Myers Briggs and polyamory. [Archive]

River

08-28-2009, 03:09 PM

I took the quiz twice. The first time I got INFP, the second time I got ISTJ.

Is there such a thing as a WTFF?

Each of the letters has only one paired letter, and they each indicate temperamental qualities like introversion/extroversion, thinking/feeling, etc.... So it wouldn't be surprizing that someone nearer to the middle of the scale between these poles could have letters flip around when testing again. Probably, a slightly different mood in an ambivert could have them flipping from I to E (introverstion to extroversion), for example. However, many people are way out on the right or left end of the scale, rather than the middle, on various items. Some people are solidly introverted or extroverted and would never flip flop in the test.

River

08-28-2009, 03:22 PM

I am an INFP.... Which makes me fairly sensitive, I think.

I'm also an INFP, which is really quite uncommon -- I think we're only 1-2% of the general population. My boyfriend is also an INFP!

Keirsey's system is much like the Myers-Briggs. Here's how he talks about the INFP.:

http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=keirsey&f=fourtemps&tab=3&c=healer

NeonKaos

08-28-2009, 03:35 PM

I'm not even particularly Introverted, either, and that's the letter that came up the same both times.

The thing is, I have a very loud speaking voice and when I'm in a social situation, I tend to act more withdrawn than I feel. I have been singled out while in a noisy crowd for being "the loud one" and I'm sick and tired of that so I tend to keep to myself more.

Creatress

08-28-2009, 03:50 PM

I don't think only certain MBTI types can be in poly relationships, but I think the MBTI is an important indicator of how people will respond and handle the relationship and whatever problems come up.

I happen to be an INTJ, and very proud of that. ;-) We're pretty rare. The man in our quad is an ISFJ, so we are on the same wavelength fairly regularly. Sometimes he gets a bit more hung up on facts and evidence when I can grant assumptions a bit more easily (S/N), and he is definitely more of an emotional arguer than a logical one (F/T), and that's how our differences crop up.

:p Then there's the other half, with the complimentary personality type:

My lady love, as well as the third (whom I'm not in a relationship with) are both ENFP. They need constant social interaction, which means neither actually deals that great with the triad, because if either spends time with the man of their life, the other feels left out, bored, etc. I'm a bit nervous to be the only T in the house!

River

08-28-2009, 03:59 PM

Mono, you here? I'd like to know your Keirsey or MB results!

MonoVCPHG

08-28-2009, 04:01 PM

Hey, JRM..I'm on it! I'll post it here. Not sure if I can access it through this station so I may have to do this from home. I'm curious myself :)

MonoVCPHG

08-28-2009, 04:31 PM

And the result is ISTJ! ...now to read about what that means LOL!

MonoVCPHG

08-28-2009, 04:38 PM

ISTJs are often called inspectors. They have a keen sense of right and wrong, especially in their area of interest and/or responsibility. They are noted for devotion to duty. Punctuality is a watchword of the ISTJ. The secretary, clerk, or business(wo)man by whom others set their clocks is likely to be an ISTJ.

As do other Introverted Thinkers, ISTJs often give the initial impression of being aloof and perhaps somewhat cold. Effusive expression of emotional warmth is not something that ISTJs do without considerable energy loss.

ISTJs are most at home with "just the facts, Ma'am." They seem to perform at highest efficiency when employing a step-by-step approach. Once a new procedure has proven itself (i.e., has been shown "to work,") the ISTJ can be depended upon to carry it through, even at the expense of their own health.

ISTJs are easily frustrated by the inconsistencies of others, especially when the second parties don't keep their commitments. But they usually keep their feelings to themselves unless they are asked. And when asked, they don't mince words. Truth wins out over tact. The grim determination of the ISTJ vindicates itself in officiation of sports events, judiciary functions, or an other situation which requires making tough calls and sticking to them.

His SJ orientation draws the ISTJ into the service of established institutions. Home, social clubs, government, schools, the military, churches -- these are the bastions of the SJ. "We've always done it this way" is often reason enough for many ISTJs. Threats to time-honored traditions or established organizations (e.g., a "run" on the bank) are the undoing of SJs, and are to be fought at all costs.

:eek: I'm pretty sure that last paragraph is not very poly in nature! Funny thing is I am in the military, respect the catholic church despite being non-practicing, and tend to be very punctual.

This really isn't a surprise.

River

08-28-2009, 05:38 PM

"We've always done it this way" is often reason enough for many ISTJs."

Eeeeek! :eek: I'm obviously quite the opposite of this one aspect!

Rarechild

08-28-2009, 05:41 PM

I was tested by a licensed evaluator about 2 years ago and came up ENFJ. It was pretty dead on, and gave me much cause to laugh at myself. I refer to the folder from time to time when I am sorting something out, and always find a clarity to my own motives that I wasn't able to see just thinking about where I stand in the situation emotionally.

AutumnalTone

08-28-2009, 05:47 PM

I took the quiz twice. The first time I got INFP, the second time I got ISTJ.

Is there such a thing as a WTFF?

I suspect the difference between the two means you're fairly balanced, registering near the middle of N/S, F/T, and P/J. Of course, without a good description of the ratings and how a couple of different answers can make for changes in descriptions, then the "WTF?" response is warranted!

The official test forces one letter or another. The one test I took allowed for equal ratings in a pair and the "X" designation for that. I think the latter approach is the better of the two. It would allow for me to be XXXP and you to be IXXX on any given rendition of the test and make the swing between letters on other takings to be wholly understandable.

River

08-28-2009, 05:48 PM

Keirsey on ENFJs -

http://www.keirsey.com/teacher.aspx

NeonKaos

08-28-2009, 06:42 PM

I suspect the difference between the two means you're fairly balanced, registering near the middle of N/S, F/T, and P/J. Of course, without a good description of the ratings and how a couple of different answers can make for changes in descriptions, then the "WTF?" response is warranted!

Funny; when I was in my 20's, I was all about being flexible, compromising, and showing the world how "not-uptight" I am. I also wasted a lot of energy doing that (not to turn the conversation to sex AGAIN, but the one thing that comes to mind as an example has to do with my experiences with anal sex, but there ARE other examples, I SWEAR!). At some point, I gave up being concerned about how I "come across to others" and I don't care if my preferences and eccentricities make me seem "uptight" or "closed off". I like my comfort zone and don't feel compelled to transcend it just for the hell of it. The way I look at it is, if someone has a problem with my comfort zone, go find your own.

I think I feel a poem coming on.

River

08-28-2009, 06:47 PM

The way I look at it is, if someone has a problem with my comfort zone, go find your own.

I like that.

how about this for a t-shirt:

"If you don't like how I live my life,
how about getting one of your own?"

NeonKaos

08-28-2009, 06:50 PM

I like that.

how about this for a t-shirt:

"If you don't like how I live my life,
how about getting one of your own?"

That would be grooovy except I hardly ever go out where people could read it!

River

08-28-2009, 06:56 PM

NeonKaos

08-28-2009, 07:04 PM

I lived that way (slightly hermit-like) for a bunch of years in the last decade. Now I need to be more socially involved. The pendulum has swung back and forth a few times over my four+ decades of life. Slow-swinging pendulum.

This is getting a bit OT, but I just love my cats so much, and they are at home, so that is where I need to be if I want to be with my cats (all 30-something of them, mostly ferals, but some are friendly). So, it's not really about avoiding people PER SE, but there aren't many humans who want to be around cats as much as I do, and the ones who do are busy with THEIR cats (i do rescue/fostering, and a lot of the "quality time" I speak of is spent cleaning up after them).

River

08-28-2009, 07:44 PM

(i do rescue/fostering)

That's a great service you're providing! I also love cats, but the cat Kevin & I kept (I don't like to call them 'mine,' as if they were property), now deceased, peed on Kevin's meditation pillow, and that was his last day as an indoor kitty! -- and probably the last time we keep a cat indoors ... largely also due to the fact that we're both midly alergic to them.

