NYC: Poly Cocktails announcement

[nycindie]

Poly Cocktails is a monthly event in New York City, organized by OpenLoveNY (http://openloveny.com/index.html). It's a get-together usually held in a bar/lounge in downtown Manhattan. Received this announcement today and thought I'd pass it on:

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Greetings Poly Cocktails and Open Love NY friends!

Our Poly Cocktail event has been growing and lots of new people are coming every month, which is wonderful! As we enter our fourth year and reach more and more people who are new to polyamory, we want to seize the opportunity to educate them on what polyamory is, and what it isn’t.


Since many first-timers come to Poly Cocktails, we want to make a greater effort to make them feel welcome and ensure the event stays fun and safe for everyone. To this end, we need everybody’s help to co-create a safe, respectful space at Poly Cocktails so that our community continues to attract people looking to explore beyond traditional relationship models.


To that end, the Organizing Committee plans to implement several initiatives at Poly Cocktails, starting with a clear set of House Rules. Many of these standards of respectful behavior have been implicitly expected and are not really new – but as new people come who don’t know community standards of behavior, we want to be radically honest by spelling out our expectations of behavior and clearly defining the values of this community.


*House Rules*

*L*earn – Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is *not* a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

*O*pen communications – Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

*V*erbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

*E*xpectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does *not*signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

*R*espectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

*S*afe Space – Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.



Guests at Poly Cocktails will be expected to follow these rules if they wish to continue attending the event. If there’s a problem or complaint, we will remind the individual(s) about the House Rules, issue a warning about behavior, or ask them to leave.


As stated at the beginning, we need your help because this is YOUR community, and we welcome your feedback and suggestions to improve our events. We also invite you to help us educate newcomers if they do not seem aware of these expectations. By working together, we can all help keep our poly community feeling respectful and safe.


Another change is that designated hosts and greeters will now be wearing nametags at each Poly Cocktails. We invite new folks to come introduce themselves, and we also ask that you find one of us if you are uncomfortable with anyone’s behavior or have concerns. We will also distribute printed copies of the House Rules at each event.


If you have any questions or comments, please write to us at openloveny@gmail.com.


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I thought this would be helpful for anyone who has attended or thought of attending, as well as those of you who might be thinking of organizing a gathering in your area.

[nycindie]

From Open Love NY's latest email announcement:

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Come to Poly Cocktails and celebrate summer with your Poly family.

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you consider yourself polyamorous or to be in an open relationship, or are considering this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest. New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with nametags and introduce yourselves!

And please remember to read our guidelines at the end of this email.
Monday May 9th, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire
50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Sts)
(212) 375 0665
http://affairenyc.com/

Drink specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

Lots of love & happiness,

O Man & Diana


Next Poly Cocktail dates, 2nd Monday of the month:
June 13th
July 11th

POLY COCKTAIL GUIDELINES:

*L*earn - Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

*O*pen communications – Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

*V*erbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

*E*xpectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

*R*espectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

*S*afe Space – Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.


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Visit this group at
http://groups.google.com/group/openloveny-announcements?hl=en

[Athena]

Events in NYC on a weeknight are problematic for me, I'm not close enough during the week to attend - anyone know of weekend NYC environs events?

[nycindie]

Athena, there is another group... they have a Meetup and meet every second Sunday of each month. I believe on the Upper West Side.

http://www.meetup.com/New-York-Poly-Meetup-Group/

[Athena]

Actually it looks like they are on Mondays also? or I looked at the wrong group in the link?

Thanks

[nycindie]

They have a few regular discussion groups at varying intervals, I think mostly on Sundays, Mondays, Thursdays.

[nycindie]

Poly Cocktails

Monday July 11th, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire - 50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Sts)
(212) 375 0665
http://affairenyc.com
Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

Poly Cocktails is a gathering of poly and poly-curious people, sponsored by Open Love NY.

