OKC in the house?

[Ceoli]

So who has OK Cupid profiles here? I need more fun stalkage there. I'm Seinneann on OKC.

Anyone else wanna join the roll call?

[foxflame88]

I'm there too. :) Same ID

[redpepper]

me too :)

[vandalin]

yeah, I joined just to see what/who was out there, maybe make some acquaintences or friends in my area. Same ID almost...I have to be the_vandalin. someone beat me to my name!

[WaywardDruid]

Trisha (Stormsinger) and I are on OKCupid. Look up Hakiem.

Just Me,
Tim

[Rarechild]

Me and Damncatfish got profiles for like four days and then deleted them in a dramatic act of solidarity. We were just on there too much- too many people right around us pressing in- and we figured we weren't quite cool with it.

Was very fun and addicting however. We wrote each other's info and made a sort of game of it. Ultimately we decided to delete them because we still have lots to work out and were a little skeert of the internet dating right off like that.

[NeonKaos]

Ya, I have no intention of signing up. I spend way too much time on Fakebook already.

[XYZ123]

I keep going to the site and thinking about it. Hubby is egging me on. But I'm just not into the internet thing. I'm not into the going out and looking for a relationship thing at all. I'd much rather just meet people naturally and see what develops.

[Ceoli]

Actually, I don't really use it to look for relationships though some have managed to find me through the site. I find it an interesting place to meet people, though. When I first moved to London and knew nobody, it was great to have an additional avenue to meet people. The same held true when I got displaced to Florida.

Besides, I consider meeting people online to be no less natural than meeting people in other ways these days.

[NeonKaos]

Besides, I consider meeting people online to be no less natural than meeting people in other ways these days.

I think that's what XYZZY meant, except to the opposite effect.

[Ceoli]

^I don't quite understand what you mean there.

[NeonKaos]

You said it was just as natural to meet people either way and she said she doesn't really go out of her way to meet people in real-life either (or something like that, it's right there a couple messages ago).

(Edit) Quoting from XYZ123:

I'm not into the going out and looking for a relationship thing at all. I'd much rather just meet people naturally and see what develops.

[Ceoli]

I keep going to the site and thinking about it. Hubby is egging me on. But I'm just not into the internet thing. I'm not into the going out and looking for a relationship thing at all. I'd much rather just meet people naturally and see what develops.

To me, that does not imply not going out of the way to meet people in real life. It implies meeting people circumstantially without any prescribed intentions. It also implied to me that both the internet and prescribing intentions (i.e. "looking" for a relationship) could at odds with meeting people naturally.

I was just saying that for me, meeting people online just as natural as any other way and I don't consider meeting people through a social networking site to be at odds with that and also agreeing with not having prescribed intentions on the net or off the net.

[NeonKaos]

I was just making an observation; I wasn't trying to start a debate.

XYZ can certainly clarify it if I made a mistake interpreting what she said.

[Ceoli]

I wasn't debating, just clarifying what I posted. I was relating to what XYZ posted, not debating.

[XYZ123]

I meant meeting people for dating purposes through the internet. I'm not into the internet dating thing. Just as I'm not into going out meeting people for the purpose of dating. I do talk to people through the net as well as in person if they happen to cross my path and we get along. But never with the intent of looking for someone to date. Like internet dating sights or going cruising at bars. I'm more into making friends and maybe something comes from that. I feel like looking specifically for partners blinds me to anyone who doesn't fit exactly what I want. And I don't join dating sights because people are usually there for dating and I don't really want to be initially approached with that intent.

[Ceoli]

XYZ, agreed :)

Which is why I particularly like OKC because I view it more as a networking site than a dating site. I've made quite a few friends that way and sometimes those friendships have developed into something more, but that's now what I set out to do when I meet people either online or otherwise.

[nikkiana]

I'm nikkiana on there.

I don't tend to use it as dating site so much as a "find new people who are interested in the same things I am" type of site... I've had all sorts of relationships come from being on there, from a romantic relationships, friendships, even some work related contacts have been made there. For me, meeting people online first is just as easy as in real life...

[NeonKaos]

Hey Nikkiana, long time no see.

[nikkiana]

Hey Nikkiana, long time no see.

:eek: Yeah, I've been in the process of moving to NYC so been absent from pretty much all online venues EXCEPT for OKC. ;)

[gator]

ceoli, you must be psychic! joined last week. profile name is jimmywindows.
swear to god!

[NeonKaos]

:eek: Yeah, I've been in the process of moving to NYC so been absent from pretty much all online venues EXCEPT for OKC. ;)

I noticed you posting quite a bit when I first joined up here, and remembered that you used to be practically my neighbor; but not any more, obviously.

