Unicorn update

[berserker239]

She turned out to be a lying bitch. She went off and got another boyfriend and when i confronted her about it she said she wasnt dating him hes dating some other fat chick named krissy. Well i messaged her boyfriend on myspace and informed him of everything and asked for his girlfriends last name to confirm it was the same girl. Ofcourse it was and so i let him know EVERYTHING.

I hope she gets whats coming to her. It seems like its "fuck with Nick month" and everyone is in the holiday spirits.

First my best friend of 5 years says hes been pretending to be my friend to get closer to my girlfriend and now this?

Girls like that make me wanna go mono! :mad:

[Fidelia]

Bummer.

I'm sorry it didn't work out. :(

Hang on though, Nick. A new day is coming, and this too shall pass.

[aussielover]

:( I'm sorry that happened. Hang in there. You'll find someone special.

[foxflame88]

((hugs)) I hope you find the person you are meant to find... she is out there.

[berserker239]

((hugs)) I hope you find the person you are meant to find... she is out there.

Yeah me too.. Thanks

:( I'm sorry that happened. Hang in there. You'll find someone special.

Yeah, i am too. Although i should have expected this much

[HappiestManAlive]

I feel for you, and frankly hve some questions and concerns but I don't want to come off wrong. I'm new here and you seem cool, lol. Please take the following as intended..?

If I have ascertained correctly, you're 18 or 19 years old, yes? With no judgment passed on you in any way, I have to look back on my relationships at that age and think that you're looking for some really serious trouble! :(

[berserker239]

I feel for you, and frankly hve some questions and concerns but I don't want to come off wrong. I'm new here and you seem cool, lol. Please take the following as intended..?

If I have ascertained correctly, you're 18 or 19 years old, yes? With no judgment passed on you in any way, I have to look back on my relationships at that age and think that you're looking for some really serious trouble! :(

Quite the contrary as a matter of fact, i am only 17 years old. However your assumption is one that i get alot :D

[AutumnalTone]

Ah, man, that sucks. The good thing in that sort of mess is this--you're better off without such people in your life. Yeah, it hurts when it happens, but you're truly better off finding out so you can walk away and find better people.

I've been in a similar situation or two and am grateful that I was able to walk away with my dignity intact and found better people.

[berserker239]

Ah, man, that sucks. The good thing in that sort of mess is this--you're better off without such people in your life. Yeah, it hurts when it happens, but you're truly better off finding out so you can walk away and find better people.

I've been in a similar situation or two and am grateful that I was able to walk away with my dignity intact and found better people.

Yeah, it sucks though. Ive gotten used to disappointment though, its the only thing ive ever known haha.

[foxflame88]

Yeah, it sucks though. Ive gotten used to disappointment though, its the only thing ive ever known haha.

That makes success all the more sweeter though.;)

[berserker239]

That makes success all the more sweeter though.;)

Haha xD usually it does yeah. It also makes things hurt more :/

[Ceoli]

Yeah, it sucks though. Ive gotten used to disappointment though, its the only thing ive ever known haha.

Do you not have a wonderful girlfriend that you're exploring open relationships with? That's a hell of a lot more than a lot of people have... :rolleyes:

[berserker239]

Do you not have a wonderful girlfriend that you're exploring open relationships with? That's a hell of a lot more than a lot of people have... :rolleyes:

Heh, i also grew up being beat to hell by my father and raised in crackhouses by my mother. Forced to be a man when i was 7 and take care of her while doing my schoolwork and working everyday. Id say the world owes me a girl like i have.

[Ceoli]

The world owes a lot to a lot of people. There are lots of stories with lots of pain. Unfortunately, that's not how the world tends to see it.

[NeonKaos]

The world owes a lot to a lot of people. There are lots of stories with lots of pain. Unfortunately, that's not how the world tends to see it.


Whoot! The glass ain't half-empty; it's ALL empty.

You know what I heard about banging your head against a wall?

It feels SO GOOD when you stop.