The evening starts in the upstairs portion of Affaire, as we throw open the windows and enjoy the warmth and sunshine. As the night progresses we'll migrate downstairs. So if you come late come look for us downstairs!

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you consider yourself polyamorous or to be in an open relationship, or are considering this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest. New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with nametags and introduce yourselves!

And please remember to read our guidelines, which follow below.

Poly Cocktail House Rules

Learn : Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

Open communications : Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

Verbal Consent : We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

Expectations : check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

Safe Space : Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.

[cuddlecakes]

Would be much better if these were on weekends. :/

[nycindie]

Weeknights are easier to secure a venue -- most organizations I belong to schedule things for weeknights for that reason. Otherwise, we'd be sharing a crowded space with obnoxious hipsters or we'd have to pay a large cover fee to have a room by ourselves. Also, weeknights accommodate the people who work in Manhattan but don't live there, or who aren't in town on the weekends. People who don't live here are not gonna come into the city for a couple of drinks on a weekend, especially in the summer when no one's here! There are other poly events on other days of the week, and -- weekends are for more artsy things! LOL.

If you want a poly event on weekends and don't find one to your liking, you could start your own Meetup!

[nycindie]

Received this in an email:


Poly Cocktails

Please come and say hello!
Save the date to lounge and relax with your extended Poly family!

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you consider yourself polyamorous or to be in an open relationship, or are considering this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest. New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with nametags and introduce yourselves!

And please remember to read our guidelines at the end of this message.

Monday Sept 12, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire - 50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Streets)
(212) 375 0665
http://affairenyc.com

Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

Save the dates for the next Poly Cocktail: 2nd Monday of the month: Oct 10th

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Poly Cocktail House Rules

Learn – Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

Open communications – Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

Verbal Consent – We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations (as modeled at Cuddle Parties) before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

Expectations – check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

Safe Space – Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.

[nycindie]

Any Noo Yawkas here planning on going tonight? :)

Poly Cocktails
Monday Sept 12, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire - 50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Streets)
(212) 375-0665
http://affairenyc.com

Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

Save the dates for the next Poly Cocktail: 2nd Monday of the month: Oct 10th

[nycindie]

Latest announcement:

Open Love NY and Poly Cocktails invite you and your extended Poly family to lounge and relax with our community on Nov. 14th for some pre-Thanksgiving socializing. Gobble gobble!!

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, "others", girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you identify as polyamorous or if you are in an open relationship, or want to learn more about this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community.

All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a
serious interest.

New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with lighted name tags and introduce yourselves!

Monday Nov. 14th, 7pm - 12am, free!
Affaire
50 Avenue B (between 3rd & 4th Streets)
Manhattan
(212) 375 0665

http://affairenyc.com
Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

Save the dates for the next Poly Cocktails: 2nd Monday of the month: Dec 12th & Jan 9th

Your hosts,
Diana & O Man

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Poly Cocktail House Rules

Learn : Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

Open communications : Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

Verbal Consent : We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

Expectations : check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

Safe Space : Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.

[LittleSara]

Thank you for posting this! :)

[nycindie]

We are planning on getting as many guys together as we could on April 10th in NYC. I know this is advance notice, but we really want to get folks together before the con, and we thought that getting some drinks as a group would be a great idea.

We have a couple of bars in mind, but if anyone wants to post suggestions, please do so. Well confirm the actual place and time closer to the date but, in the meantime, please put the day aside.

Post here is you can make it

Hey, why not start your own thread about your get together? This thread is where I update with announcements for Poly Cocktails which is a monthly gathering organized by Open Love NY. Mods, can you split this please?

[LittleSara]

I'm leaving now!! Hope I didn't miss it! :)

[LittleSara]

That was sooo fun!! Thx for inviting us! :)

[nycindie]

LittleSara, I knew you'd receive lots of attention there! Glad you made it home alright.