I hope moving to NY is working out the way you want it to.

[greenearthal]

My OKC is PolyAlex.

Hi Ceoli. Long time no see. :)

[MonoVCPHG]

I'm glad to be monogamous..the online dating thing looks exhausting!! Of course that is how I met Redpepper.

Hope everyone finds some one :D

[AutumnalTone]

Curly and I are both on OKC.

As for what we think of this internet dating thing...we met via an internet dating service. I met my previous wife via an online dating service, too. I think we can endorse the approach.

[redpepper]

I view it more as a networking site than a dating site.

agreed, I like it for this reason. The pressure seems to be off a bit more with OKC... I met Mono on POF. What a different experience that was! Far more a meat market.

[Ceoli]

My OKC is PolyAlex.

Hi Ceoli. Long time no see. :)

Alex! OMG! :eek:

Yeah, it's been a long time, hasn't it?:D

[XYZ123]

Given all those endorsements, maybe I'll join then. Always up for new friends and networking.

Nikki! Coming to live in my tiny town then? Maybe we'll bump into eachother.

[greenearthal]

Alex! OMG! :eek:

Yeah, it's been a long time, hasn't it?:D

Feels like a lifetime ago. So good to "see" you again.

[Keith]

agreed, I like it for this reason. The pressure seems to be off a bit more with OKC... I met Mono on POF. What a different experience that was! Far more a meat market.

I'm not familiar with POF.

[redpepper]

Plenty of fish is POF.

[Keith]

Ahh, OK. I've been on that site for a long time but I check it only once every few months or so.

I'm kbduvall on OKC.

[XYZ123]

Keith hun, welcome. I assume you're new? Just want to let you know the moderators will probably ask you to get the links out of your signature. Links unrelated to poly or personal non-consumer sites aren't allowed here. You seem not to be a spammer, so just a friendly warning. :)

[Macbeth]

You'll find me (and some of you already have!) as ActingOpenly on OKC.

I've actually met one person in . . . um . . . person through OKC, and that's going pretty well so far. We've only met once, but we're planning to meet again, so I guess that's good.

I've never done the online thing before, so I'm not sure if a second 'date' is common.

[Keith]

Keith hun, welcome. I assume you're new? Just want to let you know the moderators will probably ask you to get the links out of your signature. Links unrelated to poly or personal non-consumer sites aren't allowed here. You seem not to be a spammer, so just a friendly warning. :)

Not really new.. joined in February; I've just been inactive for a bit.

Thanks for the heads up. Most forums I'm on don't have a problem with links in the sig, but every forum is different I guess.

[ladyjools]

im new hear but on there too
as ladyjools :)

[Imnotawhore]

I have one, Close2complete is my username =)

[msnmrchevy313]

im from detroit michigan we have a hard time findind another to be apart of wat we hav so wat do we do????:confused:

[NeonKaos]

im from detroit michigan we have a hard time findind another to be apart of wat we hav so wat do we do????:confused:


First we learn to spell.

[redpepper]

First we learn to spell.

heh, you crack me up :D
she means this with all due respect I'm sure... it is really a good point though... quite often on here a little re-reading would go a loooooong way in my view!

[Funk2Lopez]

I'm FUNK2LOPEZ on OKC. I find it easier to use the same username for everything I can. I'm not on much since my computer is broke again and I'm using other peoples computers to just get online to catch up with everything. :(

[simpleOCguy2009]

She is Deadcalm and I am me. uh... Same display name.

I keep coming back the same thought that maybe the internet thing is not correct for me. OKC just doesn't have many real married women on it looking for poly relationships. Is there a dating site that is best suited for this experience? I believe women on these sites have it easier... but my lover disagrees with me (as she is constantly chatting with all sorts of guys). She is only into Marines for the most part but she flirts with everyone. I have met one girl, and she is totally wicked. But we are still figuring out weather we are friends or more. I haven't heard from her in a day so I am a little worried. But it's ok. I can be patient.

See ya

[HappiestManAlive]

I joined up a couple weeks ago, forgot about it, went back in and filled it all out, played with it, and messaged Ceoli tonight because I can't sleep, lol. Ceoli you haz stalkage. :p

[LuvNWonder]

We are there, same handle. We have links to our individual OKC profiles embedded in the LuvNWonder profile. It's been good.

[LuvNWonder]

Come to think of it, we would love feedback on the profiles. Not certain how they come across to others.

[foxflame88]

Come to think of it, we would love feedback on the profiles. Not certain how they come across to others.