I also love cats -- but when we have land enough for her, our next "pet" will be a labrador retriever! -- also outdoors, though with a proper doghouse for those colder nights.

redsirenn

08-28-2009, 07:51 PM

Well, technically they are property... Learned this the hard way when during my divorce, my ex wanted MY cat. It is a little wierd that living things can be property, i know.

River

08-28-2009, 07:54 PM

The law regards dogs, cats, etc., as property, but that doesn't mean that I must or do. I think of them as friends or potential friends -- cross-species friends.

NeonKaos

08-28-2009, 08:03 PM

Legally in the US at least, pets ARE property... But I don't value them as such.

If anything, THEY own ME.

And FYI, when they pee on something they know is special or important to you, it usually means they are trying to communicate a health problem. Not always though. Some of my cats are just jerks. But EVERY one that has peed on the bed (I have a waterproof mattress cover now) has subsequently been diagnosed with some sort of kidney or bladder pathology.

River

08-28-2009, 08:54 PM

good to know.

vandalin

08-28-2009, 09:21 PM

And FYI, when they pee on something they know is special or important to you, it usually means they are trying to communicate a health problem. Not always though. Some of my cats are just jerks. But EVERY one that has peed on the bed (I have a waterproof mattress cover now) has subsequently been diagnosed with some sort of kidney or bladder pathology.

Not trying to stay OT here, but it also can happen if they are mad at you for something. When my mom would go out of town her cat would pee on our (hubby and my) stuff! Nothing wrong with her physically, but emotionally she was, well pissed.

As for the actual topic, The FB quiz that I took came up with was "INFJ:You seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. You want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. You are conscientious and committed to your firm values. You develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. You are organized and decisive in implementing your vision." Although I think for J/P I've gotten both as I do tend to be very "perceiving" over "judging" usually.

redpepper

08-29-2009, 01:49 PM

Did the Facebook quiz too and came out ENFP... although, having done it before I was right on the edge of everything but the Extrovert one.

This really stood out as a poly trait!
"ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences."
http://www.personalitypage.com/ENFP.html

So anyone know what the most common ones are?

Mono, you come off as ISTJ sometimes. The whole "we have always done it this way" is more flexible than one might imagine. It is true, i have never met a more punctual person in my life! I love that as I come from a family that drives me crazy with their lack of punctuality. I have always found it very rude... to them it is perfectly okay to show up for a dinner party an hour late! It drives me crazy!!!
Wow, just read it again for the fourth time! You are so like that! Uncanny!

MonoVCPHG

08-29-2009, 03:11 PM

perfectly okay to show up for a dinner party an hour late! It drives me crazy!!!
Wow, just read it again for the fourth time! You are so like that! Uncanny!

Don't read it too many times...you may change your mind :eek:!!!

But at least I'll be on time when you dump me

:D

Ceoli

08-29-2009, 07:17 PM

I've tested three times with licensed evaluators and came out as ENXP almost always scoring exactly between thinking and feeling, sometimes being a point towards feeling.

All I know is that I'm a people person and love people and find any people that cross my path to be amazing because they're people.

NeonKaos

08-29-2009, 08:58 PM

All I know is that I'm a people person and love people and find any people that cross my path to be amazing because they're people.

Hmm... I'm the opposite way. Human individuals usually at some point end up disgusting and/or disappointing me for some reason, usually having something to do with the way animals are being treated.

But I still keep coming back for more...

This is sort of along the lines of the "enigmatic" post I made in that other thread that RedPepper started.

PS -

I wasn't always like this. I used to think I was a people-person but doing cat-rescue will cure someone of that... Although we need people-people in animal rescue too.... it just ain't me babe.

XYZ123

08-30-2009, 01:19 AM

Hmm... I'm the opposite way. Human individuals usually at some point end up disgusting and/or disappointing me for some reason

My dear, HOW are you poly? You sound like my ex gf to some extent. And I often wondered the same about her for all I loved her and still do.

Wait....you're not her in disguise are you? *looking around paranoid* :eek:

MUAH!

MonoVCPHG

08-30-2009, 01:29 AM

My dear, HOW are you poly?

I don't you have to love all of mankind to be poly, you just have to be able to love more than one. Technically if you can love two people and hate the rest of the world..you're still poly :D

XYZ123

08-30-2009, 01:37 AM

MonoVCPHG

08-30-2009, 02:20 AM

yeah..I'm a bit messed up today too...:rolleyes:

NeonKaos

08-30-2009, 01:07 PM

Psstt...Mono...I was teasing. ;) I'm in a weird mood today. Caught between a low and a high. So playful, but ripe with sarcasm. YGirl-I hope I didn't offend. You really do sound alot like my ex. And dammit if I don't still pine over her most days. She's an amazing woman.

See why I said I wasn't sure if I wanted to reveal this part of me on the forum?

I never said I "Hate people". I do hate a lot of things people do.

I wasn't always this way. I used to go around like, "I just LOOOOVE everyone", but after doing feline rescue for a few years, I changed, and it has been working for me just fine.

There are many folks in the pet-rescue community who turn me off for other reasons. Many are simply animal-hoarders who are masquerading as rescue-people (kind of like "swingers" or "cheaters" who think they are "poly"), or bored housewives who don't return people's calls but want the attention and praise that comes with "volunteering for a non-profit".

I'm not really a dyed-in-the-wool "polyamorist" anyway. I am able to "be in love" with more than one person in the same time period, but that doesn't mean that I LIKE the majority of the population, either individually or as a group.

I was pleased to discover that there is a blog called "The Polyamorous Misanthrope" because I was feeling a bit like an oxymoron up until that point.

XYZ123

08-30-2009, 02:23 PM

I'm sorry if I upset you. Please don't feel you need to go into any kind of "hiding" over it. After all, I did say you reminded me of an amazing woman I happen to know personally. I'm just in a very odd mindset. As I say to friends who will listen, sometimes I have bipolar...sometimes it has me. :(

NeonKaos

08-30-2009, 02:30 PM

No issue. It takes more than someone on a message board comparing me to their ex to upset me.

XYZ123

08-30-2009, 02:32 PM

:D My ex isn't the worst person to be compared to. Not even nearly.

Barry

08-31-2009, 10:42 PM

I took the quiz twice. The first time I got INFP, the second time I got ISTJ.

Is there such a thing as a WTFF?

I don't think you could have the double F. It would have to be something like WTFH. :-)

redpepper

09-01-2009, 08:54 PM

Hmm... I'm the opposite way. Human individuals usually at some point end up disgusting and/or disappointing me for some reason, usually having something to do with the way animals are being treated.

But I still keep coming back for more...

This is sort of along the lines of the "enigmatic" post I made in that other thread that RedPepper started.

PS -

I wasn't always like this. I used to think I was a people-person but doing cat-rescue will cure someone of that... Although we need people-people in animal rescue too.... it just ain't me babe.

When it comes to animal abuse I'm with you ygirl. Zero tolerance for it. No exceptions for it at all. There haven't been since I was 15 and became vegetarian after getting ahold of some "PETA" magazines.

NeonKaos

09-01-2009, 10:58 PM

I eat meat but I try to stick to locally and humanely raised ones and shellfish.

Ceoli

09-01-2009, 11:13 PM

I worked in equine rescue for a while and it was *hard*. It's definitely challenged me with my view of people, but I have a pretty strongly held philosophy around that kind of stuff and I work very hard to find compassion for all people, even the biggest assholes that starve and neglect their animals. I don't always succeed, but I never stop working towards it.

Barry

09-01-2009, 11:21 PM

I worked in equine rescue for a while and it was *hard*

I'm a rescue kind of guy,.... dogs, cats, insects, reptiles, and people. I'm still waiting for someone to rescue me. Pathetic!

