The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux) [Archive]

Ariakas

05-30-2011, 07:14 PM

Doing better today. Went to AA last night. Actually there was a birthday party for two of the people. I was in a miserable state.. this weekend has been beyond shitty for me.. the meeting.. helped.. hard to stay shitty when there are people celebrating.. gets me into a good mood everytime.. although I can be stubborn..

I should get my promotion this week, retro active to the beginning of the month of may. Its been 98% sure for a while, but it will be good to get the letter in my hand. Career and job are going exceedingly well.. I am quite blessed to be good at what I do and be able to talk about it. haha.

Ariakas

05-30-2011, 07:15 PM

It probly got accidentally deleted with the spam (it wasn't me!). Go ahead and start another one right here.

hmmmm.. haha

NeonKaos

05-30-2011, 07:18 PM

hmmmm.. haha

Some of it (most notably the first and last pages) can still be found in the Google cache. So if anyone wrote anything in there that they are emotionally attached to, they can probably find a record of it by doing a specific Google search with "polyamory.com" + your user name + keyword and clicking on "Cache" in the result.

ETA: This sucks but we are all flawed human beings and it is not the end of the world.

Ariakas

05-30-2011, 07:29 PM

Some of it (most notably the first and last pages) can still be found in the Google cache. So if anyone wrote anything in there that they are emotionally attached to, they can probably find a record of it by doing a specific Google search with "polyamory.com" + your user name + keyword and clicking on "Cache" in the result.

ETA: This sucks but we are all flawed human beings and it is not the end of the world.

Simply sarcasm. I don't care one way or the other. Little large thread cleansing is always good for the soul hahaha

NeonKaos

05-30-2011, 07:47 PM

Simply sarcasm. I don't care one way or the other. Little large thread cleansing is always good for the soul hahaha

I agree; but there might be some folks who do care.

Breathesgirl

05-30-2011, 08:38 PM

Tired which is heightening my frustrations and making me angrier about something I have absolutely NO control over. Government offices suck, especially their hours, but it is what it is *shrug*.

nycindie

05-31-2011, 06:04 AM

Doing better today . . . this weekend has been beyond shitty for me.. the meeting.. helped.. hard to stay shitty when there are people celebrating.. gets me into a good mood everytime.. although I can be stubborn.

. . . I am quite blessed to be good at what I do and be able to talk about it. haha.

I am so glad you are feeling better. You've been traveling and (I think) on your own a lot. Maybe you just needed to be around people and connect with other human beings to get out of your head.

redpepper

05-31-2011, 07:05 AM

I agree; but there might be some folks who do care.meh, I never read it, then think I should, catch up, then go back to not reading again because there really is a lot of repeats. Thank for the removal; now I don't have to do my routine for awhile. :)

Ariakas

05-31-2011, 01:49 PM

I am so glad you are feeling better. You've been traveling and (I think) on your own a lot. Maybe you just needed to be around people and connect with other human beings to get out of your head.

Its a fight, I shut down and pull back when things go shitty.

I was alone for a little over a week. It was actually a good time. Then again I was working 12 to 14 hour days. Human interaction is definitely a good thing. :D

Derbylicious

05-31-2011, 01:50 PM

All that work to get the how are you doing thread over 500 pages and now we have to start all over again :rolleyes::D

SNeacail

05-31-2011, 03:54 PM

Spent all day Sunday moving lumber, helping my new "Clan" tear down from the Ren Faire, then spent most of Monday fighting back spasams (off and on since Friday). Then I woke up this morning with NO back pain, first time in a week :D.

Castalia

05-31-2011, 04:20 PM

umm, slightly hungover, my fiance C and i killed a bottle of white chocolate baileys and half a bottle of wine last night, (we're not big drinkers,) while playing strip uno :D and discussing the nature of our relationship.
turns out he's poly too (he has a crush on a women he knew in high school) and he gave me the green light to explore things with H without any real limitations:eek:
hes also really ok with sharing, lets say the night ended well:D

marksbabygirl

05-31-2011, 07:40 PM

Had a long painful conversation with W about us, where we're at with our relationship, his self esteem, my self esteem and what we each want and are willing to give.

It started as a talk about sex - then ended up in serious relationship issues... :eek:

It ended well. I'll post more on my blog later...

Ariakas

06-01-2011, 10:02 PM

Don't ya love when you have something to say, then get interrupted and then forget what you were planning on saying. Jeez..

Gonna skip the game tonight, buy some parts for both my bikes and get my xc and dh bikes fixed. Then time to start riding. Lots of people remember my riding from a couple of years ago and are anxious to get me back out... not to mention the mountain is open.. mascocism at its best..

Derbylicious

06-01-2011, 10:03 PM

Don't ya love when you have something to say, then get interrupted and then forget what you were planning on saying. Jeez..

I know the feeling well, it usually happens anytime my kids are in the vicinity!

Ariakas

06-01-2011, 10:05 PM

I know the feeling well, it usually happens anytime my kids are in the vicinity!

I had a friend walk into my office and decide it was a good time to shoot the shit haha..

*shrugs* as mom used to say, it must not have been important haha

Derbylicious

06-01-2011, 10:07 PM

I had a friend walk into my office and decide it was a good time to shoot the shit haha..

*shrugs* as mom used to say, it must not have been important haha

Or it will wake you up at 3am and you'll have to get out of bed to write it down because you won't be able to sleep if you don't :D

Ariakas

06-01-2011, 10:09 PM

Or it will wake you up at 3am and you'll have to get out of bed to write it down because you won't be able to sleep if you don't :D

haha This happens a tonne. I used to fight it.. it kept me up. It was a big reason for my insomnia. I ended up writing the stuff out. Worked shockingly well...

way better than warm milk hahaha :D..

Ariakas

06-01-2011, 10:25 PM

oooo I remembered. Just went back to an old bike forum I spent many years on. I was one of the first members and ran it for a long time.

Feels like home, good to see not much has changed in the world of biking.. politics and the usual suspects. Might even retake my admin duties. I miss laying the smack down..

Made me crack a smile.. feels good to be getting back to the things I am good at.

nycindie

06-01-2011, 10:30 PM

Don't ya love when you have something to say, then get interrupted and then forget what you were planning on saying. Jeez..

Oh yeah, that happens to me all the time. I remember once, when . . . hang on, there's the doorbell . . . okay, I'm back, er, uh . . . whawuzzisayin'?

nycindie

06-01-2011, 11:26 PM

Getting ready to meet a guy with whom I've corresponded a few times on OKC. We're meeting at Starbuck's (NOT my favorite place to meet, but oh well) a few blocks from where I live. He seems really nice, and he's cute, so I hope it goes well. Would be nice to have a local guy in my life, instead of Yonkers or out of state, although he is in Brooklyn which is an hour on the subway.

Ah, it was so easy with Shorty - he lives in Manhattan like I do.

Anyway, gotta go and pretty up. <giddy>

KatTails

06-02-2011, 02:42 AM

nycindie - hope your date goes great tonight!! :)

As for me - not doing so great. Worried, frustrated, worn out, stressed, confused, angry . . . nothing poly or marriage related . . . mostly family stuff, health and work related. It just hasn't been a good day. :( :mad:

Going to bed and looking forward to a better day tomorrow. Taking my Mom and daughter to dinner and to see Cirque du Soleil's Totem tomorrow night. Really excited to see it! :) And we have a new cousin being born as we speak - so excited for them! :) Good night all!!

Ariakas

06-02-2011, 02:33 PM

Oh yeah, that happens to me all the time. I remember once, when . . . hang on, there's the doorbell . . . okay, I'm back, er, uh . . . whawuzzisayin'?

... SQUIRREL!!!! hahaha (sorry funny movie flash back)

Doing good today too. Dreaming of riding (yes I know I obsess).. with one bike fixed and another to go, I should be able to get in some rides before I leave again.

While I don't ride trails like this at this point, yet, I remember when I could. (this is in north van for those familiar with the area)

http://vimeo.com/24366819

Filmed by an old friend of mine.. :).. can't believe how much he has improved over the last few years.

River

06-02-2011, 03:15 PM

... it is not the end of the world.

No, that's on Saturday. ;)

River

06-02-2011, 03:19 PM

Just went back to an old bike forum I spent many years on.

Bicycle or motorbike?

I need to get my bicycle up and running. The seriously dangerous traffic in this town has had a discouraging effect... >sigh< ... I swear, half the car-drivers in this town don't seem to realize they should actually be looking where they are going.

Ariakas

06-02-2011, 03:35 PM

There is a video ^^ up there of the type of biking I do.. ;)

most definitely mountain biking :)

Magdlyn

06-02-2011, 03:44 PM

Well, we dodged a bullet yesterday. Huge tornadoes hit central Mass, but we are too far north. Whew! Did lost power this morning for an hour, I am not sure why.