I think all three are good... and I've chatted with "him" before.:)

[LuvNWonder]

Thank you Foxflame. Him here.

I hope we get the point across that the caring relationship is the most important thing, while also covering further details of interest. Thanks again for feedback.

Brian

[Magdlyn]

Hi, I just joined here today but have been on okc since January, same name, Magdlyn. Its been great for me, after coming out of a looong stifling marriage. I needed to see what's out there. I met a wonderful woman 2 wks after joining and we've been together ever since. I've also been hit on (or approached in a polite way) dozens of times by men of all ages, and one transwoman (besides my SO)... and dated um, about 10. Yes, Ive played the slut. It's been fun and educational too!

[PittDruid]

I am OKC as Darksaber_30 but I think my profile stinks. I am going to have my wife write a new one.(I am bad at spelling and Grammar.)

[redpepper]

so I just went through this whole thread and checked out every single one of you... it made me happy to see all the faces to the names. Now I guess you all can see who I am if you figure out what my name is on there!!! Heh. Shouldn't be too hard.

[Magdlyn]

so I just went through this whole thread and checked out every single one of you... it made me happy to see all the faces to the names. Now I guess you all can see who I am if you figure out what my name is on there!!! Heh. Shouldn't be too hard.


Red...! You're cute.

[sunnydee]

I'm on there, sunnydee2009. I've had good experiences there finding polyfolk.

[redpepper]

Red...! You're cute.

So are you my friend!!!! meoooow.....

We are all so lovely hey???? Makes me so happy to see people!...:D:D:D

[Sweetheart]

We're on there too. We love taking the tests and answering those questions, but wish they'd filter matches instead of the % enemy thing, which hasn't been very accurate for us. We've answered hundreds of questions, but it doesn't seem to make our matches any more compatible. I hate having to read every single match profile, looking for dealbreakers, if they're not even remotely compatible to start. Might as well just look randomly. We've tried a lot of the other dating sites, and each one has its good & bad points.

That said, OKC is still the best place we've ever seen for meeting poly folks. Long ago, it was Adult Friend Finder, but these days most of the profiles on that site are fake (as we have discovered). :(

[HappiestManAlive]

My handle there is Almost_Jaded, Violet's is PerfectViolet.

Results so far have been mixed, but I like the site.

[redpepper]

heh. looked at you too HMA and Violet. :) :):)

[LovingRadiance]

Our biggest issue is that the matches in Alaska are VERY minimal. I get frustrated that my profile specifically says I'm looking for WOMEN but it always sends me MEN in my "quiver" (WTF?). It's moot-as I only delete them anyway-but still what's the point of specifying if it won't pay attention anyway?
And there are VERY few ANY kind of folk in Alaska that I can find-poly or otherwise. :(

[HappiestManAlive]

Yep - I checked yours too, and a couple of other members that peeked in. :-)

[LovingRadiance]

I found red. :)

[foxflame88]

Our biggest issue is that the matches in Alaska are VERY minimal. I get frustrated that my profile specifically says I'm looking for WOMEN but it always sends me MEN in my "quiver" (WTF?). It's moot-as I only delete them anyway-but still what's the point of specifying if it won't pay attention anyway?
And there are VERY few ANY kind of folk in Alaska that I can find-poly or otherwise. :(

Sounds like you need to change your settings. :) I get only women in my quiver when I have my settings changed.

[PickMoreDaisies]

Just signed up and already met some local people...nice site so far :)

[idCrisis]

same here as there!

[pixydust8605]

I'm on there, same sn. Actually, the first person I messaged was Poly, and more or less responsible for me finally and formally recognizing my poly tendencies. :-)

[ImaginaryIllusion]

I'm on there, same sn. Actually, the first person I messaged was Poly, and more or less responsible for me finally and formally recognizing my poly tendencies. :-)
Wasn't that lucky.

[pixydust8605]

Wasn't that lucky.

To further clarify, I was already interested in an open relationship, and in talking to this person I discovered the term "polyamory" and it fit what I was thinking like a glove!! This has all happened in the past month or so, so I am very new to the poly world, but I am excited about the possibilities!

Now all i have to do is get my ex to understand he has no right to my personal life anymore....

[rolypoly]

My goodness, so many are on OKC. *puts up hand* I'm there too.

[redpepper]

I didn't find you under rolypoly? what's your name on there?

[AutumnalTone]

Just so y'all know: I met my last wife and CurlySquirrel both via online dating sites. I have to say I'm completely on board with online dating!