[nycindie]

The latest email announcement from OpenLoveNY:

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We have some unexpected news about the Open Love NY Holiday party that had been scheduled for 12/16. The management for the party venue, without explanation, broke our rental agreement and returned our deposit. We are pursuing legal action against the company for breach of contract, but in the meantime, we have to change our plans for the party.


If you have already purchased a ticket to the 12/16 party, you will receive a full refund shortly from the ticket sales site. We apologize for any inconvenience this might have caused.


So we are moving the party to Monday’s regularly scheduled Poly Cocktails at Affaire on 12/12, from 7 pm to midnight, and the good news is that admission is, as always, FREE! It will be potluck, so please bring a covered dish, treats or food items to share. We’ll have DJ Friar Tuck set up in the back room for dancing starting around 9 pm, and a raffle for some
cool prizes, including Open Love NY t-shirts, free admission to events and autographed books. Please contact us at openloveny@gmail.com if you’d like to contribute something to the raffle.

Monday, Dec. 12
7:00 pm until midnight
Affaire
50 Avenue B (between 3rd & 4th Streets)

(212) 375-0665
Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

As with all Poly Cocktails parties, House Rules will be in effect:
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1947227125444&set=a.1947226725434.2094877.1385543936&type=1#!/groups/openloveny/doc/10150236723973435/


We hope you can join us for this very special Holiday Poly Cocktails!

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Anyone planning to attend?

[cuddlecakes]

Are there any meetups on weekends instead of Monday night, whether this group or another one?

[nycindie]

Are there any meetups on weekends instead of Monday night, whether this group or another one?

Sign up at meetup.com for the The New York Polyamory Meetup Group, which is also known as Tristate Poly. The 2nd Sunday each month, they have a discussion/meetup.

Next one is Jan. 8: http://www.meetup.com/New-York-Poly-Meetup-Group/events/kqjhnyqcblb/.

For people who live in NYC, weekdays/weeknights are better.

[nycindie]

From OpenLove NY:

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Start your Valentines celebrations early by joining us at Poly Cocktails!

Lounge and relax with our community on Monday, Feb 13th. Our co-host Diana will be away for this Poly Cocktail, so we will be having a special guest co-host, Carin, to fill in for this Poly Cocktail.

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, "others," girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you identify as polyamorous or if you are in an open relationship, or want to learn more about this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest.

New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with lighted name tags and introduce yourselves!

Monday, Feb 13th
7 pm to midnight
Affaire - 50 Avenue B (bet 3rd & 4th Streets)

212-375-0665

Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.

As with all Poly Cocktails parties, House Rules will be in effect:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/openloveny/doc/10150236723973435/


Save the dates for the next Poly Cocktails (2nd Monday of every month). Next one: Mar 12th (*5 year Poly Cocktail anniversary celebration*)

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[nycindie]

The latest announcement from OpenLoveNY:

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** 5th Anniversary Poly Cocktails, Monday March 12th @ Affaire **

Can you believe it?! It's been five years since we started Poly Cocktails. Wow! What started as a small gathering of 10 friends and lovers has now grown to a mailing list of more than 1,000 people! Our goal was to celebrate polyamory and create much-needed community. We are very proud of what this community has accomplished in that time, the contributions from regular attendees of Poly Cocktails, and our affiliation with Open Love NY and the great work we’ve done together.

As thanks for all your support over the years, we plan to have a big celebration at the next Poly Cocktails on Monday, March 12th. We are still finalizing details, but trust us — you will not want to miss this one! Plan on bringing food to share, and we’ll have some special surprises in store.

We also want to encourage those who have stories about Poly Cocktails and how the event has impacted their lives and their relationships to contact us at openloveny@gmail.com. We’d like to share some of your stories at the event as part of our celebration.

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, "others," girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you identify as polyamorous, if you are in an open relationship, or if you want to learn more about this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest.

New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with lighted name tags and introduce yourselves!