Getting packed to go to Philly to the Transhealth Conference. Not looking forward to the 6 hour drive, but looking forward to Philly! I went to college there, and so did one of my daughters. It's always a nice trip down memory lane.

Cindie, sorry your date last night was meh.

LovingRadiance

06-02-2011, 06:15 PM

Lovely, absolutely lovely! :)
Thank you Ari for a great morning talk!

Athena

06-02-2011, 09:48 PM

finally exchanged pics with my email guy, (he sent his first, we'll see what he thinks of mine...)

will be looking for apartments in what will soon be my new hometown this weekend with the hubby :D

Ariakas

06-03-2011, 03:53 AM

Late night working when I should be spending time with Pengrah before she takes off for the weekend. Amazingly bad timing for shit to go wrong.

*sigh*.. had a good day today.. becoming a regular thing.. found out more details on work, so I am pretty stoked.

marksbabygirl

06-03-2011, 05:53 AM

Fell on my ass at derby. Full on, flat on my back, knocked the wind out of me fall.

Hoping that the bruise on my ass blooms nicely ;)

Was a fun night :p

Morningglory629

06-03-2011, 11:36 AM

Sunny day, relaxed and happy-ish! I will be much happier when my coffee is finished and cup firmly in hand!:D Looking forward to my day!!!

nycindie

06-03-2011, 12:54 PM

Day One of my participation in a sleep study, I had to fill out a questionnaire about my sleeping last night (what time did I go to bed, how long did it take to fall asleep, did I wake up during the night, etc.). I'm still in the screening phase and will know in a couple of days if I'm accepted. I had a four-hour medical intake exam yesterday. The study requires a few overnight stays where they hook me up to monitors and record my sleeping. I hope they accept me -- this study pays a little under $1400 for about two to three weeks' involvement.

Fingers crossed!!!

Derbylicious

06-03-2011, 01:45 PM

Fell on my ass at derby. Full on, flat on my back, knocked the wind out of me fall.

Hoping that the bruise on my ass blooms nicely ;)

Was a fun night :p

It hardly seems worth the fall when you have nothing to show for it :)

Ariakas

06-03-2011, 04:14 PM

Damn tired. Must have slept off a bit.

After rejoining my old bike forum, a few of us old timers have come out of the wood work. Now talking about a Reunion of sorts. Need to pick a spot and then plan a trip for a weekend of non-alcoholic beer and biking. Always good to catch up with old friends..

Pengrah is away for the weekend visiting family. So I have the place to myself. Some more time alone is good for the soul. haha.. I have my cousin coming up tomorrow and I am going to drag him around some Whistler trails and do some good riding, much needed abuse of the body.

marksbabygirl

06-03-2011, 04:42 PM

It hardly seems worth the fall when you have nothing to show for it :)

I know eh?

Although I am feeling it this morning... even hotubbing for an hour when I got home didn't quite work out the kinks. :p

Meh - maybe some drinks tonight will help ;)

SourGirl

06-03-2011, 05:03 PM

I am doing really good. I probably shouldn`t be ? Lots of things here and there going on, that should be throwing a curveball into my life, but....aren`t.

.....so far. :p

Looking forward to my dinner-date with hubby tomorrow night. Then we are meeting up with a good friend and heading out to see a cover-band and have some fun. Can`t wait !!! It`s so nice to have a trustworthy nanny/sitter again.

JnR

06-03-2011, 05:18 PM

Feeling a little nervous this AM... going to meet my ex-bf for lunch and a beer :) I do miss him, and as much as I know that things could never really go back to the way they were, I would like to have a friendship with him. I do miss his energy and his input. Hubby is supportive so that is nice. I shouldn't be feeling nervous, but well, I am sure it will go fine lol

nycindie

06-03-2011, 09:10 PM

Things are looking up. Might have some work coming my way - yay! My freelance stuff isn't enough, and the payments for what I do usually come in 30 to 90 days out, so I've been looking for an actual job job, though I admit with very little enthusiasm. I can't really work full-time because I intend to finish my degree and enroll again this fall, after a much-needed break, and I am trying to get my production company rolling. But I've been so-o-o broke, I have to find something!!

Today I stopped in at a really swanky retail store a few blocks away from where I live, and spoke with the owner. He was so nice and asked me to come back with my resume (I hadn't intended to job hunt today, just went in while passing by). Then on the way home, I stopped in my neighborhood pet food store to buy cat food and the owner asked me if I was interested in dog walking. I had already left her some business cards I'd made for cat-sitting, and she's been really supportive and helpful since I told her about my divorce - lets me buy catfood on credit when I'm broke, and so on. Anyway, she told me she had talked about me to one of her customers who needs a dogwalker five days a week. While we were discussing this possibility, that lady came in (timing is everything!) with the dog - a really cute Scottie. So I gave her my card and we talked. Maybe this will actually happen, and also lead to other dog/cat gigs. I can see a nice little flexible worklife developing, a P/T job in a nice store with a cool owner, a bunch of freelance gigs doing what I like, and the ability to produce my media projects on my off-time (and pay the rent).

SNeacail

06-03-2011, 09:39 PM

I'm flying to Flagstaff, AZ tomorrow and get to see the new grand nephew this weekend and my nephew said he would take me shooting :). Then I have to drive down to Phoenix and spend 5 days in seminars. Any Phoenix peeps want to give me an excuse to escape :p?

Ariakas

06-04-2011, 03:47 AM

Awesome.. I have had a good day.. decent day at work, but it ended well. An old friend called me up and we went for a ride. She is a friend from my drinking days and we hadn't connected since December.. It was one of those days where I was avoiding socializing (ended up running into a few old friends, so now making plans for more rides). But like all kiwis she nagged the hell out of me until I got out of the house. 2 hours later, my ass is killing me and my legs burn. A rare gorgeous night at 20c with lots of sun. Truly a perfect night for my first ride... I can call it inspiring.. even took a spin in the terrain park.. I have to admit, my cardio and skillset have stuck with me..

I sure have missed it.. "unfortunately" my cousin is coming up for a ride tomorrow.. I don't know if I will be able to sit on my saddle haha.. I guess I will just have to learn to suffer.. self-a-mascocism.. woot :)

Let the leg cramps begin.. where Pengrah when I need my thighs rubbed hjahaha

SNeacail

06-04-2011, 03:59 AM

I don't know if I will be able to sit on my saddle haha.. I guess I will just have to learn to suffer.. self-a-mascocism.. woot :)

See I knew bike saddles were created by the BDSM crowd.:p

brainfreezy

06-04-2011, 06:17 PM

Went on a date with wife, gf, and gf's fwb. Was awkward but had a good time!

Other than that, swimming in NRE, scared and thrilled out of my mind!

marksbabygirl

06-05-2011, 12:28 AM

Happy to be home. Spent the night in Pemberton, enjoyed the night away but with as much time away as I have the next while, I'm happy to be home and hanging out with hubby.

Watching Canucks, greeting new kinksters on Fetlife, and happily enjoying random makeout/groping sessions with hubby. Its going to be a good good night ;) :D

Magdlyn

06-06-2011, 12:56 PM

Back in Allston from Philadelphia after 4 days. 8 hour drive Thursday and Sunday, 2 days of sessions Friday and Saturday at the Transhealth Conference, which is growing exponentially every year. Feeling educated, but overwhelmed and tired. Gonna drop the gf at her therapy in Boston today and then head home to Lowell for a couple days of rest... as well as a swim and probably a few hours at my nanny job Tuesday and/or Wed.

Cindie, I am so glad you're lining up some work, retail and/or dogsitting! We paid a dogsitter to watch my gf's dogs while we were out of town. She stops by twice a day, one time just lets the dogs out in the backyard for pottying, and one time she takes them for a 20 min walk. So, 30 mins a day, and we pay her $10 per visit. $20 for 30 mins work per day, not bad!

Morningglory629

06-06-2011, 08:08 PM

Tried to put a bunch of grins but wouldn't post! So here goes again:
:D :D :D :D

marksbabygirl

06-06-2011, 11:28 PM

Preparing for 3 days in Vancouver doing coursework. Yay me. (can you feel the sarcasm)

Although I am sorta looking forward to 2 nights alone ;)

Ariakas

06-06-2011, 11:40 PM

Tried to put a bunch of grins but wouldn't post! So here goes again:
:D :D :D :D

The limit is 5 or 10 or something hha

marksbabygirl

06-07-2011, 01:08 AM

Somewhat slightly stressed, youngest slammed his hand in a door, cry was unlike usual, and it immediately went black on either side of the knuckle then swelled up to double.