I've been on OKC for several years. I've been there long enough to have changed my username a few times (deleting account and creating new one), and that happens only every couple of years (Hmmm...OKC reports last time was last August and that's simply not true. I've been SC there for much longer.)

I have met some really interesting ladies on the site, ladies who are either actively poly or not put off by it. The largest problem has been that those ladies haven't been local--not even close. One lady has been corresponding with me now for several months, and I think this connection will be strong enough to last for a long while, despite the distance. Interestingly, this lady is actively involved with a couple of other people, so our connection doesn't have to provide the immediacy of a primary relationship; the other ladies have been single and looking for a primary connection, I think--and the distance kills that.

I just started trading messages with a woman who lives in this area. I approached her looking for an activity partner to play music. She's made statements that indicate she's possibly interested in more than that. We'll have to see how it works out. She makes no mention of being poly in her profile; it's an obvious part of mine and I don't hide the fact that I'm married in discussions, though, so I suspect she's open to the prospect.

And I'm afraid there's no particular point to this message. I just got the urge to offer up some of my experience after scanning through the thread. I can report success in finding a wife online, and some success in finding additional partners.

[ImaginaryIllusion]

I have met some really interesting ladies on the site, ladies who are either actively poly or not put off by it. The largest problem has been that those ladies haven't been local--not even close. One lady has been corresponding with me now for several months, and I think this connection will be strong enough to last for a long while, despite the distance.

Sometimes I find the opposite...but it depends on the pool of local people on the site too...which can vary quite a bit with different regions and city size. While poly's don't make up a large part of any population I've seen so far, they do trickle to the top on a site like OKC.
The challenge on OKC, and worse on some other sites like POF is that some women may not have been put off by poly initially, have been put off by ...less ethical sorts.

The funny part I find is that west coast, it seems most poly people are on OKC. East coast...not so sure. But the user base in the Maritimes seems to be underdeveloped so far.

[bryophyte]

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/chroma2424/ Here is my profile!

[constlady]

I'm there with the same name as well.
It's actually where I met R and through him the rest of our wonderful family.

[rubyfish]

I just made a profile. All of this new-fangled technology is both fascinating and frightening. I used to think internet dating was creepy, but now I can sort of see the appeal.

My username is rubyfisch, because rubyfish was taken.

[greenearthal]

I really and truly believed that OKC was just about useless.

Today I met a woman --in person even-- through an okc encounter. It was really quite awesome. I'm shocked.

[Ceoli]

I really and truly believed that OKC was just about useless.

Today I met a woman --in person even-- through an okc encounter. It was really quite awesome. I'm shocked.

Yay!!

OKC has been wonderful for me as I've met lots of great people through that site who are still in my life in wonderful ways.

[NeonKaos]

Yay!!

OKC has been wonderful for me as I've met lots of great people through that site who are still in my life in wonderful ways.

I don't think I can handle any more wonderful people than I have right now.

[foxflame88]

I really and truly believed that OKC was just about useless.

Today I met a woman --in person even-- through an okc encounter. It was really quite awesome. I'm shocked.

That's great to hear! Good luck!

Yay!!

OKC has been wonderful for me as I've met lots of great people through that site who are still in my life in wonderful ways.

I have had similar experiences... I've made some great friends.

[redpepper]

me too! Most of my poly community I met from there.

[vampiresscammy]

I'm on OKC, same nick, actually just about anywhere online you find "vampiresscammy" its more than likely me

haven't met anyone through OKC I didn't already know in person, so no opinions about that particular site being helpful or not, but met my hubby of heart and my late wifey online, I surely would never discount meeting someone and seeing how things progress just cause we had met online first, I personally think its pretty awesome how it puts people you would otherwise not ever have a possibility of meeting within range is kinda wonderful

[Ravenesque]

I'm on OkC as well. My ID is EbonyMermaid. I met Ceoli there :D and made other poly friends there as well. Only one or two bad experiences with incompatible people. The positive outweighs the bad by far.

I like to engage in discussion on the Alternative Lifestyles forums there. It's stimulating and connects people who have similar views.

FL is another cool site though it is oriented around social networking more than dating (though it can be used for that purpose as well). Unlike OkC there you can choose the identities "polyamorous" and "pansexual" in FL.

~Raven~

[CielDuMatin]

Yes I am CielDuMatin on OKC as well as here, but considering suspending it.

Joined because it was a neat way to compare notes with my prospective OSO. Then stayed because the quizzes were kind of mindless and fun.

Then started getting involved for the fora, which was nice for a while. Pretty disillusioned with it right now, though - too many drive-by trolls and hostility on there. One or two good friendly folks, but I see most of them are already here....