Ceoli

09-01-2009, 11:28 PM

I'm a rescue kind of guy,.... dogs, cats, insects, reptiles, and people. I'm still waiting for someone to rescue me. Pathetic!

Not pathetic at all! But hey...the person best equipped to rescue you is *you* :)

XYZ123

09-01-2009, 11:29 PM

I'm a rescue kind of guy,.... dogs, cats, insects, reptiles, and people. I'm still waiting for someone to rescue me. Pathetic!

Except for the insects, we could open a business. Happily, I've been rescued. Well, hubby has helped me rescue myself.

Barry

09-01-2009, 11:38 PM

Not pathetic at all! But hey...the person best equipped to rescue you is *you* :)

Just an off day......as Ygirl says,.....it's my "Peewins" getting the best of me.
:(

Ceoli

09-01-2009, 11:39 PM

Yeah, I hear ya. It can be freakin' lonely when there is nobody to wake up to. :(

lola

11-01-2009, 05:46 PM

Idealist (NF)
http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=keirsey&f=fourtemps&tab=3&c=overview

Not sure what NF stands for tho'.

rosevett

11-01-2009, 10:51 PM

Do you think people that practice polyamorous lifestyles successfully (i.e. within the "definition" of the full-consent, etc. and to the benefit of the relationship as a whole) Have common personality traits? Do you think some personality traits can handle this type of relationship better than others?

New kid on the block here but I have to say one of the biggest advocators for MBTI for relationship navigation.

At the onset of our relationship my Richard not only explored the definition and meaning of Polyamory; I just knew it instinctually he also explored personality differences, specifically Myers Briggs.

Come to find out we are EXACT opposites and not only speak differently but listen differently meaning we can clearly and easily misunderstand each other. We learned how the other need to hear what we were saying and I learned to NOT demand an immediate answer or drill till I got one, he needed to process information(the facts) to come to a conclusion where I just used my gut feelings.

He learned that just because I said something that it had to happen now, or eventually or even at all..it was an IDEA..and I spu ideas. He just seen them as another thing to add to his *to do list* or something that wasn't in his comfort level.

And the really awesome part about us learning and using MBTI as a tool to navigate our life/love we got to participate in a workshop presented my Mimi at the 2008 East Coast Poly Conference.

All the 'types' were represented my MY extreme ENFPism *look birdie* to Richards Extreme ISTJ *where's my to do list/let me think about this*

Mimi did an awesome job explaining each trait (letter) and comparing the E/I N/S F/T P/J and had us(the group) move around the room in a spectrum of the % that we believed was our dynamic for each trait. This clarified to me that I truly was the extreme. Richard actually found out he wasn't SO extreme and liked not being such a stickler.

In conclusion of the workshop she had us join up with our 'Middles' so we had four groups NF, NT, SF, ST and as she went through each group, Richards being the smallest, she explained how each personality is essential to polyamory as a whole(and this can be related to any dynamic IMO) We need the ISTJ's to keep track and keep the logic so that us ENFP's flighty ideas actually get done and in a reasonable manner.

There is so much information in the MBTI realm and I am not the best person to chatter about it - ME, I'm the ENFP...I get distracted easily and am very curious and creative so to complete a thought or retain statistics is a complete challenge; however Richard and those that are passionate about understanding it help me advocate that it's a great way to get yourself into someone elses shoes so you can communicate better and enjoy life with all it's different personalities.

If I remember correctly Richard and I are destine to have a challenging relationship - I do not believe that as we understand that sometimes we are not understood and revisit an issue, and quickly, to make sure we are all on the same page.

I am looking forward to others ideas on the MBTI's I have taken the quicky test on Quizzy and FB and always come up ENFP, but if you are in the middle of a spectrum you very well can come up different letter is those short quizzes.

ladyjools

11-02-2009, 01:03 AM

i am INFP
R is ENFP
M is INFP
im not sure what montianboy is :)

Jools

ladyjools

11-02-2009, 02:56 AM

i just read the entire topic seems there are lots of INFP ENFPs,
and from what i heard INFPs are kind of rare, so i wonder if we are more likley to be poly :)

redpepper

11-02-2009, 07:14 AM

I would suggest we are ladyjools. Both ENFP and INFP. I would suggest that poly people are more often than not "switches" when it comes to BDSM also.

ladyjools

11-02-2009, 03:07 PM

im switch :)
bi poly switch..
aka
very felxiable in many ways.

TheMountainBoy

11-02-2009, 03:21 PM

anyone got a link for teh test?

ladyjools

11-02-2009, 03:26 PM

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

TheMountainBoy

11-02-2009, 03:38 PM

ok got link and my resluts were ESFP. am i safe??
*grin*

ladyjools

11-02-2009, 03:39 PM

this is really intresting for me in perspective of my relationships
because
i have montianboy ESFP
R - ESFP
me - INFP
M - INFP

Considering there are 16 types this is very cool :)

Jools

Argent

11-02-2009, 03:57 PM

That is very cool :-)

R

LovingRadiance

11-02-2009, 08:06 PM

Have any of you read the book??
It's called "Please Understand Me" and my dad made us read it as kids so we could understand each other's limitations.

I'm an ESFJ.
My sister is an ISFJ.

We're very emotionally close and GREAT parents to my kids.
I can't remember off hand what Maca is (all the letters get jumbled in my head) but as I recall he and Mono were talking and are the same.
I don't know for sure what GreenGecko is-but I know that reading through the book together we were all amazed at how well we "fit" together.

violet

11-02-2009, 09:11 PM

HMA is an ISTP. I'm an "INXP". These tests are creepily accurate. lol

I don't know how much anyone has looked into the types, or how they work. I sit right between INFP and INTP. When I had my full evaluation done in a class several years back, I was described as an INXP by the assessor. It pretty much means I combine the traits of INFP and INTP equally.

HMA is ISTP to the core. :D

HappiestManAlive

11-02-2009, 09:32 PM

Except that the lst time I took it, I got a completely different result - ENTJ, lol.

Sunshinegrl

11-02-2009, 09:48 PM

ENFJ

Right on the ball for me. :)

aussielover

11-03-2009, 02:33 AM

This one was the same for me as the fb one. INFJ... apparetnly we're only 1% of the population, and it's pretty right on for me too

MonoVCPHG

11-03-2009, 02:37 AM

ENFJ

Right on the ball for me. :)

Only one ball?? Wow, you're even more mono than me ;)

violet

11-03-2009, 03:04 AM

Except that the lst time I took it, I got a completely different result - ENTJ, lol.

That was also a severely shortened version of the test. The longer and "official" version with more evenly spaced questions is probably going to be more on the money, baby. lol

Sunshinegrl

11-03-2009, 04:05 AM

Only ball I got..Is an Excercise Ball. :P

MonoVCPHG

11-03-2009, 04:15 AM

Only ball I got..Is an Excercise Ball. :P

I've got two that provide lots of excercise as well...errrr.....ummmm....awkward

Sunshinegrl

11-03-2009, 05:19 AM

I've got two that provide lots of excercise as well...errrr.....ummmm....awkward

And Im sure you use BOTh at once too. :eek:

MonoVCPHG

11-03-2009, 05:29 AM

And Im sure you use BOTh at once too. :eek:

Well they're small enough :(

HappiestManAlive

11-03-2009, 09:49 AM

Tmi! Tmi!

redpepper

05-19-2010, 05:44 AM

now that we have new members and this thread was a million years ago, I thought it would be interesting to see what comes out of getting to know other peoples myer's briggs personality test....

there is a link on here somewhere to the test if anyone cares to find it.

other than that....

what do you all know about it?:)

Ariakas

05-19-2010, 03:49 PM

I have done these before, I always fall into the idealist category. I recently did this test and ended up a Idealist - Teacher...ENFJ

http://keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=keirsey&f=fourtemps&tab=3&c=teacher

My cousin is a ISTJ Gaurdian Inspector...