Waiting for hubby to get back - he took the older boy to baseball while I got ready.

Ah well - at least the game will likely be on in ER.

nycindie

06-07-2011, 01:22 AM

Going to a movie with Dreamy tomorrow night. Can't wait to see him!

Derbylicious

06-07-2011, 02:30 AM

Ariakas

06-07-2011, 04:02 AM

Its good to have pengrah home.. :)..

Cant help but chuckle when watching Canada's Worst HandyMan.. and you realize you are designing your bedroom for more devious activities because they created a simple 4 poster bed out of steel poles, and you know just how useful that setup would be.

Castalia

06-07-2011, 05:13 PM

a little shocked, C came home yesterday and asked if i'd ever considered the possibility of an intimate relationship with our friend H. then he told me that he was totally fine with it :eek:
mind you H still has no idea about the poly stuff or that i like him that way, although i'm sure he suspects both. its really starting to feel like he should know, you know? hanging out at H's place this weekend C took the kids for a walk so H and i could hang out for a few minutes alone, although i didn't realize that was why he did it at the time. it should have been awkward but it really wasn't.
i'm planning to go on a short road trip soon and would kind of like to go with H, if for no other reason than to hang out but i can't seem to even ask. C wants H to go with me too, he says he would be good for everyone. if i don't ask H soon, C will probably ask him for me:o nothin like your fiance encouraging you to start an outside relationship:eek:

Morningglory629

06-08-2011, 12:38 PM

Supposed to be a scorcher today. Eeeeeek! Staying in doors but happily so.

marksbabygirl

06-08-2011, 02:52 PM

@Derby - sorry I meant to come back and update - but you probably saw my update on fb - he was fine shortly after. Ice brought the swelling and pain down and he was playing outside again within 1/2 hour :)

Today is good. In Vancouver on training, hanging out in an old hotel that has been renovated (but not well) to make it look updated... :rolleyes:

Ah well, its across the street from Tim Hortons, a 2 min walk to where I need to be today and a short walk to where I need to be tonight. Can't wait for the hockey game!!! :D

Ariakas

06-08-2011, 03:20 PM

I am in a really good place. I have a raging headache which has lasted a couple of days, but I am doing well. Things are falling into place in almost every facet of my life.

Went for another ride last night.. :D

Senga

06-08-2011, 03:44 PM

I still have heartache about some lost connections. A year ago lost a baby. One boyfriend & I split up agonizingly slowly.
About 6 months later I traveled a few thousand miles & started out a relationship with another couple, but turns out they had fed me a lot of misinformation (some may call that lying) and so I could not continue the budding relationship with them either anymore even though they wanted to. I still have feelings about them, disappointment as well. I feel a little burnt out at the moment. Ryan is very supportive, suggests that maybe when I stop trying to make things work out, then something might come along. I am very happy with my life in general & with my/our relationship. I feel blessed & for that I am thankful.

MonoVCPHG

06-08-2011, 05:09 PM

Ryan is very supportive, suggests that maybe when I stop trying to make things work out, then something might come along.

Sounds like a very smart guy :)

Mohegan

06-08-2011, 10:39 PM

Heat index of 105 for the week. Air quality at Orange level, meaning I can't leave the house. Even sitting in the central air I am having a hard time breathing. Karma is out with friends and for once I want to leave the house and can't.

So I cleaned the house instead. Over did it as usual. Stacked all Karmas stuff in the corner. Sick of it over running my living room.

Nothing else really exciting going on.

BrigidsDaughter

06-09-2011, 04:07 AM

Tired, starting to run out of steam.... the finish line is Sunday. Then my guys hop in our car (which will, hopefully, have it's transmission rebuilt by then) and head to Ragnarok and I will be joining them on Wednesday.

SNeacail

06-12-2011, 05:32 AM

Been out of town for a week and seriously missing my husband and kids, really glad to be going home tomorrow morning. One kid is already gone for a week so I don't get to see him for another week :(. I'm seriously bummed out about it, but since I was the one that made the arangements, I can't feel too bad :p. Time with my SIL was awesome and very necessary for both of us. Lot's of "girl time".

Breathesgirl

06-12-2011, 01:54 PM

Wondering if humanity's honesty has really gone far as to be close to non-extistent?

I got too much change back from a restaurant bill, flagged the waitress to let her know and give back the extra. She was surprised because I WAS honest about it! Come on! It was $10 extra! How can someone NOT give that back?

nycindie

06-12-2011, 07:19 PM

Today marks one month since Burnsy first contacted me on OKC. We started a regular dialogue a few days later and have been in touch every single day since then - unheard of for me! I usually like me my space, but he is really... exceptional. Last night he and I confirmed a date to meet in person for the first time. Before he bought his bus tickets, he texted me: "Am I staying overnight?" Gulp. So, now we have a day and night planned together.

I am officially nervous.

Ariakas

06-12-2011, 07:43 PM

Congrats ny... :)

BrigidsDaughter

06-12-2011, 09:03 PM

I'm doing okay; a little tired and a little lonely. Runic Wolf and Wendigo left this morning for Ragnarok and although I will be joining them on Wednesday I miss them tons already. I am still waiting to hear if they made it there safely and tried to distract myself with a visit to my parents, but they weren't going to be home. I don't know how I'm going to sleep in my bed alone tonight. It has been just about 2 years since I slept alone last.

nycindie

06-12-2011, 09:19 PM

Runic Wolf and Wendigo left this morning for Ragnarok . . .
Whenever you write about this, in my mind I say Fraggle Rock. <giggle>

What or where is Ragnarok?

BrigidsDaughter

06-12-2011, 09:26 PM

http://www.dagorhirragnarok.com/ It is a week long battle in Pennsylvania.

Mohegan

06-12-2011, 11:42 PM

http://www.dagorhirragnarok.com/ It is a week long battle in Pennsylvania.

When did it move to PA?

Hope you guys have a good time. I am so glad darkon only does weekend campouts. Karma has wanted to go to rag but that requires money and me being okay with him being gone that long :)

LovingRadiance

06-13-2011, 12:11 AM

baby's sick, so momma's not getting any sleep. He's congested and can't sleep laying down or he gts to coughing.
SO, grandma's been stepping in to help so mommy can sleep here and there. Now grandma has it too and feels like shit. Slept til 11am-3pm this afternoon.
Haven't done my homework. Can't think straight, throat hurts.
Supposed to babysit tomorrow...

I feel like shit and I feel overwhelmed.

To top it all off;

Friday night Maca texted that we needed to talk about a "settlement" regarding our marriage. He wants to end the marriage. Still wants a list of things; but no moving back in, no commitment, no marriage.
He appears to be utterly baffled by my devastation and has told at least one of my friends that he's "just doing this for LR, giving her the space she needs to have a real relationship with GG." Ironically, that friend-knows better. I don't NEED space, I need acceptance.

But-welcome 12 steps..... I'm accepting that which isn't mine to change (his mind). :(

Magdlyn

06-13-2011, 12:17 AM

baby's sick, so momma's not getting any sleep. He's congested and can't sleep laying down or he gts to coughing.
SO, grandma's been stepping in to help so mommy can sleep here and there. Now grandma has it too and feels like shit. Slept til 11am-3pm this afternoon.
Haven't done my homework. Can't think straight, throat hurts.
Supposed to babysit tomorrow...

I caught a cold from the twins i sit for too, LR. Started coughing today, took a long nap too. Darn kids!

I feel like shit and I feel overwhelmed.

To top it all off;

Friday night Maca texted that we needed to talk about a "settlement" regarding our marriage. He wants to end the marriage. Still wants a list of things; but no moving back in, no commitment, no marriage.
He appears to be utterly baffled by my devastation and has told at least one of my friends that he's "just doing this for LR, giving her the space she needs to have a real relationship with GG." Ironically, that friend-knows better. I don't NEED space, I need acceptance.

But-welcome 12 steps..... I'm accepting that which isn't mine to change (his mind). :(

He just can't get over the cheating. It blindsided him and it seems to be a deal-breaker. Or so it seems to me...

LovingRadiance

06-13-2011, 12:20 AM

He just can't get over the cheating. It blindsided him and it seems to be a deal-breaker. Or so it seems to me...

Double-standard deal-breaker, but yeah, that's the gist of it. Can't imagine how he's going to manage with the girlfriend, who is currently cheating on one SO with not only him but also another couple. Shrug. Not my problem, not my business, not my deal.