I'm not looking to find anyone for anything other than friends, and there seem to be better places for that online.

[indigo]

I'm indigos_child on okc though I generally leave my account 'disabled' these days after reaching total poly saturation. The one and only person I've met from okc is completely amazing, my N=1 for what it's worth.

M

[Windchasers]

I'm 'Pointyleaf' on OKC, checked a few of you out just a couple days ago (and a few of you looked back!). DW and I are relatively new to OKC, having joined about 6 weeks ago. We're in an annoying situation, since we're going to graduate school in different towns, but she's having some luck with OKC.

Hmm. I coulda swore I had an old profile for polyamory.com and had posted once or twice before, but maybe not. Or I just couldn't find it. In any case, /wave.

[Ravenesque]

Cool. I'll check you out there. And welcome to the forums. Windchasers. I like the way that name sounds :D

~Raven~

[HappiestManAlive]

I was wondering why a guy from VA was looking at me, LOL.

[rubyfish]

I was wondering why a guy from VA was looking at me, LOL.

I had the same thought at first ... It makes much more sense now.

[redpepper]

anyone else want to add to this? I thought I would revive this thread and see. :p

[EugenePoet]

Oh, I'm the same username on OKC. Have to visit some of you people now that I know.

Oh, and I met a couple of people there. Mixed results, but I've only been on for a month or so.

[Breathesgirl]

Same nic there are here.

Most places online I am either Breathesgirl or Breathes_girl. Apparently some name generators won't accept anything but alphanumeric characters :(.

I get totally and utterly frustrated with OKC, casual kiss, collarme, fetlife and a couple of others. Most of them are just meat markets and I am NOT a piece of meat!

I refuse to frequent FL any more. To me it is more of a drama inducing experience & I am NOT into drama, lol. Unles they've changed I don't see my returning any time in the near future.

PMM and this board are the two places I'm most comfortable because they don't feel like meat markets so I spend most of my 'looking' time there.

[Ariakas]

mae1str0m on okcupid. Still no pic posted as my wife and I are at the information stage and not actively looking for anything. Heck we don't even know. I also know a couple of people at work on the site, so I am not sure how public we want to be. Ironically, when we are out everyone knows...but something about advertising online that takes it to a new level.

I am on fetlife too...ariakas there. Not very active there, more interested in finding munches etc.

[korindino]

I'm a long-time OkC veteran. SandBoxRiot is my ID.

[SourGirl]

I was using Superjast as a profile name on there, but felt the need to change it. So I am on there, anyone who wants to know us, can message and ask. :)

[Derbylicious]

Yep I'm on there. Same name as here. I don't really use it to meet people though. Meeting through the Internet isn't really my thing. Plus I go on there any everyone local who seems interesting I already know irl!

-Derby

[Justbeloving]

I had one for a couple of years and recently deleted it because I met someone I wanted to show I was commited to us developing a friendship. Funny, I had been approached several times from couples and it freaked me out... I guess I was thinking they were looking for threesomes rather than a poly relationship.
Ignorance is NOT bliss!!
I put much work into that profile too. :(

[Ariakas]

I guess I was thinking they were looking for threesomes rather than a poly relationship.


Of course understanding a threesome can still be poly :D ;)...just saying

[Justbeloving]

Of course understanding a threesome can still be poly :D ;)...just saying

LOL... yessss.... understood! :p Not my cup o tea... and still poly green...

[Derbylicious]

Well that was fun looking at everyone's profiles. :D

[MonoVCPHG]

Lurking rocks!

[classycaveman]

I'm on there, same name... although I'm considering changing it to Sophisticaveman.

[clairegoad]

Bump.


I'm on okcupid also. under claireinPH (I live in Palm Harbor,FL)

I'm the 50 year old female who just visited most of the OKC posted profiles this morning. We've got a pretty amazing group of people here. Good looking, talented, well read, interesting...

The profiles tend to be much more descriptive than the local men that I've been perusing.

What info do you find important in profiles? What advice do you have for profiles? What works? What doesn't? When is a profile too long? This is the third profile I've done. Plenty of Fish, and DateHookup were good practice. I used a photo this time, (I am still job hunting, and hate that my photo is out there.. but ...) I need a better photo. --- Hope to snag someone at the Bound Love meeting Thursday night and ask them to shoot me.

I'm open to any feedback about my profile. Frankly, I'm exploring poly. I hope my profile reflects that-- so it is a different focus than a solid poly, who knows what they are seeking. I've never had a poly relationship.. but I know several people in functioning, long term poly relationships. I actually want to be a secondary, but that's another story.