Pretty cool stuff...I find most of my personality does not fit however, the teacher side. Must have been an odd day...but I was also the kid who, when we did aptitude tests, would seem to get "art" or "drama" as a potential career choice with really low scores for the tech sector or science...

Morningglory629

05-19-2010, 04:44 PM

Ari- Just took this one. Surprise surprise...I am a Guardian. :D

Ariakas

05-19-2010, 04:45 PM

ari- just took this one. Surprise surprise...i am a guardian. :d

esfj? :)

redpepper

05-19-2010, 11:24 PM

wait a minute... what is a guardian? I am confused... I guess I need to look at the site? The one I did was on FB I think

Ariakas

05-19-2010, 11:30 PM

Gaurdian is one of the macro categories. Each macro is then subdivided into 4 sub categories :)

http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=keirsey&f=fourtemps&tab=3&c=overview

KatTails

05-20-2010, 12:15 AM

I am ISFJ - Protector

•moderately expressed introvert
•moderately expressed sensing personality
•moderately expressed feeling personality
•moderately expressed judging personality

Protectors - are not as outgoing and talkative as the Provider Guardians [ESFJs], and their shyness is often misjudged as stiffness, even coldness, when in truth Protectors are warm-hearted and sympathetic, giving happily of themselves to those in need.

At work Protectors are seldom happy in situations where the rules are constantly changing, or where long-established ways of doing things are not respected. For their part, Protectors value tradition, both in the culture and in their family. Protectors believe deeply in the stability of social ranking conferred by birth, titles, offices, and credentials. And they cherish family history and enjoy caring for family property, from houses to heirlooms.

The other parts of the Protector description does not pertain to me. I also took this on FB last year and I think I got the same result.

saudade

05-20-2010, 12:55 AM

I'm another ENFJ (teacher).
http://www.keirsey.com/teacher.aspx
http://typelogic.com/enfj.html

Here's where I took the test:
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp

K is ENFP. I forget what Twig is; I'll ask him tonight. No clue about anyone else in our constellation.

idealist

05-20-2010, 01:51 AM

Wow....I never saw this thread before!!! It's interesting to see how many N's there are on this forum considering that N's (as opposed to S's) only make up about 10% of the population.

I used to teach the Myers Briggs, so I've given it to everyone I know, and it's interesting to see patterns in the people I choose for lovers and friends- most of them are NF's.

I am- ENFJ
Richard ENFP
Steven INFP
Charles ENFJ
John ESTJ

My best friends:
Terry- INFP
Stacie- ENFP
Julie- ENFJ
Katherine- ENFP

idealist

05-20-2010, 01:53 AM

wait a minute... what is a guardian? I am confused... I guess I need to look at the site? The one I did was on FB I think

Guardians are SJ's. Guardians can be introverts or extroverts. And they can be F's or T's (meaning makes decisions based on values or logic) but they are all Sensory oriented in how they percieve the world through their senses (rather then intuition) and they are judicious- meaning- dot the i's cross the t's...always on time....they makes lists etc.

LovingRadiance

05-20-2010, 05:01 AM

I'm a provider-ESFJ.
My sister is an ISFJ.
I don't remember GGs but I know his last letter is a P and the first is X because it's dead even. :)
I THINK he's an XNFP.

I think Mark is an ISTJ. :)

I find these REALLY interesting too.

redpepper

05-20-2010, 05:43 AM

I find it interesting that quite a few poly people seem to be E or I, NF, P or J. I think it is talked about earlier in this thread... what does that mean, if it is in fact true?

midnightsun

05-20-2010, 05:49 AM

I THINK he's an XNFP.

Yes, he is. :)

I think Mark is an ISTJ. :)

Right again... Oops! LOL... I mean, who's Mark?? ;) LOL

I'm an ENFP (Champion), my husband is an ISFP (Crafter).

Morningglory629

05-20-2010, 06:04 AM

esfj? :)

I believe it is esfj...I am a Guardian Provider.

midnightsun

05-20-2010, 06:47 AM

I find it interesting that quite a few poly people seem to be E or I, NF, P or J. I think it is talked about earlier in this thread... what does that mean, if it is in fact true?

Well, there are only 2 other options (S or T) so everyone has to be one of those combinations.

Here are the choices:

E or I = Extroverted or Introverted
S or N = Sensing (preferring tangibles) or Intuitive (preferring ideas & concepts)
T or F = Thinking (relying primarily on logic & reasoning) or Feeling (relying primarily on emotions & desires)
J or P = Judging (operating on definite, specific parameters such as schedules & deadlines) or Perceiving (operating on flexible, dynamic parameters)

The entire concept is fascinating for me. If I had to venture a guess, I would theorize that the Guardians (SJ's) are the least common group in polyamory being drawn as they are to traditional values. But, since LR & Maca are both Guardians, that may not hold up in reality.

I would expect there to be more SP's and Idealists (NF's) who are P's than any other type because of their tendency to prefer flexibility and options rather than embracing structure & rules.

My inner nerd would like to volunteer to graph the data though if everyone would like to take the test & then post their results in this thread. :D

SchrodingersCat

05-20-2010, 08:59 AM

Personality test results

Ta-dah, your personality type is ESTJ!

Extraverted (E) 50% Introverted (I) 50%
Sensing (S) 50% Intuitive (N) 50%
Thinking (T) 50% Feeling (F) 50%
Judging (J) 50% Perceiving (P) 50%

WTF does THAT mean??!? I'm perfectly balanced? HA! yeah right!

Ironically, it's also the exact opposite of what I pegged myself as by reading the 4 definitions of the letters and picking either E or I, S or N etc... Which gave me INFJ

No wonder I'm in physics... psychology is definitely not a science!!!!

Edit: I just realized that "ESTJ" are the "first" letters for each pair, so it probably just went with those and didn't actually evaluate me... I think I'll just go around telling everyone I'm perfectly balanced, because the internet says! ;)

SchrodingersCat

05-20-2010, 10:04 AM

I find it interesting that quite a few poly people seem to be E or I, NF, P or J. I think it is talked about earlier in this thread... what does that mean, if it is in fact true?

I read a little more about what the J/P mean... It seems the letters cannot be taken separately, all 4 of them work together to make an overall meaning, as opposed to just "4 different aspects of your personality"

Sensing/iNtuition are the Perception traits
Thinking/Feeling are the Judging traits
J/P refers to which of your Judging or Perception traits are extroverted (making the other, P/J respectively, your introverted trait)
E/I refers to whether your it's your Extroverted or Introverted trait that is dominant.

So ENFP:

P means your Perceiving trait "Intuitive" is your extroverted trait
E means your extroverted trait "Intuitive" is dominant
So your dominant personality type "Extroverted Intuitive"

INFP:
P still means your Perceiving trait "Intuitive" is extroverted
But now I means your Introverted Judging trait "Feeling" dominates
Making you an "Introverted Feeling" type

To summarize the "NF" trend that RP noticed, we are dominated by these 4 personality types:
INFJ: "Introverted Intuitive"
INFP: "Introverted Feeling"
ENFJ: "Extroverted Feeling"
ENFP: "Extroverted Intuitive"

I needed the pictures to really get it:
http://www.timeenoughforlove.org/Notation.htm

idealist

05-21-2010, 04:24 AM

I find it interesting that quite a few poly people seem to be E or I, NF, P or J. I think it is talked about earlier in this thread... what does that mean, if it is in fact true?

NF's are Introspective/Intuitive Feeling Oriented people. meaning that the way we process things is through our intuition and we instrospect about things more. Has anyone ever told you "it's just not that deep" or implied that? it's because they are an S. S's are sensory oriented and a true S only wants to focus on what can be percieved through the senses.....seeing, smelling, tasting, hearing, physically feeling etc. An N can percieve more sublte things through intuition and introspection.

The F means that we make our decisions based on our feelings or values. As opposed to a T who makes decisions based on logic.