LovingRadiance

06-13-2011, 12:21 AM

on a side note, being a grandma is really good at teaching you whta IS your business and what is NOT your business when it comes to loved ones. ;)

I'm getting SOOOOO good at "oh, I don't know... you'll have eto ask his mommy about that." Said with a confused smile. :)

Makes the daughter laugh.

nycindie

06-13-2011, 12:25 AM

He appears to be utterly baffled by my devastation and has told at least one of my friends that he's "just doing this for LR, giving her the space she needs to have a real relationship with GG." Whaaaa???

Of course, you're devastated!

Real relationship with GG? But it's real now, how is this going to make it suddenly real? What is the logic here? He has a gf, can't he abide by you having GG as well as Maca in your life? Maca's staying married to you doesn't mean the relationship with GG isn't real. And having GG in your life doesn't mean your marriage to Maca is less than or not "real."

I'm just blurting out what comes to mind. I know you know these things. Where is he? Can I go shake him? :/

Sorry to hear this is happening, but at least he wants to talk - maybe you can convey to him somehow that this is not what you want and there can be a way to stay together. It seems like you are both doing so well living apart, you can still be married and have such an arrangement.

BrigidsDaughter

06-13-2011, 12:30 AM

When did it move to PA?

Hope you guys have a good time. I am so glad darkon only does weekend campouts. Karma has wanted to go to rag but that requires money and me being okay with him being gone that long :)

I'm not sure. I'm part of a unit that fights for Winterfell in NY. Rag was in PA last year, but none of my unit was part of Dag before that. Thankfully we already do the weekends for Kingdoms of Novitas and most of us already had garb. Runic Wolf and Wendigo have a couple others who carpooled with them, but I'm driving down by myself.

Karma

06-13-2011, 01:23 AM

As of half an hour ago, I am officially a probationary member of a new unit in Darkon! I'v been a "nomad" for a while now, after the group of us split from the country J and I founded. I've had lots of offers, but I didn't want to jump into anything right off the bat - and I'm glad I didn't :) Carcosa, the new country, is pretty much made up of friends of mine that I've known for a few years, or new people that I like already.

Time to go drinking with my new countrymates :D

Ariakas

06-13-2011, 01:48 AM

*hug* @ lr.. I have sent my thoughts. Hopefully this all works out somehow. Sorry it has come to this.

Ariakas

06-13-2011, 01:53 AM

I had a great weekend with the island crowd. It was really good to see derby, II, rp, pn, mono and the crowd. Was really good catching up. Had an absolute blast at the friday burlesque show. The bbq yesterday was a perfect one to get the summer started (it was my first of the year)

Thanks to derby and II for being great hosts and putting uyp with two guests. See everyone in a few weeks.

As usual its heart warming to see the realization of poly. It really puts things in perspective what you see poly just being what it is. A bunch of good relationships. :)

BrigidsDaughter

06-13-2011, 01:55 AM

MonoVCPHG

06-13-2011, 03:12 AM

Friday night Maca texted that we needed to talk about a "settlement" regarding our marriage. He wants to end the marriage. :(

Sorry to hear this Pretty Lady...I had so hoped to see you, GG and Maca come for a visit. I tried e-mailing Maca a while ago to see how he was doing but I don't think he checks this sight anymore...I'm still here if he needs anything just as I am for you and GG.

:(

SNeacail

06-13-2011, 03:33 AM

Hugs LR!

LovingRadiance

06-13-2011, 04:16 AM

Magdlyn

06-13-2011, 11:15 AM

Caught the twins' latest cold. Came down with coughing, fever and body aches yesterday afternoon. Bleh. One of the "benefits" of nannying.

nycindie

06-13-2011, 07:33 PM

Caught the twins' latest cold. Came down with coughing, fever and body aches yesterday afternoon. Bleh. One of the "benefits" of nannying.
Ugh, I was trying to get some babysitting jobs but I forgot about how germy kids are. Maybe I'll re-think that, heh-heh.

Hope you feel better soon!

Breathesgirl

06-13-2011, 09:30 PM

Hugs LR!

Sitting at Possibility's, mucking around on the computer, watching Spartacus and just chillin'.

Breathes is working too many extra hours this week.

Is anyone up for a get together Friday night? I'll be free from 6:30 or so.

JnR

06-13-2011, 10:23 PM

Against my better judgement ;) I just answered an ad on craigslist... when will I ever learn?? lol I am forever the optimist :)

Mohegan

06-14-2011, 01:17 AM

Watching some Hockey with my boy. so far so good.:D

marksbabygirl

06-14-2011, 01:29 AM

Had a phenomenal girls' day. Sporting a snazzy new 'do and feeling good about myself :)

Stupid hockey tho.

Derbylicious

06-14-2011, 03:35 AM

Had a phenomenal girls' day. Sporting a snazzy new 'do and feeling good about myself :)

Stupid hockey tho.

Hey MBG are you playing in the rookie tounament in Nanaimo July long weekend?

marksbabygirl

06-14-2011, 03:55 AM

Hey MBG are you playing in the rookie tounament in Nanaimo July long weekend?

Probably not - I wasn't aware of it... but do you have a link? I might just ... :)

Derbylicious

06-14-2011, 03:57 AM

Probably not - I wasn't aware of it... but do you have a link? I might just ... :)

http://www.facebook.com/?ref=home#!/event.php?eid=204751562897103

I thought the team from your town was going to be there (although I might be wrong)

marksbabygirl

06-14-2011, 04:37 AM

Nope - I don't see us on that list.

I'm not skillz tested yet. I'm hoping to be within the next 2 months. I don't get to play in scrimmages yet - but I do the Penalty Box timing at our local scrimmages, and I volunteer at what I can.

inlovewith2

06-14-2011, 08:54 PM

I had a great weekend with the island crowd.

As usual its heart warming to see the realization of poly. It really puts things in perspective what you see poly just being what it is. A bunch of good relationships. :)

So glad, Ari! When things are really tough, I try to remind myself that I wouldn't appreciate all of the good (great) in my life if that's all their was. I have varied success with it, of course!

Hugs,

Christie

Athena

06-14-2011, 10:30 PM

definitely scared away my emailer. When he asked to play, I wanted to give our spouses a chance to meet up and the two of us over coffee before setting any playdates and he pretty much disappeared. Wonder what he needs to hide from his wife?

In any case I am so busy with my new job, and being a mom and enjoying the energy between myself and my hubby that I am not feeling much need to look for new relationships.

I am content to know that hubby loves me, and also gets to feel that he has freedom to explore his needs. I have the same freedom, just don't know anyone who causes me to feel any needs right now.

Ariakas

06-14-2011, 11:38 PM

So glad, Ari! When things are really tough, I try to remind myself that I wouldn't appreciate all of the good (great) in my life if that's all their was. I have varied success with it, of course!

Hugs,

Christie

Thats true. My successes today are really showcased in my life because of my hard childhood. So thats a great point :)

_______________

How am I doing.. I am getting worked... I am in vancouver and just getting killed work wise.. holy smokes I am burning holes in my shoes...

Its great!!!!

Karma

06-15-2011, 03:09 AM

Got my ass kicked tonight at Tuesday Night Fights. T.N.F. is the practice that all the best fighters go to - I was schooled all night long, but I got a few licks of my own in, too ;) This is the second week I've gone, and I can already see improvements in how I fight, both with a unit and by myself.

BrigidsDaughter

06-15-2011, 03:15 AM

Getting excited; tomorrow I leave for Ragnarok; I get to cuddle up to Runic Wolf to sleep again; and I get to spread hugs to most of my favorite people (Pretty Lady is home busy with work, but I will give her extra hugs when I drop Wendigo off Sunday night.) Not looking forward to the 5-6 hour drive, but can't wait to get there. Why, oh why do I have to work tomorrow?

Mohegan

06-15-2011, 04:45 AM

Ariakas

06-15-2011, 09:27 PM

Sitting in the vancouver sun, listening to vancouver fans freak out in preparation for the big game. Thinking about how busy my life is. And how awesome so much is right now. I am really enjoying the travelling meeting new people and reconnecting with people.

I am even digging apartment shopping, who woulda thunk haha

Castalia

06-16-2011, 05:21 PM

TIRED, the youngest decided she wanted to party until three last night and i've been fighting a headache all week. c is going to ask a high school crush out for lunch today and i'm anxious as hell about the whole thing.
after examining my feelings for the last few days i've realized it's not him liking her or wanting to spending time with her, its that i want to like her and her to like me. i've had really poor relationships with women in the past and we're hoping these relationships will become like family for us.

inlovewith2

06-16-2011, 09:00 PM

[QUOTE=Ariakas;86433]Thats true. My successes today are really showcased in my life because of my hard childhood. So thats a great point :)

_______________

Thanks, it really does help me. And just because it bugs me, I must correct my "their" to "there". GRR, I guess I still have some perfectionistic tendencies that I've yet to conquer.