Do we want to move this to a new thread? (I'm a mod in another group... feel free to move this post/split it into two & move half.)

[rubyfish]

I really enjoyed was reading the OKC blog. I'm a math geek, so my opinion might not be shared, but I loved their discussion of what works in profiles and messages and what doesn't. As I had never tried online dating before, it seemed useful.

I find myself far more likely to message or response to someone whose profile makes me laugh. When I read a profile, I want feel like I'm hearing the writer's voice. I don't like it when someone's profile reads entirely differently then their messages. Length isn't a problem, either way, to me.

I have very good luck with OKC. I messaged with a couple of people and within a month of joining, I started seeing someone regularly. We've been together for almost six months.

Good luck with both online dating and the whole poly thing.

[Derbylicious]

Speaking of messages reading differently than the profile my husband's girlfriend messaged me on OKC and commented on a part of my profile she liked, the part she liked was the part my husband wrote for me LOL.

[PixieStyx]

My husband does!!! I think his username is Axavior.

[immaterial]

I'm on there. The local profiles seem fairly idiotic. But I have made one new friend, so that's cool.

my name on there is tantraom.

Immaterial

[FormerUnicorn]

I'm a long time vet of OKC, as I just hit my six year mark a few days ago. I started being on there as a way to meet new people when I was moving from England to Alaska. I wanted a built-in social network waiting for me when I got here, and it worked beautifully! It fostered many, many good friendships over the years, including my wonderful husband, and my closest male friend!

Come find me as mothtriumphant and drop me a note!

[Thunderlizard]

Yes. and it does work.. not only did OKC reunite me, after 13 years, with the woman that is now my wife, it's provided us with some great friends, some lovers, and a new opportunity with folks we're meeting this weekend. We're there as "kinksters"... 3 years with a couple profile on a site that sorta isn't supposed to want us to do that.. we've had tech support needed and the whole nine yards, they're ok people over at ok cupid.

[sdguy]

I had an OKC profile for a long time.. deleted it.. and just recently re-created it. now I get to have fun filling out all the questions and tests all over again!
OKC profile = sdrunner79

[phoenix762]

I do, same id as above, FWIW.
I really don't go to it a whole lot. I probably need to.
I think I answered a gazillion questions for them, though. What's up with that?

[phoenix762]

looked at some OKC profiles....Thanks for sharing;0) That was pretty cool, and you are all so creative!
:D:D

[immaterial]

Love your profile pic. Been feeling pretty much like that lately. You have an entertaining OKC profile as well.

Immaterial

[marksbabygirl]

I am on OK Cupid now!

My user name is *collective gasps of surprise* marksbabygirl ;)

I'm not terribly creative with usernames :p

[Ariakas]

I am on OK Cupid now!

My user name is *collective gasps of surprise* marksbabygirl ;)

I'm not terribly creative with usernames :p

I tried that, apparently okc doesn't let me find you :p

[marksbabygirl]

ok, i made a typo - gotta change my user name there - anyone know how?

you can find me under marksbabgirl :p

[Ariakas]

thanks babs...

you can't as an fyi ;) Not that I know of

[freeantigone]

I'm on OKC, mostly for vague browing (I like to spy :D) and just in case any unicorns come up. I also search for prospective playmates for the partner. My username is the same.

[marksbabygirl]

thanks babs...

you can't as an fyi ;) Not that I know of

BABS?????

LMFAO... No one's ever called me THAT before... must email OKC to ask them about that later :p

[HappiestManAlive]

I have a sneaking suspicion that Derby just checked out my profile...

[Derbylicious]

I have a sneaking suspicion that Derby just checked out my profile...

I think it was someone else...I might go do it now though!

[Derbylicious]

I have a sneaking suspicion that Derby just checked out my profile...

Nope it wasn't me, I wasn't checking you out, you haven't cheked me out, there's been no checking out of anyone LOL.

[MindfulAgony]

I'm on OKC as well. I was on there about six months before deciding to reinvent my persona to be proclaim myself poly as MindfulAgony in April.

I've had good luck with OKC the brief amount of time I've been on there. Seattle probably has one of the most robust poly populations on OKC. So, that probably helps.

I've also started internet dating in '96. So, very comfortable with the whole notion.

Also, I wouldn't mind feedback on my profile either. I tweak it here and there every so often. I'd love the feedback.

[idealist]

Had fun checking out everyone's profiles!! I'm Idealist777 on OKC!!!

