. It's one of the hardest mentalities to break, I still haven't moved past mono for my part, but I'm not in a rush too so that makes things less complicated.
As I see it you and hubby have a strong relationship and as to where you fit, it seems on the surface you fit where you always have, I once told Kat have as many casuals as you need, take the few lovers that you want, but hold onto the one true partner that you have.
Yes we talk constantly and openly now about it all, but it wasn't always like that and it took time for me to adjust. Example, this Monday Kat is out for the night with her GF, it will be hard home alone, but when I see her on Tuesday it will be worth the pain, she just glows after which use to sting, but now I see the energy it brings back to us.