If you saw my house though, you could see that I've conquered so many of them ;-). My mother said to me the other day "so you do know how to clean" after I spent 4 and a half hours cleaning up after the mess my dog made in my bathroom (long story). She's really lucky she's so darn cute and sweet though (the dog, not my mother so much)!

Anyway, back to you, I think it's a really important grounding exercise and I'm glad that you can acknowledge your growth!

Hugs,

Christie

Breathesgirl

06-16-2011, 10:46 PM

Mehhhhhhh

Breathes is working too many extra hours this week so I'm missing him and getting just a little tired of my own company. (Did I just say I'm tired of my own company?)

He's not working tomorrow night, unfortunately it's gaming night *sigh*.

I'll get to see him Saturday, IF I can get him to stay awake long enough that is.

Ariakas

06-18-2011, 03:24 PM

Went for a ride last night and now on my weekend.. 2 days of nothing. Farmers market tomorrow and hopefully a ride or two.

My new riding partner has been fun. She is in better shape but her skillet is lower, so we push each other on opposite ends of the spectrum. She really rides my ass up and I am helping her "be one with the trail" on the way down. I have been so happy to be back riding, I was worried my skills and strength would have gone away, but I feel confident onthetrail. Might be time to really push myself and get back out onto the more technical runs.

Gloomy, rainy and snowingihpsh here (on the mountain) it's been so hot and sunny it almost good to smell that fresh BC air.

Pengrah and I had a huge talk about poly last night. Kind of a where we stand. We are two different people in poly. She has been poly a very very long time, even though she never had a word for it.. My poly is most definitely new.. Nothing specific came out of the conversation, I just have a better understandin of what she wants, misses and in the end how she sees her involvement in poly.

Rarechild

06-18-2011, 03:52 PM

Not quite ready to meet the world today, but I know it's out there.

Must give myself the luxury of moving slow and steady.

I have been grateful to have been able to expend almost all of my nervous energy at work these last few days. Almost.

I am trying to consider all that has been communicated to me this week, and all that I have found in myself. But not all at once, not right away. My Love is too precious for me not to follow it down this path too, scanning the ground and the trees for creatures and shiny things that trigger my attention.

Believing and accepting and working. Writing. Getting through and getting angry and finding out why. Laughing at the full spectrum of my stubbornness.

Grateful. I would not trade my life for anything.
-R

River

06-18-2011, 05:52 PM

Laughing at the full spectrum of my stubbornness.

How delightful! How free! You are beautiful when you do this.:)

River

06-18-2011, 05:54 PM

I'm so happy I could

(a) melt
(b) explode
(c) take a nap
(d) blossom

All of the above.

I've won the cosmic jackpot. And I didn't even buy a ticket!

Ariakas

06-19-2011, 12:39 AM

Walking along nicely on a trail heading home after a good hike and... Out walks a big ole black bear (lets guess at 6 years for those who would care haah) about 10ft in front of me.

I am going to miss living here..

Magdlyn

06-19-2011, 11:53 AM

How delightful! How free! You are beautiful when you do this.:)

Oh, so it's Rarechild who has you floating feet off the ground.

Rarechild

06-19-2011, 02:57 PM

Ha. Yes and no. River and I get each other spiritually, but I am not the much-adored new ladyfriend.

I have enough to deal with, thank you very much. :)

-R

Magdlyn

06-19-2011, 03:01 PM

Oh, so the mystery continues. Excuse my prurient interest!

Gf and I are gonna go to the beach today. Yay! Perfect day expected, high of 80F. Yesterday was a bit too warm, got to 88.

River

06-19-2011, 07:31 PM

Oh, so it's Rarechild who has you floating feet off the ground.

~I also adore Rarechild, and her family. And I'm learning to adore the rest of you as well.

~The cause of my recent joy-ecstacy was the ripening process of my life-long adoration of the Deep Earth (or "being" here on Earth, if you prefer).

~A ripe peach must fall.

~Or, in this case, rise. Rise to be eaten by children, birds or worms. Come all ye who are hungry and feed on this flesh--this flesh which is all of life, which I am, which you are. Feed on your own poems! Serve them up as silence and dance!

~So, yes, I do love Rarechild completely. My beloved is all of life, and it was "M" of Minnessota (m&m) who pointed to the moon in my heart with such skill and grace. She is my very special one. She serves awakening tea.

~Never before have my feet been so solidly on Earth's true surface. I'm not floating; I have arrived.

River

06-19-2011, 07:40 PM

Oh, so the mystery continues.

Now that's what I call an understatement.;)

Breathesgirl

06-19-2011, 08:29 PM

Considering going for a walk. Anyone want to come?

Breathes is working on the other computer & I need to get away before his temper has me all hot and bothered (unfortunately NOT in a good way !)

River

06-19-2011, 09:08 PM

I'll walk with you, Breathesgirl, just let me put on my boots and start up my helicopter. Where did you say you live?

BrigidsDaughter

06-20-2011, 12:26 AM

Brigid-we have several friends heading out tomorrow as well. Though it's a bit closer for us. Have a good time and be safe! It takes 6-7 hrs to get to ohio and I hate making that drive alone.

I'm doing okay. Went to practice with Karma, got some good pictures. Sitting outside after being cooped up inside for a week and a half was great. Fresh air, good people, and a good time. Forgot how bad a large group of sweaty men can smell though. :)

I'm paying for sitting on the ground though, back hurts pretty bad.

Sorry to hear that your back hurts. My back, knee, hips, and ankle are a bit stiff from the long drive home, but I had an awesome time. It is looking like our unit might be attending the Five Armies interrealm event in Ohio in August.

Breathesgirl

06-20-2011, 09:16 AM

I'll walk with you, Breathesgirl, just let me put on my boots and start up my helicopter. Where did you say you live?

lol Ontario, Canada. Not all that far from a small airport that used to be exclusively for small charters, private planes, etc. but now they've expanded for some commercial flights :(.

RunicWolf

06-21-2011, 01:46 AM

A little less tired, but still a little sore in the right leg from a week of camping, drinking, and fighting. I'm sporting a few new bruises as well.

Upside is that I've got new projects to work on in the workshop, some new construction tech to try, and a few things to work on for the field.

So over all I'm doing pretty darn good over all.

Ariakas

06-21-2011, 04:39 AM

I had a great morning conversation to kick start my day..

topped off with a great day at work.. I was able to do something uber geeky and fix a problem at a site that had been having ongoing issues since we took over...

A fun ride where my cardio and skill level were finally getting up to par.. although I have walked away with an injury that will most definitely effect my sleep for a few nights.. and already has.. I am exhausted but can't get comfortable...

And then a meeting and then hanging out a bit.

All in all a great day. I am feeling rather blessed..

Karma

06-21-2011, 06:27 AM

Breathesgirl

06-21-2011, 09:21 AM

Looking forward to tonight when Possibility comes over for a couple of hours.

Breathes & I are looking for a 3rd, or more, to play Munchkin! lol

Karma

06-21-2011, 09:22 AM

Munchkin is amazing!

Karma

06-21-2011, 11:07 AM

Spent the day building new, pretty weapons for darkon/dag. I'm a firm believer that your garb should be awesome, and so should the things your swinging at people. I've actually been studying Tsukamaki, the traditional method for wrapping a katana handle, and the results when applied to foam swords are stunning :) Also helping my friends and my brother back home get a new Dag unit off the ground. I'm coaching/advising from three states away, which has been interesting... I'm limited to phone calls and posting vids of training drills on our facebook group page, but I think I'm helping anyway.

Other than that, still putting my head back together slowly but surely. I'm better than I was a few months ago to be sure, but I still have things to work through. But, I'm getting there. Patching up relationships with friends that I didn't realize I had strained seems to be the recent theme, and I'm having a wide variety of results in that endeavor.

RunicWolf

06-21-2011, 11:19 AM

Make me a happy Karma - tell me you killed a lot of Romans and Gestigueist :)

I'm going to make you a sad Karma and tell you I fought with them and Narnia all week.

If it makes you feel any better we held our ground better then Rome did with much fewer people. We gained a bit of a rep for being able to hold our ground against much larger numbers and make any attackers pay for any ground in "blood". Go Undead! ;)

Morningglory629

06-21-2011, 04:01 PM

I am wonderful! Great night lastnight the rain was amazing like a waterfall , great grad party this past weekend- eldest daughter made a photo collage video and hubs got all teary-eyed. Surprise visit from a cousin who lives in FLA, awesome. Kids leaving for university this week. So life is going well. Happy.