[HappiestManAlive]

Huh - 30-something year old bisexual roller derby gal from Vancouver BC identies as poly, and isn't you, lol. Dunno how someone from VBC even found me, lol.

[Breathesgirl]

I can't remember if I"ve posted here yet or not, lol, and don't really feel like going back over all those pages to find out sooooooooooooo..............

I'm Breathesgirl on OKC. I'm not very active there very often. Occasionally I'll go through a contact spree but then I remember that I rarely get a response back so stop.

[Derbylicious]

Huh - 30-something year old bisexual roller derby gal from Vancouver BC identies as poly, and isn't you, lol. Dunno how someone from VBC even found me, lol.

I'm from Victoria, not Vancouver, my name is the same as it is on here on OKC. :D

[gwendolenthefair]

I'm intriguedat41 on there. Love that site!

[HappiestManAlive]

My bad derby, lol.

[redpepper]

My bad derby, lol.

She's my bad derby actually! Hands off *smack* ;) :D

[assets]

Huh - 30-something year old bisexual roller derby gal from Vancouver BC identies as poly, and isn't you, lol. Dunno how someone from VBC even found me, lol.

actually it was me :)

[Derbylicious]

actually it was me :)

I kind of guessed but I figured you could chime in if you wanted to :D

[inlovewith2]

Hi all,

DavidWebb and I are on OKC as well. His profile is under nySoxfan and mine is oh so original Christie_CC.

We have had great luck on OKC--I have dated 2 men from there, one relationship is still going strong, and DW has dated two women, one of which is still going strong. We both feel very blessed to have found these two people. Both are poly, both are AWESOME.

The idiots can be bothersome at times, but mostly I just have fun with them if I have time "yes, I'm in an open relationship", "no, that doesn't mean you can "stop by" for some BDSM" (a true request).

One big complaint, but it seems to be the case in general is that poly women seem to have an easier time than the men. Both DW and my bf do not get a lot of interest and they are AWESOME.

Some of the profiles that have been listed here don't seem to be coming up? And I don't know to find RP!!!!!

[redpepper]

@inlovewith2- are you asking why you can't find me? I wasn't sure if you were referring to me with your *RP* in your last post. If you were, I don't go by *redpepper* on OKC. I don't mind sharing what I do go by, but I reserve the right not to say publicly or privately to those I don't want to (which doesn't mean much really unless I've never heard of the person at all). If you or anyone is interested I would be glad to say over PM. :)

[inlovewith2]

I was redpepper, sorry. I figured you didn't go by redpepper on OKC. I'd love to know--I've been enjoying finding people and adding dimensions. I've had lovely chats this morning with 3 different people from this thread.

As you may know, I don't feel like I have much of a community here in the Albany area (though maybe I just haven't found it), so finding community, even if online (I've had a lot of benefit from online communities over the years), is important to me.

I hope that answers your question!

[redpepper]

Sure does :) PMing now.

[freeantigone]

One big complaint, but it seems to be the case in general is that poly women seem to have an easier time than the men. Both DW and my bf do not get a lot of interest and they are AWESOME.


Tell me about it! My male partner is trying to find a playmate and it's really tough. He messages people just to say hi, to try and get a conversation going, and 90% of the time gets no reply. Despite women's profiles saying "Hey, send me a message and we can chat", they don't seem to want to talk to him. He's open, friendly and AWESOME but isn't really being given a chance. :(

[gwendolenthefair]

inlovewith2, I agree with you that women get a lot of attention on OKC relative to what men get.

I discovered something interesting with my ex-boyfriend that I think is probably pretty close to the truth. He might send out 100 exploratory emails and get 3 replies back. However, all his replies would be women who were genuinely interested in a relationship, love, emotional commitment, not just sex. I might get 100 emails (and I didn't have to work for them, the way he did), but it might be that the entire 100 of mine just wanted a casual sex thing.

A lot of men envy women the "easy" time we have online, but as a poly person, I think I'd rather approach this lifestyle as a man.

[DharmaBum23]

After perusing everyone's profiles, I guess it is only fair that I toss mine in. I'm WalkerBoh23. The pictures are a smidge out of date(except the X-Day pics) but other than that, it's all there.

[Mohegan]

So Karma has this desire for me to find someone else. I have been toying with the OKC idea for a while but not sure. I think it may help with some of the metamour issues, some of the too much time on my hands issues. But I dunno. I haven't been on a date that didn't include my husband in 8yrs. I'm not against dating someone, I just haven't actively looked. I've never tried online dating, not sure what to expect.