[Ceoli]

You know what I heard about banging your head against a wall?

It feels SO GOOD when you stop.


Amen!!!

[berserker239]

Whoot! The glass ain't half-empty; it's ALL empty.

You know what I heard about banging your head against a wall?

It feels SO GOOD when you stop.

Yeah well banging your head against the wall makes the world go away.

[redpepper]

Yeah well banging your head against the wall makes the word go away.

did you mean "world" cause I'm trying to think what "word?" "victim," "martyr," "entitled?" I hope these are the words you are trying to bang out of your head.

We all had/have our shit to deal with. Part of being a grown up is to get over it, use what we have learned and teach others that we can achieve anything. Shit, show OURSELVES we can do anything!

There is no time in life to feel sorry for ourselves because of what others have "done" to us... what matters is what we "do" to ourselves and others.

Yup, you are a lucky man to have such a woman in your life, but if you start thinking you are "entitled!" to her, you won't have her anymore.... provided she has any head on her shoulders that is.

[NeonKaos]

did you mean "world" cause I'm trying to think what "word?" "victim," "martyr," "entitled?" I hope these are the words you are trying to bang out of your head.

We all had/have our shit to deal with. Part of being a grown up is to get over it, use what we have learned and teach others that we can achieve anything. Shit, show OURSELVES we can do anything!

There is no time in life to feel sorry for ourselves because of what others have "done" to us... what matters is what we "do" to ourselves and others.

Yup, you are a lucky man to have such a woman in your life, but if you start thinking you are "entitled!" to her, you won't have her anymore.... provided she has any head on her shoulders that is.

Tell it like it is, Pep!

[XYZ123]

We can only blame others for our issues and shit and baggage for so long. Once we reach the age of reason, that's it on free passes. It's not "but my parents did...blah blah". It's "I choose to keep reliving what my parents did and leaking it all over my life". I was having this conversation with my father this morning.

A little no holds barred back story on me? I was physically abused by my dad for years. He sent me to the hospital more than once. I was molested by a relative that the family covered up for and still does. When my bipolar started becoming impossible to handle as a teen I was neglected, ignored, and pretty much driven to suicidal attempts by family members who flat out told me I was nothing but an insane burden. I dated a guy who raped and beat me and threatened my younger siblings should I ever tell on him, whom my parents loved and treated me badly for when I finally rid myself of him. I was drugged and date raped by one of my best friends after 10 years of friendship. I went through alcoholism is college and drug use even younger (nothing harder than pot and ecstasy). I practically raised my siblings because my parents were off living their lives because they felt entitled to. So...am I "entitled" to have whatever I want now? Absolutely not!

I sought my own therapy at 14 to ease the bipolar issues. I quit drinking and drugs cold turkey on my own because I didn't want to become those who abused me. I got rid of (most) the negative people in my life on my own and sought out more positive relations, and spent many lonely depressed years doing so because it was hard changing my life. I did my best with my siblings because I had to and THEY needed me even if I didn't WANT to be the one needed. I work my ass off communicating and loving my husband and my children and not turning into the negative hateful person I could have become. I also work my ass off rebuilding a relationship with my parents now, as an adult, with the understanding they will never take responsibility for what I've been through and will probably never change. Because all I can change is myself.

I don't know where this rant is going, except to say the world doesn't owe ANYONE ANYTHING. No one is ENTITLED nor should they feel that way. All you do when feeling the world owes you is to waste time and energy you could be using to pursue what it is you want. So, no more head banging. Bandage that wound up and go on with your life. We all carry baggage. It's up to you whether you're going to put it down and move on.

[MonoVCPHG]

Pet peeve alert!!

"The world owes me"

I hate that statement. The "world" owes nothing to anyone. . People may have wronged us but that does not make us entitled to shit from "the world". We should be helped to help ourselves and nothing more.

Being kicked in the nuts doesn't make us entitled, a hero or a matyr. "Help me up" but don't "pick me up". When you stand back up and move forward that is when the world will see who you truly are and you won't be near as easy to kick in the nuts again.