Monday, March 12, 7pm to midnight
Affaire
50 Avenue B
between 3rd & 4th Streets (East Village)
(212) 375-0665

Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.
As with all Poly Cocktails parties, House Rules will be in effect (see below).

Psst! Save the dates for the next Poly Cocktails (2nd Monday of every month):
April 9th, May 14th

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Poly Cocktail House Rules

Learn : Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.

Open communications : Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.

Verbal Consent : We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).

Expectations : check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.

Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.

Safe Space : Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.


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[nycindie]

Reminder: Poly Cocktails is Monday!

In addition to wishing everyone a happy holiday weekend, Open Love NY wants to remind you that Poly Cocktails is this Monday, April 9th at Affaire!

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, "others," girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you identify as polyamorous, if you are in an open relationship, or if you want to learn more about this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our
community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who might have a serious interest.

New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with lighted name tags and introduce yourselves!

Mon., April 9th
7 pm to midnight
Affaire
50 Avenue B (between 3rd & 4th Sreets)
212-375-0665
Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels.


RSVP on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/openloveny/10150656153653435/#%21/events/242091209222547)

Save the dates for the next Poly Cocktails (2nd Monday of every month): May 14th, June 11th

Lots of love & happiness,
O Man & Diana


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As with all Poly Cocktails parties, House Rules will be in effect:

Poly Cocktail House Rules

Learn : Poly Cocktails is for learning about polyamory. It is not a play space. No nudity, kink or sex play is permitted at the event.
Open communications : Poly Cocktails is a place to exercise open communications with intention, foster interactive dialogue, facilitate trust, develop your listening skills, and give and receive support.
Verbal Consent : We encourage everyone to obtain verbal consent and explicit negotiations before initiating physical contact (e.g. hugging).
Expectations : check them at the door! Interest in polyamory does not signal sexual availability or indicate sexual orientation.
Respectful behavior toward hosts and guests is required.
Safe Space : Poly Cocktails is safe space for all sexual orientations and gender/kink identities, as well as those who identify as monogamous. No photography, video or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.

[nycindie]

The latest from Open Love NY:

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Come out to our next Poly Cocktails, on Monday, May 14th at Affaire, and celebrate the new coming season with your NY Poly community!

*(Please note: Poly Cocktails is always the 2nd Monday of each month)*

As always, come solo or bring your wife, husband, "others," girlfriends, boyfriends and theirs and meet like-minded people. If you identify as polyamorous, if you are in an open relationship, or if you want to learn more about this loving and progressive way of life, we invite you to come and get advice and support, have some drinks and laughs, and build our community. All are welcome... feel free to pass this on to those who have a serious interest.

New folks, please come see our hosts and greeters with lighted name tags and introduce yourselves! You should also review the House Rules (http://www.openloveny.com/download/PolyCocktailsFlyer4-2012), downloadable from our website at www.openloveny.com or (or on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/groups/openloveny/doc/10150236723973435/)) prior to attending the event.


Monday, May 14th
7 pm to midnight
Affaire
50 Avenue B (btwn 3rd & 4th Streets)
**DOWNSTAIRS**
(212) 375-0665

Drink Specials: $4 wine. $4 beers. $5 Jack Daniels


As with all Poly Cocktails parties, House Rules will be in effect.

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[CielDuMatin]

I really wish you guys were doing this when I was traveling to NYC regularly to spend time with my OSO...

[nycindie]

I really wish you guys were doing this when I was traveling to NYC regularly to spend time with my OSO...Was that more than five years ago? Poly Cocktails just celebrated its 5th Anniversary in March!

[CielDuMatin]

Yeah, I stopped going down there about 5 years ago - we had gone to a poly gathering in Central Park for the big NYC poly group and found it didn't really fit with the sort of events that we were looking for. both of us were rather "poly and that's it" and it seemed like most of the others there very strongly embraced the "poly and..." philosophy - the "and ..." being pagan, GLBT, kink, whatever and the crowd wasn't very welcoming of two rather "business casual" folks....