[clairegoad]

So Karma has this desire for me to find someone else. I have been toying with the OKC idea for a while but not sure. I think it may help with some of the metamour issues, some of the too much time on my hands issues. But I dunno. I haven't been on a date that didn't include my husband in 8yrs. I'm not against dating someone, I just haven't actively looked. I've never tried online dating, not sure what to expect.

It's also a good place to meet people just for conversation... Dates seem to anticipate and have expectations... just meeting for conversation is less stressful.

(and I've had some great conversations....)

[exmarinesgte5]

What is OK? Russ in Dallas, TX

[Mohegan]

Thanks, I think I'll talk it over wit Karma and maybe get him to help me make a profile.

OKC-OK Cupid

[Andy4700]

I signed up a few weeks ago. Same name as here - Andy4700- but really haven't added much info..... Looks great if you're single and wanna date/meet folks... but have any of you other guys had luck meeting women that are interested in secondary relationships?

I'm having doubts.... I need a tale of encouragement. ;)

[marksbabygirl]

I signed up a few weeks ago. Same name as here - Andy4700- but really haven't added much info..... Looks great if you're single and wanna date/meet folks... but have any of you other guys had luck meeting women that are interested in secondary relationships?

I'm having doubts.... I need a tale of encouragement. ;)

I am... but I think you're too far away from me :p

[Andy4700]

only 1500 miles according to OKC... haha

It is so nice knowing that there are women out there that can find enjoyment/happiness in a secondary relationship though. :) It just makes me feel better somehow. :)

[openmarriagelove]

I'm there as well. Same id :)

[bimblynim]

just joined as Sesquipedalian4, its amazing :0)! Cheers ceoli :0) x

[MsKtty89]

I just joined OKC recently. Robeau over there. It's very interesting! My friend suggested it, actually. I knew little about it before then.

[954Bunny]

hi! i was on OKC prior to getting into my current primary relationship and still have a profile. feel free to stop by!

username- lolbunny

[EugenePoet]

I don't remember now if I mentioned -- I was on OKC but deleted my profile a couple of months ago. I've gotten into a wonderful primary relationship and for someone like me it's too easy to spend a lot of time playing around online. Plus once I started with LJ I decided to send my subconscious a message: "stop looking for possibilities and explore this wonderful woman instead."

But based on my experience OKC is most successful for guys if they use it well -- that is, write an honest and fun-to-read profile, do some journaling (unlike in your profile, in the journal you can post pics of your vacation or pets or whatever) and also comment on other peoples' journal entries, use the chat feature.

In other words, it seems to work best to be visible, to put yourself out there as an active and interesting member of the OKC community. I had a lot of fun and chatted with some wonderful women, a few of whom I still talk to now and then.

Things women in particular should know: you can block both messages and chat from specific users. There are some men who are offensive idiots and you can and should block such people the very instant they bother you. There are also scammers, both male and female, who will appear very attractive but who will end up asking you for money under various pretexts.

Overall it was a really positive experience for me, though. Have fun!

[ThatRomanticGeek]

Sure, I'll throw mine in: geeky_romantic (http://www.okcupid.com/profile/geeky_romantic)

[redpepper]

I don't remember now if I mentioned -- I was on OKC but deleted my profile a couple of months ago. I've gotten into a wonderful primary relationship and for someone like me it's too easy to spend a lot of time playing around online. Plus once I started with LJ I decided to send my subconscious a message: "stop looking for possibilities and explore this wonderful woman instead."

But based on my experience OKC is most successful for guys if they use it well -- that is, write an honest and fun-to-read profile, do some journaling (unlike in your profile, in the journal you can post pics of your vacation or pets or whatever) and also comment on other peoples' journal entries, use the chat feature.

In other words, it seems to work best to be visible, to put yourself out there as an active and interesting member of the OKC community. I had a lot of fun and chatted with some wonderful women, a few of whom I still talk to now and then.

Things women in particular should know: you can block both messages and chat from specific users. There are some men who are offensive idiots and you can and should block such people the very instant they bother you. There are also scammers, both male and female, who will appear very attractive but who will end up asking you for money under various pretexts.

Overall it was a really positive experience for me, though. Have fun!

this is really good advice... in a relationship that has potential, get off the dating sites. trouble is that for some people it becomes a way of life, because they have been at it so long.

i like your hints for men... so true. How to get our attention as women? stand out! be positive, present on the site, cheery and have fun!

[MrDreadful]

Having a go at this OKCupid lark... on as MrDreadful (natch).

Thinking of writing them a letter:

Dear OKCupid,

Hot bi babes who are apparently only interested in casual sex with hot bi babes are not suitable matches.

No love,
Mr. Dreadful.