SNeacail

06-21-2011, 04:46 PM

It's crazy how one little thing can set your mind into thinking the worst. Last evening, I was nearly in tears as my mind immediately went to "worst case senario" instead of the most logical and likely. I had to talk myself down before approaching my husband. While I was "processing", he noticed something was wrong and asked about it. I made the decission to make NO assumptions in my approach and just made a simple request. He immediately appologized and I knew I made the right move in my approach. :D

This started me to thinking about a bunch of random thoughts as I read through some posts here:

**Cheating is extremely hard to overcome and will take much longer than either party expects. Even when we think we have moved on, it can come back and bite us in the ass when we are feeling insecure.

**OPP (or any "one sided" set of rules) makes me immediately think "controling abusive jackass", as it resembles behavior my SIL(who is in an abusive relationship) has been describing of her husband.

**Society as a whole has gotten extremely lazy when it comes to interpersonal relationships, that are children are paying the price. By the time we are adults very few of us have the tools to keep a long term relationship healthy.

**Overcoming the instinct to be judgemental takes practice.

**Bad news seems to come in waves. Does good new come in waves also and we just don't pay attention?

River

06-21-2011, 04:55 PM

I remain very, very happy. Every day, happy! This is weird! Now, if only I can remember how to sleep through pre-dawn.

Ariakas

06-21-2011, 05:00 PM

**Bad news seems to come in waves. Does good new come in waves also and we just don't pay attention?

I think its more a degree of perception. We view and sometimes focus on negatives..

There is usually way more good in our lives than bad, so the bad stands out. Then we end up taking advantage of the good..

BrigidsDaughter

06-21-2011, 05:32 PM

Breathesgirl

06-21-2011, 10:39 PM

Munchkin is amazing!

So we've heard. Unfortunately Possibility isn't interested. I'm hoping to get the kids into it tomorrow night but I won't hold my breath. It's summer break! What are the odds that two 16 year olds will actually want to spend time *gasp of horror* at home?!

Believe it or not I put "looking for a third for Munchkin" on my OKC profile, lmao. If I can't grab 'em one way I'll grab 'em another!

LT4everu2

06-21-2011, 11:40 PM

pretty upset and feel useless! I feel like such a failure today!!! :(

Magdlyn

06-21-2011, 11:41 PM

Why, hon?

LT4everu2

06-22-2011, 01:11 AM

Today was just one of those days :( I will talk to TL when he is done with training & hope to get something worked out.

marksbabygirl

06-22-2011, 04:06 AM

Looking for a workout I can do to strengthen my derby muscles. Don't want to order the derby workout dvd right now - but thinking my Jillian Michaels Yoga might do the trick... :p

nycindie

06-22-2011, 06:21 PM

Still processing the experience of spending almost two whole days with Burnsy. He arrived in my city on Monday at around midday and he left yesterday evening. I'm letting it all sink in before I write more about it. But I feel good today.

BrigidsDaughter

06-22-2011, 09:39 PM

Feeling kind of disappointed this afternoon. Last night Wendigo and I went up and helped set the tent back up at KoN. We ended up being the first ones there and decided to practice with my bow since another friend was supposed to bring his scale to see if the new string would pass. In trying to avoid getting stung, I managed to thwack myself with the bow string. I was kind of in shock when Wendigo kissed it better and pulled me in for a quick kiss, before anyone else arrived. Sometimes I think we try too hard to keep up appearances.... and those barriers seem to come down quickly at KoN; we're best friends to everyone there and we spent over a year playing characters who were courting; we learned to speak in gestures and looks. Almost all of our Rag friends are also our KoN friends, but it's like they are different people in different situations. It's okay for us to joke and mock flirt at KoN, but not at Rag or at least that is how it feels right now. Even our friends who were "pulling rank" and looking down on us for being lower rank at Dag were back to their old friendly selves at KoN. Unfortunately, Wendigo threw his back out setting up the tent, so he was uncomfortable on the way home, but looking forward to today.

We had planned today as a hangout/ clean the workshop day with the expectation that we'd fool around for a bit if there was time before Yoda got home from school (boo for half days). It would have been the first time we've had alone time since January. He reminded Pretty Lady that he needed to get up early before they went to bed, but she swears it didn't sink in because when I arrived to pick him up; he was still asleep.

Pretty Lady and I had a good time chatting over coffee while we waited for him to get up, shower, and get ready. We ended up leaving his house an hour after we were supposed to get to ours, so any play time would have had to be quick, but he was pretty much a zombie and/or in pain the whole time he was here, while I cleaned up around him and he kept apologizing for wasting my time. :( I still don't know how to show him that anytime I get to spend with him isn't a waste. Would I have enjoyed some sexy time, hell, yes, but what I really needed was to spend some quality time not having to pretend I'm not his girlfriend. It takes alot of mental energy to act "natural" in group settings. I think I'm more disappointed that he couldn't even hold a conversation; couldn't flirt; and I barely got a half hug; than I am about anything else.

And now I have to make dinner and entertain our friends, who I want to see, but don't; if that makes any sense.

Ariakas

06-23-2011, 09:22 PM

busy,.. yep again.

Sitting in dallas, enjoying the hotel room as I work away. Its nice to have some time alone...

My head is just swimming with stuff, work, love, etc. So much going on I feel like my head is unscrewing sometimes.. and I wouldn't have it any other way.

MonoVCPHG

06-23-2011, 09:26 PM

Ariakas

06-23-2011, 09:28 PM

Looking for a workout I can do to strengthen my derby muscles. Don't want to order the derby workout dvd right now - but thinking my Jillian Michaels Yoga might do the trick... :p

Actually.. the honest truth. The best way to build sports muscles is to play the sport.

When I used to coach and train teenagers, that truth really does work. You can have an incredible and powerful squat, and not jump worth beans.

The best way to build strength for sprinting is to sprint a lot,... and supplement that with working out :)...

If you goal is athletic.. play the sport as much as you can and supplement the athletics with the workout :D..

Ariakas

06-23-2011, 09:30 PM

I was just wondering how you were doing! Cool.

Good timing on my part. :)... I am back home next week.. for a whole week.. Holy smoke, 7 days in my own bed...

I might have to have a party haha.. :)..

I am blessed. Life is good.. I really have no right to complain about anything.. hahaha.. doesn't mean I won't one in a while haha ;) hahah

Derbylicious

06-23-2011, 09:30 PM

Actually.. the honest truth. The best way to build sports muscles is to play the sport.

When I used to coach and train teenagers, that truth really does work. You can have an incredible and powerful squat, and not jump worth beans.

The best way to build strength for sprinting is to sprint a lot,... and supplement that with working out :)...

If you goal is athletic.. play the sport as much as you can and supplement the athletics with the workout :D..

There is still something to be said for training the muscle groups that you are going to be using the most often to help strengthen them and hopefully cut down on the potential for injury. It might not make you play the sport better right off the bat but not being injured helps you play the sport longer and get better at it.

Derbylicious

06-23-2011, 09:31 PM

Good timing on my part. :)... I am back home next week.. for a whole week.. Holy smoke, 7 days in my own bed...

I might have to have a party haha.. :)..

In your bed :eek::D

Ariakas

06-23-2011, 09:33 PM

There is still something to be said for training the muscle groups that you are going to be using the most often to help strengthen them and hopefully cut down on the potential for injury. It might not make you play the sport better right off the bat but not being injured helps you play the sport longer and get better at it.

I agree. Those support muscles and the extras need to get worked. :).. I am just saying.. "if you wanna skate better, skate more"..

the best ballers all played 8 hours a day.. they didn't hit the gym..

and yes, I just said baller.. haha

Ariakas

06-23-2011, 09:34 PM

In your bed :eek::D

hahahah indeed :D

inlovewith2

06-23-2011, 09:42 PM

Good timing on my part. :)... I am back home next week.. for a whole week.. Holy smoke, 7 days in my own bed...

I might have to have a party haha.. :)..

I am blessed. Life is good.. I really have no right to complain about anything.. hahaha.. doesn't mean I won't one in a while haha ;) hahah

I hope you enjoy being home, Ari! And I myself am a believer in the notion that a little venting does us good :D

RunicWolf

06-23-2011, 10:18 PM

I agree. Those support muscles and the extras need to get worked. :).. I am just saying.. "if you wanna skate better, skate more"..

the best ballers all played 8 hours a day.. they didn't hit the gym..

and yes, I just said baller.. haha

It's the eye/hand/body coordination. No amount of pumping iron or working out will build that. If you want to get better at something that requires to to move in certain ways to accomplish certain things (shooting basketballs, hitting baseballs, thunking people with sticks), then go out and do them and build the most important thing of all: muscle memory.