There has never been an NF president of the United States, although Gandhi was an NF. NF's aren't willing to deal with the bureaucracy in order to get to a postion like the presidency, although they are idealists and will go to great lengths to achieve success for a cause they believe in.

LovingRadiance

05-21-2010, 06:00 PM

Schroeding-
you might pick up the book.

"please understand me II"

It goes MUCH more in depth and is MUCH clearer. ;)

I have the book because my dad insisted I read it-so I could understand why we do NOT function the same way. It's a very helpful relationship tool.

Honestheart

05-21-2010, 08:05 PM

Do you think some personality traits can handle this type of relationship better than others?
I am an INFP.... Which makes me fairly sensitive, I think.

I do not think there is a personality trait, i mean if we say that then is there a personality trait that makes monogamy a good fit for somebody else? or a personality trait fer homosexual relationships? or for polygamous relationships?
but still.. i am interested to see if there is a trend...
i am an ISFJ
Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging
and heress what it says about those with this personality (in a nutshell, nt full details )
and guess what it says about people with these personality traits...
"ISFJs are characterized above all by their desire to serve others, their 'need to be needed.' In extreme cases, this need is so strong that standard give-and-take relationships are deeply unsatisfying to them. ISFJs are interested in maintaining order and harmony in every aspect of their lives. They are steadfast and meticulous in handling their responsibilities. Although quiet, they are people-oriented and very observant. Not only do they remember details about others, but they observe and respect others' feelings. Friends and family are likely to describe them as thoughtful and trustworthy. "
what i find interesting is..... "standard" give and take relationships are unsatisfying for them.... giggle, maybe that was why i went fer poly relationship, poly certain is not the standard (yet) and also "interested in maintaining order and harmony in every aspect of their lives" yeah, you kinda need that with any relationship but it certainly becomes even more of a requirement in poly...
hmmm.. interesting thread...

i wonder if there is a certain personality trait.... i think there is not, and this is coincidence but... perhaps a few other folks can change my mind LOL <-- was that an attempt at harmony giggle

dragonsong

05-23-2010, 03:05 AM

I find this thread absolutely fascinating having been interested in Myers Briggs for over 15 years. FYI, I have stayed steady as an INFJ through all of those years.

One piece that's been alluded to but I think needs more attention is that the 16 types are deeper than just their four letter combination. M.B. was based on thinking by Jung, which focused on cognitive functions (how we perceive and process information).

My primary partner is an INFP and I am an INFJ. Given the similarities of our letter combination and personality descriptions, we couldn't understand why we seemed to come at things from completely different angles most of the time! The 'ah-ha' moment for me was when I looked into the cognitive functions.

To keep it simple, her top two cognitive functions (for an INFP) are IF and EN (in order). This means that she primarily takes in information through her internal feeling - she is very in tune with her own values and needs. Her secondary cognitive function (EN) brings her to want to express these values in a unique and external way. Combined, she feels strongly driven to express her desire for a new way of living on this earth based on her personal values and expression. Living poly is a large part of her strongly internal values-based expression.

I, on the other hand, as an INFJ have my top two cognitive functions as IN and EF. This means that I primarily take the world in through my intuition. I sense very strongly how things could or should be. My EF means that I am always looking to make people feel good and comfortable and am keenly in tune with other's values and feelings. Combined, I strongly sense the way that the world could or should be in order to make it more functional, just and loving, and will cross over many different boundaries and break many cultural rules to do so, but almost always in a way that makes people feel valued and loved. Living poly just makes sense to me in a completely intuitive way.

Going into a lot of detail about how this affects our communication is TMI for ya'll, but let's just say that it has great implications about how we need to talk to one another lovingly and with great understanding. In short, our different functions (seen negatively) can lead me to feel embarrassed of her outward expressions of her values and she can feel threatened and confined by my 'appropriateness.'

Maybe this is too much information, but I found it extremely helpful to delve in deeper. To find out more, type in a google search your type and cognitive function (google search words: INFJ 'cognitive function') and some links will pop up.

Hope that's helpful! :)

SchrodingersCat

05-23-2010, 11:26 AM

Maybe this is too much information, but I found it extremely helpful to delve in deeper. To find out more, type in a google search your type and cognitive function (google search words: INFJ 'cognitive function') and some links will pop up.

Hope that's helpful! :)

Not TMI at all, very helpful! The cognitive function part really sets it out, thank you!

PollyPocket

09-21-2010, 04:06 PM

I was reading II's Blog this a.m. and came across this:

I'm enjoying your posts!! Love the way you think and process things!!!

Have you ever taken the Myers Briggs test?? If so, I'm guessing you're INTJ.....
Thanks and keep sharing!!! :)

(If you don't know - www.humanmetrics.com) .

I had been thinking about this a lot lately because of our OWN personality types in this Quasi Triad (is that a new term she asks??).

Me: ENTP
Hubby: ISTP
C: ENFP

I often wonder if 'our' relationship sort of works because of our P commonality. I mean let's face it, P's are much more open to the world around them, than their counterpart J's. Of course, the downside is that our plans change so fast, that it would drive ANY J wild!!

Anyone done in investigation into this and the Poly world. I bet the numbers are skewed toward NFs, NTs, and P's.

P2

MonoVCPHG

09-21-2010, 04:51 PM

There are a lot of "P"S mentioned I believe. Not surprisingly I have no P in my personality :) ISTJ

PollyPocket

09-21-2010, 05:05 PM

I scanned the posts, and it does look like there is quite a LOT of NFP's, NFs and NTs.

Of course, those are interspersed with a few J's here and there just for balance.

Mono, ISTJ, it must be a difficult thing to come to some sort of logical conclusion for you - in the Military and Catholic! Wow, the rules and structure that bring you comfort HAVE been thrown out the window, huh? ;)

Anyhow, fascinating....I love the fact that I am an ENTP....big ideas, big creativity, little follow through!! :) So me!! Rules have never worked well for me....I guess that is why I am here!! :)

Thoughts?

RedPepper, any chance you can move my NEW MB Thread to here?? Thx!!

MonoVCPHG

09-21-2010, 05:22 PM

Mono, ISTJ, it must be a difficult thing to come to some sort of logical conclusion for you - in the Military and Catholic! Wow, the rules and structure that bring you comfort HAVE been thrown out the window, huh? ;)

!!

The combination of my mono "wiring", social background, religeous conditioning and love of stability is overcome by two things - my love for Redpepper and the relationship she has with Polynerdist.. Without those I would not be here. I am not in my natural habitat so to speak :)

phoenix762

09-21-2010, 06:27 PM

And the result is ISTJ! ...now to read about what that means LOL!

yeah, I got that, too. Some of it, yeah, it sounds like me, some...well, DK;0)

TruckerPete

09-21-2010, 07:47 PM

Hrm, INFP for me. Apparently I'm special with only 1% of the population! :rolleyes:

As I sit at work, on the poly forum, also taking the MB test, this bit rings just a biiiiit true:
At work, Healers are adaptable, welcome new ideas and new information, are patient with complicated situations, but impatient with routine details.

:D

redpepper

09-21-2010, 09:54 PM

still ENFP, no change there... although my E and I is teetering on the edge... I could fall into either.

MindfulAgony

09-22-2010, 05:27 AM

I'm INTP here. Been stable since my early 20's.

PollyPocket

09-22-2010, 02:23 PM

still ENFP, no change there... although my E and I is teetering on the edge... I could fall into either.

Apparently one of the most notable changes, as we age, is that the E becomes more I, and vica versa.

Quite a shock for me, being a VERY high E at one point, to now be seeking time and space in the cave! :)

phoenix762

09-22-2010, 08:18 PM

Ariakas

09-22-2010, 08:22 PM

You know, I wonder. I have had to take a NUMBER of those pre-employment "behavior tests" when I've submitted a resume. I wonder if this is a version of the Myers Briggs? Anyone know?
Anyone know what I mean? It's always the same damn test, too. Pfft.

