View Full Version : Triad Gift Ideas?
06-02-2010, 07:36 PM
Hey guys! Long time forum member, increasingly rare visitor here :rolleyes:
I had a question I thought maybe you would like to weigh in on.
I am in an exclusive triad with two women. I get little gifts for each of them fairly regularly, awesome boyfriend that I am. But I would like to get them both, and myself, something sort of symbolic. Nothing like rings...none of us want to go there. But I want us all to have something that is a symbol of the triad, and a reminder of one another. I got the idea, strangely enough, when I was making tea a few minutes ago...I have this heart shaped tea sieve, and I thought hey, how great would it be if we all had one of these? Like we were in a little club or something! Okay, that's kinda dorky...
But you get the idea! We should all have some kind of token to make us smile and think of one another. Any ideas?
06-02-2010, 07:47 PM
What about those celtic knotted puzzle rings. 3 rings that slide together to make one perfect circle...:)..that could work well for a triad gift
Or the 4 ring one. Each ring represents a person, with the 4th ring representing the entire triad :)
06-02-2010, 07:53 PM
Cool, but we're trying to avoid rings. One of us is in the process of getting divorced, and the other two are "sorta" engaged. By sorta I mean...we got engaged, but that was six years ago, and we have come to question the meaning of marriage in general, and haven't gone through with it yet, and might not. But when people ask, we still say that, and she does wear a ring I gave her to symbolize that. Really it's more just a symbol of commitment and love now, but she still has it. So we don't want any more rings involved.
06-02-2010, 08:14 PM
Try etsy.com or artfire.com.
Artfire.com has lots of choices.
06-02-2010, 08:19 PM
That is AWESOME. That's it right there. Thread closed. Answer found. Kat rocks.
ty, ty :)
06-02-2010, 08:28 PM
You are very welcome! All I did was a quick Google search. There may even be other sites that carry stuff like that.
I have been thinking about getting something for MorningGlory and I. Her and my husband, 2rings, bought rings for each other. Him and I obviously have our wedding bands, he has a tat with my name on it and I have a tat that represents him and our two kids. I thought it would be fitting for her and I to have something since we are (a little more than) metamours.
BTW - I loved the triangle triad charms the best!
06-02-2010, 08:29 PM
I know me too!!
06-02-2010, 09:31 PM
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06-03-2010, 04:04 PM
Sorry about that guys...:)...
06-03-2010, 04:29 PM
Sorry - I didn't realize that wasn't allowed. I was just trying to help a fellow out! I have no personal or professional investment in the companies I listed.
I simply did a Google search for "polyamory keychains," "polyamory charms," and "triad charms."
Sorry again - Kat :(
06-03-2010, 05:00 PM
No worries- it's all sorted out. As I said to you all in PMs- this is the toughest rule to enforce and many times we mods get arguments about this rule because it's the norm to post links everywhere else. I truly appreciate the cooperation from all of you. It makes my day that you all responded with kindness instead of outrage. Makes the job much more pleasant when I don't feel like everybody thinks I'm the bad guy.
Your friendly neighborhood mod,
P.S. The charms are really cool! I will have to put charms on my list of things to make, as I work in precious metals and have been playing around with poly jewelry. (I feel I must add- PM me if you want to ask about my work- or I'll have to put the smackdown on myself!)
06-03-2010, 05:18 PM
A friend of mine makes jewelry and I showed her the charms last night. She's going to start making some.
06-03-2010, 08:33 PM
Let us know when you get a link on your profile to show some of it off.
06-03-2010, 08:57 PM
Two-tone Crystal Extra Large Interlocking Heart Necklace
done deal, imho
06-04-2010, 07:11 AM
what a good idea to get gifts within your triad... I had never considered that for us... why not get something that signifies our family. After all, we are more than just a casual vee. We have become inseparable. Perhaps I will think on that more.... hmmm....
06-04-2010, 07:34 AM
Engraved heart-shaped key chains with all three names on them? Would love to see the clerk's face when you ask for it to be engraved "Adam + Mary + Eve" :)
06-04-2010, 02:33 PM
Perhaps I will think on that more.... hmmm....
06-04-2010, 02:45 PM
On the websites I listed - there were also charms for V's, quads, self-primary, and multiple relationships - - - pretty much something for everyone!
I like the engraved keychain idea too!
06-04-2010, 03:08 PM
Let us know when you get a link on your profile to show some of it off.
There's one pic of a necklace I gave Catfish for Christmas in my metalwork photos- I'll be sure to post pictures of anything else I make along poly lines. :)
06-04-2010, 05:25 PM
Oh yes please rarechild! I would love that!
I am thinking along the lines of doing a ceramic piece for our new house at this point. Something that represents all of us and is protective at the same time. Oh how I love feeling that creative energy flowing! Lots to think about.