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06-09-2011, 04:16 AM
After coming out to our kids about a year or so ago, our 19 y/o daughter is embarking upon her very first poly relationship. :) We have been trying to support her in this decision and help her, and her new bf by pointing them in the right directions and offering helpful advice. She is getting into a V, where her bf is the hinge.
Our advice to her? COMMUNICATE to EVERYONE involved in the relationship. ;) Her and the other gf know each other and are friends, but not lovers. They only share the one bf.
Anyway, I told her I would always be there for her to listen if she has problems, or questions. After about a half an hour of "talking" to her, I shut up and told her I would try not to bug her about it anymore, and that I was jealous of her. LOL
06-10-2011, 04:43 AM
Cool. Congrats on raising an open-minded kiddo! My daughter is 19 too. ;)
I lmao'd last night. My daughter had a friend over (gay boy I adore) they were talking and she was basically "coming out" about the fact that she's started up something (I didn't butt in to get details) with the gay girl she's friends with. She's still very much involved with and dating the daddy of our new grandbaby (she flies down to him on the 24th to drive up with him, he's moving here).
GG asked her how he felt about the other girl and he doesn't care (thus far).
I hadn't really thought of it in terms of "embarking on poly" but.... since you pointed out your situation it dawned on me, that's precisely what it is.
The cool thing is, that she's also figured out she's bi-which has been BLATANTLY obvious to the rest of us for some time, but it's cool to see her figuring it all out on her own and doing so with a group of VERY supportive friends!
06-10-2011, 05:37 AM
This just makes me smile :D
06-10-2011, 12:17 PM
I'm so glad that my kids are so open minded. About a year ago, both of my kids said "poly is great, but not for me". Now, my daughter says "Well, if that's what happens, I'm ok with it as long as everyone knows". :D Big smiles here.
I seem to have raised two very conservative kids. They both know about Z but don't want me have another relationship. My 20 year old was extremely concerned that I might be bi and made me promise that I wouldn't ever go there. I found this strange because she's got lesbian friends, but I guess what's good for your friends isn't necessarily good for your mother.
I think both my girls have been negatively affected by my relationship with their father, where we both tried unsuccessfully to be monogamous. You'd think that would have made the girls more open to poly but it's sent them in the other direction, fiercely mono. My 20 year old daughter has been in a steady relationship with her live-in boyfriend since she was 17. Maybe they'll out grow it, who knows.
06-10-2011, 06:25 PM
Sage, I think that happens sometimes too. My 11 year old is very conservative in his actions/views. But, he's perfectly ok with what other people do. It's quite the juxtoposition to look at! He sets very strict standards for himself, but one is to be loving to everyone and so.... he is, regardless of their choices and differences.