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04-09-2010, 06:41 PM
I am a 23 yr old female and bi-choosy, he is 33 yr old male and straight. We have been married for 2 1/2 years. We are looking for both poly friends and partners. Iowa seems to have a non-existant poly community, so it would be great to get to meet other like-minded people. We have a power exchange based relationship and are looking for someone to form a long-term relationship with.
04-09-2010, 07:10 PM
Well you see something new every day. I have never seen the term bi-choosy hahaha
04-10-2010, 01:51 PM
I kind of view it as the difference in the way that I am attracted to men vs. women. There have been women that I have become close to and then become attracted to them. With men, there is more of an instant attraction or there isn't attraction at all
11-14-2010, 08:59 AM
We are a poly couple from Northern Iowa and agree that we r a rare breed in Iowa...we r talking to a woman right now and working on establishing a relationship with her and r talking about her moving in just not for sure when..Would luv to chat;)
11-26-2010, 03:15 PM
I have met and befriended three different people in the last decade that are poly. I even married one of them.
All in the Central Iowa area.
I think part of the lack of poly is not knowing/understanding the term; one of my friends just didn't know there was a term for the way she thought. And the other is fear that friends or family will react poorly. Sadly, the mid-west isn't the ideal place to be unique when it comes to fundamentals like family structure or sexual orientation.
01-24-2011, 06:43 PM
Hey! We are a younger couple (20 & 27) also looking for poly friends & possibly more. We are interested to chat with you two :)
Agnes & Ryan
01-26-2011, 12:56 AM
We are located in Central Iowa too. I'm 35, husband is 36. However, he is saying he is not poly (I'm not sure I agree but that's his decision not mine). We have multiple friends that are poly, including co-habitating triads etc... So, even out here in Iowa we exist ;) we met most through the swinging community, though some in other ways. I'd be happy to talk any time, but we are in therapy right now to find a way to make me being poly, he being mono & not ok with me being poly work, so we are certainly not dating material. I do have a poly friendly therapist to recommend if you ever need one. :D
03-14-2011, 08:54 AM
hello I am a 36 yr old female that is very poly curious i also live in Iowa and hope to meet new friends on here
03-17-2011, 02:15 AM
Aha! So a poly scene in Iowa DOES exist! :) Hello everyone, we're Xu and Sol. We're a 21M/19F couple seeking to add a third to our wonderful relationship!
03-22-2011, 08:36 PM
Greetings fellow Iowans! :D 31 hetero male, here (although I'll be 32 in just a bit...). I live on the NW part of the state - right on the edge of the Nebraska and South Dakota state lines.
Not really sure if I'm mono or poly. On one hand, I've never thought of myself as poly, but then the whole idea is relatively new to me. On the other, I apparently have an atypical relationship with my exes. Once I start loving someone I hardly ever stop, so I prefer to remain friends with all of my former lovers, even if we find we don't work as a couple.
11-16-2012, 03:28 AM
my name is Mike, I am extremely interested in polyamory..
I am 35 from west des moines.....
11-20-2012, 10:25 PM
hi, 35 m from des moines, VERY interested in poly....id love to chat...