My cousin worked for a company that specialized in those tests. Its usually a regional thing. All the tests are similar but there tends to be one or two top knotch companies that will read the test after to give the assessment. Its likely why they are the same

the tests are also industry specific usually.

Lemondrop

09-22-2010, 09:20 PM

I was...

"Guardian Portrait of the Protector (ISFJ)

We are lucky that Protectors make up as much as ten percent the population, because their primary interest is in the safety and security of those they care about - their family, their circle of friends, their students, their patients, their boss, their fellow-workers, or their employees. Protectors have an extraordinary sense of loyalty and responsibility in their makeup, and seem fulfilled in the degree they can shield others from the dirt and dangers of the world. Speculating and experimenting do not intrigue Protectors, who prefer to make do with time-honored and time-tested products and procedures rather than change to new. At work Protectors are seldom happy in situations where the rules are constantly changing, or where long-established ways of doing things are not respected. For their part, Protectors value tradition, both in the culture and in their family. Protectors believe deeply in the stability of social ranking conferred by birth, titles, offices, and credentials. And they cherish family history and enjoy caring for family property, from houses to heirlooms.

Wanting to be of service to others, Protectors find great satisfaction in assisting the downtrodden, and can deal with disability and neediness in others better than any other type. They are not as outgoing and talkative as the Provider Guardians [ESFJs], and their shyness is often misjudged as stiffness, even coldness, when in truth Protectors are warm-hearted and sympathetic, giving happily of themselves to those in need. "

Easy says I don't love easily, but when I do, I give myself completely. I'm not sure I agree.

Does this answer the original question?

ETA: Easy is ISTJ--"Guardian Portrait of the Inspector (ISTJ)

The one word that best describes Inspectors is superdependable. Whether at home or at work, Inspectors are extraordinarily persevering and dutiful, particularly when it comes to keeping an eye on the people and products they are responsible for. In their quiet way, Inspectors see to it that rules are followed, laws are respected, and standards are upheld. "

DrunkenPorcupine

09-23-2010, 08:31 AM

I'm an ENFP. I think there's some relation. :P

nycindie

01-17-2011, 12:57 AM

Just took two different tests online and got the same results for both. Seems I am an Idealist/Healer, or INFP.

TruckerPete

01-17-2011, 01:18 AM

Just took two different tests online and got the same results for both. Seems I am an Idealist/Healer, or INFP.

*high five*

redpepper

01-17-2011, 02:52 AM

*high five*
Times two. It seems most poly peeps are INFP or ENFP.

LovingRadiance

01-18-2011, 03:28 AM

I had written that I was an ESFJ,

but having done the full test now;
I'm an ENXJ.
The x being that I test out equal between T/F.
I tend to live life from a T perspective though.

So generally I'm an ENTJ-with moments of being an ENFJ.

Seasnail

01-18-2011, 05:28 AM

I took the quiz twice. The first time I got INFP, the second time I got ISTJ.

Is there such a thing as a WTFF?

If there is, I'm certain there's also IWTF, which is me. :p

redpepper

01-18-2011, 05:33 AM

what the fucker fuck...? yup that's me most of the time.:o

FlameKat

01-18-2011, 07:25 AM

Here's my result:

I am an INFP

Dominant: Introverted Feeling
Auxiliary: Extraverted Intuition
Tertiary: Introverted Sensing
Inferior: Extraverted Thinking

Charlie

01-18-2011, 09:10 PM

I'm also an INFP, which is really quite uncommon -- I think we're only 1-2% of the general population. My boyfriend is also an INFP!

Keirsey's system is much like the Myers-Briggs. Here's how he talks about the INFP.:

http://www.keirsey.com/handler.aspx?s=keirsey&f=fourtemps&tab=3&c=healer

I'm also an INFP. Interesting Mr. River, very interesting.

redpepper

01-18-2011, 10:10 PM

INFP is rare and apparently everyone who is this is poly! ;)

nycindie

01-18-2011, 11:09 PM

I wanted my breakdown of percentages, like what others hav shared, but couldn't find my test results from the other day. So I took another test somewhere else, and again came out INFP.

Here is my breakdown:

Personality test results

Ta-dah, your personality type is INFP!
Introverted (I) 86% Extraverted (E) 14%
Intuitive (N) 68% Sensing (S) 32%
Feeling (F) 85% Thinking (T) 15%
Perceiving (P) 91% Judging (J) 9%

This test seemed a little more able to be accurate, because it gives you the option of choosing "right in the middle" as opposed to one or the other answer. It is located here: http://kisa.ca/personality/

redpepper

01-18-2011, 11:21 PM

Jade

01-19-2011, 12:44 AM

I see I'm not the only ISTJ, though S only slightly outweighs the N, so maybe I'm an IXTJ:) Hubby's never been formally tested, but in self-testing years ago, he came out as an INTP (not that he cares or remembers; I am the cataloguer of these things:)).

MonoVCPHG

01-19-2011, 12:47 AM

I see I'm not the only ISTJ, .

Me too :)

Charlie

01-19-2011, 05:55 AM

Ta-dah, your personality type is INFP!
Introverted (I) 82% Extraverted (E) 18%
Intuitive (N) 55% Sensing (S) 45%
Feeling (F) 65% Thinking (T) 35%
Perceiving (P) 64% Judging (J) 36%

nycindie

01-19-2011, 06:51 AM

Ta-dah, your personality type is INFP!Wow, another one of us! We're like pod people, taking over the forum.

Tonberry

01-19-2011, 08:35 PM

Ta-dah, your personality type is INFP!
Introverted (I) 61% Extraverted (E) 39%
Intuitive (N) 77% Sensing (S) 23%
Feeling (F) 85% Thinking (T) 15%
Perceiving (P) 68% Judging (J) 32%

Definitely seems like polys are much more likely to be INFP.

nycindie

01-19-2011, 09:09 PM

LovingRadiance

01-19-2011, 11:26 PM

Nycindie,

I think that's an interesting question too!!!
Very interesting idea.

I have read the book (the 5 love languages) but it's been awhile, it would be an interesting thing to mesh and see what happens. :)

SNeacail

01-20-2011, 12:14 AM

Ta-dah, your personality type is ESTP!

Extraverted (E) 50% Introverted (I) 50%
Sensing (S) 59% Intuitive (N) 41%
Thinking (T) 60% Feeling (F) 40%
Perceiving (P) 55% Judging (J) 45%

OK, this was a surprise, I would have sworn it would have been ISTP, but since it's 50/50 I guess both are right :p.

This Myers-Briggs stuff now has me curious about how it might relate to the Five Love Languages. I haven't read that book, but am wondering if there are any correlations there as well. Perhaps there will be a more common "Love Language" dominant among INFPs or ENFPs (which seems to be the majority here).

I think there is a thread on this, maybe not directly Meyer-Briggs vs 5 LL.

Ohiogrl

01-20-2011, 01:30 AM

IIFP

eh. I sound boring. LOL

polycouple

01-20-2011, 03:25 AM

I took the full test last semester. I am an INFP. I am pretty amazed how many people seem to be INFP here!

Charlie

01-20-2011, 05:37 AM

This Myers-Briggs stuff now has me curious about how it might relate to the Five Love Languages. I haven't read that book, but am wondering if there are any correlations there as well. Perhaps there will be a more common "Love Language" dominant among INFPs or ENFPs (which seems to be the majority here). I just took the test at http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp and my results are:

Test Results:

Percent / Language / Score
37% / Physical Touch / 11
30% / Quality Time / 9
20% / Words of Affirmation / 6
07% / Receiving Gifts / 2
07% / Acts of Service / 2

I am INFP.