The world owes you nothing.

[berserker239]

Pet peeve alert!!

"The world owes me"

I hate that statement. The "world" owes nothing to anyone. . People may have wronged us but that does not make us entitled to shit from "the world". We should be helped to help ourselves and nothing more.

Being kicked in the nuts doesn't make us entitled, a hero or a matyr. "Help me up" but don't "pick me up". When you stand back up and move forward that is when the world will see who you truly are and you won't be near as easy to kick in the nuts again.

The world owes you nothing.

...Its called Karma. Its part of my religion. Pet peeve alert for me is to put down my religion. My childhood was taken from me, so yes the world DOES owe me something. XYZ had alot MORE taken from her, the world DOES owe her something.

I guess you didnt know so i wont get mad, but now you know. Dont knock my religion, it means more to me than anything. You may believe that your entitled to nothing, but it helps me sleep at night knowing that watching alot of people die in front of my eyes wasnt for nothing. That good things WILL happen to me. That the things ive done will be repayed with good and bad. It made me into what and who i am today, who are you all to tell me thats wrong?

[MonoVCPHG]

...Its called Karma. Its part of my religion. Pet peeve alert for me is to put down my religion. My childhood was taken from me, so yes the world DOES owe me something. XYZ had alot MORE taken from her, the world DOES owe her something.

I guess you didnt know so i wont get mad, but now you know. Dont knock my religion, it means more to me than anything. You may believe that your entitled to nothing, but it helps me sleep at night knowing that watching alot of people die in front of my eyes wasnt for nothing. That good things WILL happen to me. That the things ive done will be repayed with good and bad. It made me into what and who i am today, who are you all to tell me thats wrong?

Obviously I struck a fundamental cord. Sorry for that. But I do still have an issue with anyone or belief that the world owes you something. Just like I have issues with my roman catholic background in some areas. Sorry man, I'll let this go and move on...this is one of those conversations that leads to negativitiy and I do that very well when I chose to.

Take care

[berserker239]

Obviously I struck a fundamental cord. Sorry for that. But I do still have an issue with anyone or belief that the world owes you something. Just like I have issues with my roman catholic background in some areas. Sorry man, I'll let this go and move on...this is one of those conversations that leads to negativitiy and I do that very well when I chose to.

Take care

You two. I dont want to argue this either

[redpepper]

Not to mention it has nothing to do with poly... Let alone unicorns, which is what this thread is about.

[berserker239]

Not to mention it has nothing to do with poly... Let alone unicorns, which is what this thread is about.

This thread is about the update of my previous thread.

[Ceoli]

...Its called Karma. Its part of my religion. Pet peeve alert for me is to put down my religion. My childhood was taken from me, so yes the world DOES owe me something. XYZ had alot MORE taken from her, the world DOES owe her something.


Are you Hindu? Buddhist? My understanding of Karma is that it's about your deeds and acts and how those deeds and acts produce the energy that creates the circumstances of your life. The fundamental pillar of Karma is that we ourselves are responsible for our own happiness and our own misery. In fact it goes *against* the principles of Karma to believe that "the world owes us" for the things that have happened to us. To follow a Karmic path is to examine our own deeds and actions to recreate the realities we live in.

When I said before that the world owes a lot of people a lot of things, it was in reference to the futility of the whole idea. The only thing that owes you anything is you. That's what Karma is about.

[berserker239]

Are you Hindu? Buddhist? My understanding of Karma is that it's about your deeds and acts and how those deeds and acts produce the energy that creates the circumstances of your life. The fundamental pillar of Karma is that we ourselves are responsible for our own happiness and our own misery. In fact it goes *against* the principles of Karma to believe that "the world owes us" for the things that have happened to us. To follow a Karmic path is to examine our own deeds and actions to recreate the realities we live in.