As for how I'm doing? The whiplash back to reality is throwing me into a deeper funk then before. It's a slide into depression that's hard to stop, so tonight I'm going out to play some board games with some friends and hopefully have a good time.

marksbabygirl

06-23-2011, 11:20 PM

Actually.. the honest truth. The best way to build sports muscles is to play the sport.

When I used to coach and train teenagers, that truth really does work. You can have an incredible and powerful squat, and not jump worth beans.

The best way to build strength for sprinting is to sprint a lot,... and supplement that with working out :)...

If you goal is athletic.. play the sport as much as you can and supplement the athletics with the workout :D..

Yup. I do that. 2 hours, 2X a week. And at the end of it, my back is seizing on me. So what I need (and I did see Derby reply somewhere down the line, but have to go look) is something that will be supplemental and help the muscles that are so seriously out of shape work properly.

:p

marksbabygirl

06-23-2011, 11:22 PM

I agree. Those support muscles and the extras need to get worked. :).. I am just saying.. "if you wanna skate better, skate more"..

the best ballers all played 8 hours a day.. they didn't hit the gym..

and yes, I just said baller.. haha

I need a place where I CAN skate more. I was told not to skate in on wet pavement. So .... living on the Wet Coast :cool: I need to find other ways to strengthen muscles while we're enjoying the liquid sunshine... :rolleyes:

marksbabygirl

06-23-2011, 11:28 PM

"if you wanna skate better, skate more"

Just to address this because I see someone else has responded to it as well - I already skate "well-(ish)" its not my skating skills I need to work on - those are coming along nicely.

Its the "OMFG I CAN'T MOVE" pain in my back that is fairly common (i've been told) when you first start skating that I need to work out.

If my back didn't seize - I'd happily skate through the cardio issues, through the cramps in my shin, through the numb feet... but my back seizes and I need to find a way to prevent that.

Derbylicious

06-23-2011, 11:55 PM

marksbabygirl

06-23-2011, 11:56 PM

Try skating in the other direction for a while. I find my back seizes up after a while of skating left. Also stretching out your lower back before and after can really help a lot.

Tee hee - then I have both sides of my back seize.

I keep trying though ;)

Mohegan

06-24-2011, 09:06 AM

Just to address this because I see someone else has responded to it as well - I already skate "well-(ish)" its not my skating skills I need to work on - those are coming along nicely.

Its the "OMFG I CAN'T MOVE" pain in my back that is fairly common (i've been told) when you first start skating that I need to work out.

If my back didn't seize - I'd happily skate through the cardio issues, through the cramps in my shin, through the numb feet... but my back seizes and I need to find a way to prevent that.

I have a bad back and while I can't skate to save my life, I have learned some tricks to keep it from siezing when I am going to be active. I start taking Nsaids (ibuprofin and the like) the day or two before and I do light stretching and warm up the muscles. Then when I get home it's more nsaids and a hot shower. If it's the lower back it could be you're hamstrings are too tight. I thought my physical therepist was crazy but once I started stretching them daily it made a huge difference in my back. I do it before I get of bed, after any exercise and before bed. Lay on your back feet on the floor knees bent. Put your right ankle on your left knee then lift your left leg towards your chest. then do the other side. To strengthen the back lay on your stomache arms under your chin or straight out in front of depending on which is better. Lift both legs up and then lift your chest up. Kind of like superman flying. Hold for a few seconds then relax. Do as many reps as you can.

If it's your upper back I've got nothin'. :) All my issues are L5 and lower. Good luck!

marksbabygirl

06-24-2011, 08:32 PM

I have a bad back and while I can't skate to save my life, I have learned some tricks to keep it from siezing when I am going to be active. I start taking Nsaids (ibuprofin and the like) the day or two before and I do light stretching and warm up the muscles. Then when I get home it's more nsaids and a hot shower. If it's the lower back it could be you're hamstrings are too tight. I thought my physical therepist was crazy but once I started stretching them daily it made a huge difference in my back. I do it before I get of bed, after any exercise and before bed. Lay on your back feet on the floor knees bent. Put your right ankle on your left knee then lift your left leg towards your chest. then do the other side. To strengthen the back lay on your stomache arms under your chin or straight out in front of depending on which is better. Lift both legs up and then lift your chest up. Kind of like superman flying. Hold for a few seconds then relax. Do as many reps as you can.

If it's your upper back I've got nothin'. :) All my issues are L5 and lower. Good luck!

Hey thanks for that! All related to lower back - and i will start making sure I stretch my hamstrings and do the superman thing :) Mucho appreciated :D

Athena

06-24-2011, 11:20 PM

moving into rental condo tomorrow! yay:D

Mohegan

06-25-2011, 09:30 AM

Hey thanks for that! All related to lower back - and i will start making sure I stretch my hamstrings and do the superman thing :) Mucho appreciated :D

I hope it helps, I know it has made a huge difference for me.

LT4everu2

06-25-2011, 12:09 PM

I am doing AWESOME! TL won his MMA fight last night! I am so proud of him! He is such a great guy with great skills! I was the proudest person in the room last night!

Mohegan

06-25-2011, 12:17 PM

I am doing AWESOME! TL won his MMA fight last night! I am so proud of him! He is such a great guy with great skills! I was the proudest person in the room last night!

Yay!!!!!!! Karma and I both needed that smile! Give your man a hug for me! And a massage.

How am I? Well I just got an e-mail on FB that I originaly thought was a continuation of a disagreement Karma and I were having. Opened it to find it was from someone I long ago removed from my life and never had desire to hear from again. Still working on putting my heart back in my chest and figuring out what to do about it.

LT4everu2

06-25-2011, 12:37 PM

Give your man a hug for me! And a massage.
He said thanks! And he is so spoiled he got a pre event massage and a post event massage in the dressing room. Then he got one when he got home and will getting one in a few minutes :D

Magdlyn

06-25-2011, 01:49 PM

NY State just legalized marriage equality (gay marriage)! Yippee!

Karma

06-25-2011, 10:34 PM

TL - nice job, sir :)

Ugh.

Spent this morning trying to calm Mo down after Asshole showed up unannounced on her facebook. I've never seen her physically react with nausea to the unexpected apearance of someone before. They last spoke when he got ahold of her - again unannounced and unwanted - three years ago and she told him what she thought of him then. So, we've heard nothing from him until now. She keeps all of her photos and everything set to where only friends can see them, and recently she set one album - pics from a Tuesday night practice - up to where friends of friends can see it, so that everyone who was there could tag themselves. And as soon as she does, this guy sends her a private message about those pics of her.

So Asshole, how long have you been cyberstalking my wife?
I discussed several options with her last night, IE blocking him, telling his wife what's going on and what he did to Mo, ect. But in the end, it's her decision to make. My job is to make sure she's mentally and emotionally taken care of right now, not to handle this myself.

Unless she asks me to.

Mohegan

06-26-2011, 12:54 AM

I have an amazing husband. Instead of the several possibilities he had to go tonight, he's taking care of me. Icluding making me a very yummy dinner with his special dill and butter potatoes :) It's the little things :)

Trying to get my brain back in order and decide what to do. I can't decide if I just want to block the asshole, send him a message telling him to never contact me again, contact his wife or just ignore the whole thing.

Just kind of a ball of disconected emotion at the moment and irritated with myself for letting him get to me like that.

Ariakas

06-26-2011, 01:45 PM

Exhausted. Got in from Dallas yesterday and just beat. My flights on both ends, had delays, were at really stupid times and had layovers. Poor planning on my part has knocked me on my ass.

Today is a day of nothing.. Not that I could do much if I tried.

BrigidsDaughter

06-26-2011, 03:19 PM

Been feeling kind of blah the last couple of days mostly due to finances being super tight and the lack of any real creative days in the workshop since we got back. I realize the guys needed a break from 7 day a week build days, but I really struggled to keep the energy positive down in the shop while they were gone.

Pretty Lady sent me a free copy of one of her books Thursday night; which was amazing and I finished by Friday night. Yesterday we watched as my youngest sister graduated from high school. That, coupled with my son moving up to middle school in Sept, makes me feel old for some reason.

marksbabygirl

06-26-2011, 04:06 PM

Today is a gorgeous day. Promises to be super busy with gardening, minor ball and derby.

Not sure how I'll fit it all in... :P

Derbylicious

06-26-2011, 04:57 PM

The derby game last night was intense. We were tied after the final jam. In the end the other team won by 10 points in the tie breaker. I've never seen a tied game before!