Percent/Language/Score

27%/ Physical Touch/ 8
27%/Quality Time/8
27%/Words of Affirmation/8
10%/Acts of Service/3
10%/Receiving Gifts/3

In a nutshell:

INFP
Scorpio
Goat
Southpaw

In about four more posts, you folks'll know me better than I know myself:)

redpepper

01-20-2011, 06:04 AM

17%Words of Affirmation
27%Quality Time
13%Receiving Gifts
27%Acts of Service
17%Physical Touch

Sagittarius, with an Aires rising and Scorpio moon. Heavy on the Sag and Scop in my chart....

boardering I and E NFP.

Earth Rooster.

Thought I'd join you Charlie. :D (what'a a southpaw?)

LovingRadiance

01-20-2011, 06:08 AM

I don't remember what thread it was that I wrote what my love languages were. :(

I'm a Pisces.
Rabbit.
ENTJ with occasional leanings to ENFJ

:confused:

redpepper

01-20-2011, 06:28 AM

I don't remember what thread it was that I wrote what my love languages were. :( I redid mine when I found a "five love languages test" on line.

SNeacail

01-20-2011, 06:57 AM

Thought I'd join you Charlie. :D (what'a a southpaw?)

A southpaw someone who is left handed.

nycindie

01-20-2011, 07:01 AM

What is the Rooster, Goat, Rabbit, etc., people are mentioning? Is that the Chinese "year of" animal? If so, I'm the Rat. Oh, and as far as Zodiac, I'm a Taurus. So, here's me:

Ta-dah, your personality type is INFP!
Introverted (I) 86% Extraverted (E) 14%
Intuitive (N) 68% Sensing (S) 32%
Feeling (F) 85% Thinking (T) 15%
Perceiving (P) 91% Judging (J) 9%

-----
Percent / Language / Score
37% / Physical Touch / 11
30% / Quality Time / 9
20% / Words of Affirmation / 6
07% / Receiving Gifts / 2
07% / Acts of Service / 2

-----
Double Taurus with Cancer rising
Born in the year of the Rat

Ohiogrl

01-20-2011, 07:18 AM

bah. I think I spelled mine wrong. :p

If I am to lazy to take the testy again, cant we just guess at what I am? LOL

Just kidding!

Tonberry

01-20-2011, 05:14 PM

As far as the astrology signs go, I like saying that I'm a fish and a cow :p

opalescent

01-20-2011, 08:27 PM

I too seem to be an INTP - although I've also tested out as an INFJ and INFP.

Ta-dah, your personality type is INTP!

Introverted (I) 61% Extraverted (E) 39%
Intuitive (N) 91% Sensing (S) 9%
Thinking (T) 60% Feeling (F) 40%
Perceiving (P) 91% Judging (J) 9%

As far as the Love Languages go, I am definitely a Quality Time followed by Acts of Service girl.

Let's see - Libra, Boar (Pig if you must) ... I think that's all!

LovingRadiance

01-20-2011, 09:00 PM

Ta-dah, your personality type is ENTJ!

Extraverted (E) 50% Introverted (I) 50%
Intuitive (N) 68% Sensing (S) 32%
Thinking (T) 80% Feeling (F) 20%
Judging (J) 86% Perceiving (P) 14%

40% Acts of Service
27% Quality Time
20% Words of Affirmation
13% Physical Touch
0% Receiving Gifts

Pisces (March 7th)
Rabbit (1975)

LovingRadiance

01-23-2011, 08:51 PM

Not that anyone would be shocked,
but GG is INFP.
;)

redpepper

01-24-2011, 04:22 AM

Not that anyone would be shocked,
but GG is INFP.
;)
:eek::eek::eek::eek::p

Derbylicious

01-24-2011, 10:34 PM

Ta-dah, your personality type is ENFJ!
Extraverted (E) 54% Introverted (I) 46%
Intuitive (N) 55% Sensing (S) 45%
Feeling (F) 60% Thinking (T) 40%
Judging (J) 55% Perceiving (P) 45%

I'm always pretty close to 50/50 on intorvert/extrovert

Percent Language Score
7% Words of Affirmation 2

30% Quality Time 9

13% Receiving Gifts 4

20% Acts of Service 6

30% Physical Touch 9

Looks like it's all about touch and quality time for me.

I'm a Libra born in the year of the dragon

redpepper

01-25-2011, 05:29 AM

how ya all getting the percentages for myers briggs? which link is it? thanks.

Derbylicious

01-25-2011, 05:43 AM

Threre's a link back on page 13. :)

nycindie

01-25-2011, 05:53 AM

Here ya go, RP:
http://kisa.ca/personality/

Page 13, Derby? Wow, I only see four pages on this thread. We all have different settings for number of posts per page.

Derbylicious

01-25-2011, 05:55 AM

Here ya go, RP:
http://kisa.ca/personality/

Page 13, Derby? Wow, I only see four pages on this thread. We all have different settings for number of posts per page.

I'm on page 15 here...too bad we're not all on the same page LOL :D

redpepper

01-27-2011, 02:18 AM

thanks indie and derby :)

ray

01-31-2011, 02:22 AM

Ta-dah, your personality type is INFP!

Introverted (I) 68% Extraverted (E) 32%
Intuitive (N) 86% Sensing (S) 14%
Feeling (F) 95% Thinking (T) 5%
Perceiving (P) 86% Judging (J) 14%

Thought so. :)

MileHighQuad

01-31-2011, 01:39 PM

I'm an INFP as well. I don't know what types the other three are, but we are each very different. The men both tend to be very logical and need to deal with matters in a "black/white" context. My girlfriend is similar to me, but is an extrovert, not an introvert. The end result is that the men sometimes struggle with jealousy and with trying to label and understand our relationship. They have this need to fit it into the "social norm" somehow. My girlfriend tends to be very passionate and I would say brings the spice to this relationship! I tend to be the quieter one that just wants no drama so that our happy little quad boat will stay afloat. I think we balance eachother out nicely, but it can cause conflict sometimes.

MyNameIsMaam

02-01-2011, 03:34 AM

I have always thought success in poly relationships had more to do with a person's jealous tendencies (or lack thereof) than it does a personality assessment.

LovingRadiance

02-01-2011, 03:43 AM

I have always thought success in poly relationships had more to do with a person's jealous tendencies (or lack thereof) than it does a personality assessment.

I don't think it's so much the jealousy tendencies as how people handle their jealousy emotions.
I don't tend to be a jealous person-but, on the few occasions that I've gotten jealous, I've also handled it well.
If I hadn't handled it well-it could have ruined the relationships even though it was a rare thing.
;)

River

02-01-2011, 07:44 PM

Wow, another one of us! We're like pod people, taking over the forum.

LOL!

I finally have a home! Everywhere else I'm a freak!

GoddessofJava

07-01-2011, 05:35 PM

I was pleased to discover that there is a blog called "The Polyamorous Misanthrope" because I was feeling a bit like an oxymoron up until that point.

FWIW, the Polyamorous Misanthrope is an INTJ.

bookbug

07-02-2011, 01:00 AM

Today I started thread called "Emotional Triad". The husband and wife are INTJ and ISFJ respectively. I am an INTJ. The two of us who are INTJs had no problem when we attemtped a full triad; but our ISFJ did. I don't know if it is her personality or low self-esteem related to her upbringing that made her feel so insecure. For the two of us who are INTJs, we were able to adapt readily.

PickMoreDaisies

07-04-2011, 04:35 AM

I thought I would chime in...just in case someone was doing a survey lol

I'm an INTJ. I don't know if that means anything at all in relation to poly...but I think that it pretty accurately describes me from what I've read.

Ohh
And I'm Leo with Leo rising...although I wouldn't think so at all...
Born in the year of the Tiger to boot...
Funny...I also like cats hahaha

Cayenne

07-04-2011, 06:56 PM

I'm INTP.

Wow, so many INFP people.

kits

07-08-2011, 01:59 AM

I am an INTJ through and through. Perhaps a little more sensitive than the average though. And I do adore INFPs :).