When I said before that the world owes a lot of people a lot of things, it was in reference to the futility of the whole idea. The only thing that owes you anything is you. That's what Karma is about.

Buddhist. ANYTHING bad that happens requires something good, anything good requires something bad.

[Ceoli]

Buddhist. ANYTHING bad that happens requires something good, anything good requires something bad.

That's not really Karma, at least not in the Buddhist traditions I've practiced.


But I digress.

[redpepper]

Interesting concept, but not Buddhist I don't think. Good begets good, bad begets bad.

Ceoli you are so articulate some times. Your words make me drool... I wasn't going to say anything and you just said it better than I ever could!

B, I love your passion. Your willingness to put yourself out there is amazing..

[berserker239]

Interesting concept, but not Buddhist I don't think. Good begets good, bad begets bad.

Ceoli you are so articulate some times. Your words make me drool... I wasn't going to say anything and you just said it better than I ever could!

B, I love your passion. Your willingness to put yourself out there is amazing..

Yeah well my passion is the thing i hate most about myself. It never gets me anywhere, just displeasure and sorrow. People say its my best quality, but how can my best quality make me so fucking miserable?

[redpepper]

I was the same way. It gets better with time and age. It will make you awesome eventually. You are well on your way my friend. Patience with myself and listening to others is what did it for me. Especially listen when others say its your best quality. They are right. No one say that your best quality is what will make your life easy. Its your hardest work and the one that you are driven to do no matter what. Better to embrace it and be proud than to allow it to distroy you.

By the way, just an aside about condom use way back when... My 18 year old friend just found out his 17 year old girlfriend is pregnant with twins because they decided not to use condoms when she missed her pill.

Their whole life is in uproar and forever changed. Tough times ahead, all for an all natural fuck.

[XYZ123]

Berserker, I wasn't trying to insult you. But "the world OWES me" kinda strikes a nerve with me in a very fundamental way. The world doesn't owe you anything you're not willing to put time and positive energy into attaining. And, to do that, you have to let the anger go. It only leads to self destruction in the end. I have been through alot and alot was taken from me, but I have a choice. I can be a product of it and return negativity. I can sit back and rage and cry about it waiting on what the world owes me. Or I can learn, grow, move past it and go out and make a new and better life for myself. I choose the third option. I hope you do as well. That is what Karma means to me. You get what you put in, not get back what was taken.

Redpepper- You have an 18 year old? I thought you only had one child and he was young? Am I getting confused again? :confused: So...you'll have grandchildren now? How do you feel about that? I know. Stupid question. (Sorry to hijack.)

[redpepper]

oh dear :o
I didn't put "friend" in there and had to go back and change it.... no, he isn't mine. thank GOD!!!! I have thought about what I would do if my six year old got into that situation later in life, but he is still in the "look mumma, it hurts when I fold my penis back" stage.... ahhhhh, siiiiighhhh..... let that last a loooooong time!

[MonoVCPHG]

Yeah well my passion is the thing i hate most about myself.

I've lived a life with very little passion about anything my friend. Passion is good and makes living worth while. Embrace it!!

[berserker239]

No need to call me berserker, call me nick or B like most do. I dont sit and wait for the world to just hand it to me, i actively seek my goals and put my all into it, however, the world owes me no obsticals to hinder my happiness and nothing to prevent my life from turning out the way i want. I had that throughout my younger years. I didnt get to be a child so it sucks having to take responsibility for everything. Also, i already have a daughter, she isnt biological to either of us, however i love her no less than id love my own biological daughter or son. Shes the spawn of Haleys family friend and said friend is EXACTLY how my mother was. Ill be damned if ill let my little girl grow up having to pick her mother up from acid trips and hide her mothers heroin needles. If Haley was pregnant it wouldent phase me, i can take care of 2 little girls just fine.

I dont mean to be vain but im not THAT dumb, i do have uses, im pretty handy with a computer and after highschool im making my business take off. Firestorm Computer Company, remember that name ^_^ one day youll be sending your computers to me to get fixed.