Love languages:
30%- Quality Time
27%- Physical Touch
27%- Words of Affirmation
10%- Acts of Service
7%- Receiving Gifts

ray

07-08-2011, 02:36 AM

Perhaps INFPs are drawn to poly given how empathetic and relational they tend to be. They're also usually fairly introspective which lends itself to the awareness needed for success in poly.

Djinni

07-08-2011, 07:40 AM

Huh.. I think you're on to something here. I'm an INFP, and a practitioner of the myers Briggs type indicator. In my professional opinion, any type would be amenable to poly, but the ones who are NF's, especially so, since were tied to living our values and protecting them. Personal opinion? Anyone can live effectively in a poly lifestyle.

Id love to do a study on the population.

Keep in mind the driving force for an NF is preserving or creating harmony. Sometimes it takes more people to have harmony. Also makes it hard to balance.

Snowbunting

07-08-2011, 03:45 PM

I think it would be fantastic if you did a study on the population, Djinni!

This is a fascinating thread, and it raises lots of intriguing questions concerning the relationship between poly and personality.

For instance, why do INFPs seem to be much more prevalent here than they do in the general population? (I'm an INFP too, and I can't help but be intrigued by this question - my impression has long been that INFPs are relatively rare, but we seem to be a dime a dozen here on the board...) Djinni, you've just spoken to this question, as have others in the thread, but it would be so interesting to see the results of a few full-blown studies. (If only there were poly-friendly organizations with large of sums of money who were chomping at the bit to fund such studies!)

I can't help but wonder - have there been any studies at all on the intersection between polyamory and the Myers-Briggs type indicator? It seems not... More generally, when it comes to polyamory, it seems like there's a ton of fascinating new territory for all kinds of people to explore - social scientists, psychologists, novelists, film makers, artists of other sorts...

Anyway, again, this is such an interesting thread! Thanks to everyone who has contributed. :)

MonoVCPHG

07-08-2011, 04:12 PM

I don't think you will find a lot of ISTJ poly people. I am an ISTJ but I am also very monogamous (in how I form singular bonds with a romantic partner). I definitely see trends in the social backgrounds and values of people who are poly. Not everyone is included in this but there are some very common shared interests and opinions.

No cheating..that's where I see ISTJ's excelling, usually because they can't see beyond the conditioned norms.

River

07-09-2011, 01:52 AM

For instance, why do INFPs seem to be much more prevalent here than they do in the general population? (I'm an INFP too, and I can't help but be intrigued by this question - my impression has long been that INFPs are relatively rare, but we seem to be a dime a dozen here on the board...)

Hah! I had sent an email to my dear friend, Snowbunting, earlier today, not knowing that she had posted this here yesterday. In that email I asked her what her Keirsey / MB type was. You see, I was almost certain she must also be an INFP (like me, like my boyfriend), 'cause we can't keep track of how many things we share in common. (Dozens and dozens, at least!)

(Carl Sagon would say ... Billions and billions.):p

In so many ways she resembles the female version of myself. Or do I resemble the male version of herself? Hmm.

BTW, I think the statistic was that INFPs are the rarest of the types, and only about 1% of the overall population.

River

07-09-2011, 02:17 AM

Hypothesis as to why there are so many INFPs among the poly folk here:

Keirsey calls the INFP, The Healer. > Healers generally need some healing; it's part of the job description > intensive intimacy with multiple partners is intrinsically healing for us, because of contrast and difference in individuals. (No one person can figuratively and literally touch us in all of the places we need to be touched, in order than we can serve as Healer.)

All good healers are folks who have suffered severe or significant wounds. The Healer is so sensitive that his/her wounds are intensified by that sensitivity.

MonoVCPHG

07-11-2011, 01:52 AM

No cheating..that's where I see ISTJ's excelling, usually because they can't see beyond the conditioned norms.

Crap! I meant to say "Now cheating" not "no cheating" :o

redpepper

07-11-2011, 06:00 AM

Maybe INFP's just are more inclined to write on a forum such as this one? After all, only about 1% write on here while the other 99% lurk... maybe we are just not lurkers? :p

River

07-11-2011, 02:35 PM

Maybe INFP's just are more inclined to write on a forum such as this one? After all, only about 1% write on here while the other 99% lurk... maybe we are just not lurkers? :p

Maybe so. But we cannot survey the lurkers. They'll lurk the survey.:p

Catalyst

07-18-2011, 08:30 PM

I just have to say, as a former Psychology major, this thread is entirely too fascinating! :)

Here is what mine came out to today:

Ta-dah, your personality type is ISTJ!

Introverted (I) 89%
Extraverted (E) 11%

Sensing (S) 50%
Intuitive (N) 50%

Thinking (T) 85%
Feeling (F) 15%

Judging (J) 64%
Perceiving (P) 36%

Years ago I took this type of test as part of a retreat in my youth group - Conservative Baptist upbringing - and I was actually INFP then.

Then, when I first got divorced, I was in a workshop hosted by a Presbyterian Church in our town, and I came out ESTJ.

Now I tend to vary somewhat, depending on the day, my mood, the status of my meds - did I mention I am also bi-polar? ;) (My psychiatrist says I am hypo-manic.)

I have discussed this at length with my psychologist (I have the PsyD for talk therapy and the MD for the meds), and he says that the E and I interchange is actually common in some people. Some people can adapt very well to being extroverted in many situations, but then are introverted to recharge their batteries. I find that I am a lot like my parents on this - we all are very social when out and about or when at work, but when we get back home, to our "retreat", we need to wind down and not have outside distractions. My BF doesn't quite understand it - he doesn't understand why I don't like having people over to the house. My home is my own private area where I need to keep my introverted self separated from my extroverted self and the rest of the world. :p

As for poly, as I used to test INFP, I don't know if maybe that had something to do with my formative years, and perhaps I have always been poly (I am working this out in a very long fashion in my life story blog). Or perhaps now from the ISTJ perspective, as I thoroughly enjoy learning and researching and studying and analyzing, I simply have found a terminology and subject and group of supportive people who make sense to me, and who explain the way I have felt my whole life in a way that works for me.

I just know that, after discovering the word Polyamory in 2007, and devouring information on the topic since then, it makes more sense to me than the way I was living my life before. Though I admire, and crave, morals and values and structure, I also am always the first to question authority or the status quo, so perhaps a part of my personality says to society at large - why? Why does it have to be this way? Who says? Where does it say? What law is it breaking?

I heard a great line on a show once - not sure if it was a sporting event or a general TV show - "Rules are like the gates in slalom skiing: you get as close to them as possible without breaking them." That can be so true! While I respect rules, or laws, or even traditions, I still see the value in bending or challenging them - because in reality they serve a better purpose as a guideline rather than a set in stone mantra. The attraction to non-monogamy often times comes from a seeking out of something that non-conformists find can conform to their way of life, and not necessarily the other way around.

>^^<

detritus

07-22-2011, 05:56 AM

When I take the test I usually come out either INTP or INFP--but always I, N, and P. I used to be very interested in personality typing, both with Myers-Briggs and the enneagram. I don't know if INFP is necessarily more common among the polyamorous, but I do know that it's a personality type that tends to like forums. :)

MyNameIsMaam

07-26-2011, 02:43 AM

Dr William Moulton Marston spent an entire academic and professional career (1920s-50s) researching and writing about "normal" (meaning not a psychopath) human behavior - what it is and what triggers it, and how some people react one way while other react in different ways.

He understood that our behaviors are chosen, selectively - not just the way we are hard wired and there didn't seem to be huge differences in gender as there were in ages.

He has a lot of writings which are kind of fun to read and think about WHEN they were written.

He was in a long-term poly relationship and one of his wives really helped him formalize their ideas around the ability to scientifically detect when a person was lying - and he is credited as the inventor of the modern day lie detector.

Most interesting to me is that as a creative type of person, he penned the carton Wonder Woman to reflect his personal and professional beliefs about women.

So if this kind of stuff floats your boat, have fun!

http://www.discprofile.com/williammoultonmarston.htm