BrigidsDaughter

06-26-2011, 07:42 PM

Feeling a bit relieved. For the past couple of days I've been worrying about Wendigo, as I haven't heard from him since I had to take him home early Wednesday. I finally got in contact with him today and found out that he hasn't been online because his sleep schedule is out of wack from spending Thursday at the doctor and Thursday night to Friday morning in the ER.

We were all concerned that his leg injury from Ragnarok was more serious than just a bruise/ strain from where our friend in metal greeves landed on him, but with no insurance Wendigo was reluctant to go to the doctor. I'm glad he did because the injured tissue was infected. So now he is home on antibiotics and allowing himself to rest for a few more days. Building armor, etc. before the next event in August can wait a few days while he gets better and gives me a few more days to relax around the house with Runic Wolf.

nycindie

06-26-2011, 08:24 PM

We were all concerned that his leg injury from Ragnarok was more serious than just a bruise/ strain from where our friend in metal greeves landed on him, but with no insurance Wendigo was reluctant to go to the doctor.

Eeek! It never occurred to me that people who don't have health insurance would be participating in activities like this, where there is such potential for getting hurt. I've had long periods of being uninsured in my life, it is scary to have an injury and then be more afraid of the bill then anything else. Maybe he can find an inexpensive insurance somehow? NYS has some options, I think. Also, I do believe that most hospitals in NYS have a fund that covers people who cannot pay - I know they are not allowed to turn away uninsured people.

BrigidsDaughter

06-26-2011, 10:38 PM

With his wife being an author, they get paid in irregular lump sum payments - royalties or advances - so it makes it hard to get into any of the low or no cost insurances we have here in NY. They base if off of their annual income instead of monthly and that puts them over the line. Unfortunately when they do get the money they are throwing it at all teh bills that haven't been paid for months. So authors and artists, like Wendigo, learn to adapt to not having insurance for the most part until they hit the big time. It just means that all of her next royalty payment will go towards paying his hospital bill. :-(

Karma

06-26-2011, 11:42 PM

So now he is home on antibiotics and allowing himself to rest for a few more days. Building armor, etc. before the next event in August can wait a few days while he gets better and gives me a few more days to relax around the house with Runic Wolf.

LOL, that sounds exactly like me :)

"Well, I broke myself too badly to fight..... time to BUILD STUFF!!!!"

And then Mohegan is lost in the pile of foam, tape, and cores for the next three days ;)

BrigidsDaughter

06-27-2011, 12:26 AM

marksbabygirl

06-27-2011, 12:38 AM

sunburnt. 'nuff said.

Used my communication skillz to mend a friendship. Going over for coffee tonight :)

Transplanting tonight - waiting for the sun to go down a bit, and watching True Blood later :)

Great day overall :D

Mohegan

06-27-2011, 12:39 AM

Well, since he does all his work here, Pretty Lady just has to deal with him being engrossed in armor websites and a sketch pad. I spent 5 hours on Wed finding the floor of the workshop, cleaning up foam, sweeping up everything that had gotten stuck to the spray adhesive on the floor, and sorting out what supplies we have left. I can't wait to get back into it though..... I got my new bow string in the mail the Tuesday after Rag and can't wait to use it.

We live in an itty bitty 1 bedroom apartment that is cramped with the furniture we had in our nice 3 bedroom townhouse in Ohio. If he leaves his stuff out the whole living room is rendered useless.

We agreed that when house hunting, we'll be looking for a basement workshop. And I won't even go down there. He can leave it as messy as he wants.

I'm doing okay. Fighting a migriane. In a better frame of mind but still some lingering effects from the other night.

BrigidsDaughter

06-27-2011, 04:23 AM

We live in an itty bitty 1 bedroom apartment that is cramped with the furniture we had in our nice 3 bedroom townhouse in Ohio. If he leaves his stuff out the whole living room is rendered useless.

We agreed that when house hunting, we'll be looking for a basement workshop. And I won't even go down there. He can leave it as messy as he wants.

I'm doing okay. Fighting a migriane. In a better frame of mind but still some lingering effects from the other night.

*hugs and healing energy* We have a 3 bedroom townhouse with a full basement and when we moved in there was a perfectly good workbench with pounding board that the landlord was going to get rid of and we asked to keep. Make sure that whatever you find has good ventillation as DAP and spray adhesive have some interesting effects in enclosed spaces.....

Ariakas

06-27-2011, 02:48 PM

The house is quiet.. and ufc is on.. Fight night.. I guess I am watching it at the wrong time, but its good to put on something I can enjoy... these quiet times rarely last, but its enjoyable non the less. :)

nycindie

06-27-2011, 05:56 PM

I'm checking into a sleep study tomorrow. Since this past Sunday morning and through the end of this week, I can't have caffeine, alcohol, juices, or any of my vitamins.

Today I really want a cup of coffee but can't have one! :(

I went there last week to get hooked up for my first overnight that determined I qualify for participation. I guess it means that I definitely do have obstructive sleep apnea since I qualified. It was wild sleeping with a tube in my nose and what seemed like hundreds of wires and electrodes attached to my face, head, legs, and arms, plus two thick bands across my torso (like heart monitors that runners wear). In reality, there weren't that many wires, but I toss and turn a lot, so in the morning all the wires were wrapped around me like a belt and the tech had to untangle me!

That time, I checked in around 9pm and lights out was 12:30. No biggie. This time, because they have to take blood, etc., I have to checkin at 10am and be there at the clinic all day before bedtime! They have a lounge with TV, computers, etc., but geez, all frickin' day. I'm going to bring stuff to give myself a manicure.

It's all worth it, though. In about a month, I'll get paid and it will cover a month's rent and a little extra.

River

06-27-2011, 11:11 PM

I'm quite sad and worried ...

Wildfire is destroying some of my favorite places on Earth right now--and nearby. The fire started only about 24 hours ago, yet has already grown to about fifty thousand acres! Unbelievable! I've never heard of a fire growing this rapidly, ever.

http://www.suntimes.com/news/nation/6200018-418/wildfire-threatens-monument-visitor-center-forces-los-alamos-evacuation.html

This is very, very sad. We need a lot of rain, fast. Nothing else will help.

Ariakas

06-28-2011, 01:39 AM

A nice night with pengrah. I have been a lil off.. So what do I do.. Cook..

Mushroom porcini stock, made from dried porcini mushrooms, some regular buttons all made into a nice mushroom truffle risotto. Turns out a lil like cream of mushroom soup but quite an amazing flavor. Throw in some goat milk for the creamy and it you end up with a pengrah friendly dish.
Served with a roast chicken and some asparagus and you have a healthy dinner with a butt load of flavor.

Back to cooking and then a movie night.

Mohegan

06-28-2011, 02:00 AM

Ari-that sounds amazing!

I'm doing good. Sent a letter to frat boy. I told him he could have all the emotions I carried for 10yrs. I was done with them and it was about time he dealt with it. Then I blocked him and broke down. Karma was right beside me the whole time. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done, but today I woke up after the first good sleep I've had in days, and I smiled. I fel good today. Refreshed. Anger is gone, fear is gone.

Taking it easy today. Karma is playing video games and I am just going to read and relax.

River

06-28-2011, 03:00 AM

We need a lot of rain, fast. Nothing else will help.

Since I wrote that it's cooled considerably and it looks and smells and feels like rain coming in. Pray for rain for us! :p (I'm not much of a prayer guy, but, hey, what do I know?)

RunicWolf

06-28-2011, 03:06 AM

Since I wrote that it's cooled considerably and it looks and smells and feels like rain coming in. Pray for rain for us! :p (I'm not much of a prayer guy, but, hey, what do I know?)

I'll send you some of ours. We've had a bad case of Spring Showers for the past month. I'm tired of water falling from the sky. Does it all winter and now this spring too? Bagh!

Otherwise I'm doing good. Snuggled up with BrigidsDaughter and watched a movie together after she had a hellish day at work. Brightened my boring day as well as her own. Also heard from a friend that got to see the new Transformers movie early. As a fan of the series since it started, I'm now actually very excited to go see it. As he put it "It makes up for the other two".

Breathesgirl

06-28-2011, 08:53 AM

Mehhhhhhhhhh.....wondering why in the world I woke at 3 am! The alarm doesn't go off until 4:30!:(

BrigidsDaughter

06-28-2011, 09:44 PM

marksbabygirl

06-29-2011, 12:38 AM

Got some unexpected, but good news today. I'm being considered for the open family worker position at our site, so I now have an interview tomorrow after work. This is the job I was working towards before I was forced to leave my job to finish my degree; the job that I initially applied for when I came back; and now it is in my grasp.... I'm both excited and nervous.

YAY!!

I'm chillaxed... thinking about studying. Might want to get on that :p

River

06-29-2011, 12:58 AM

Mehhhhhhhhhh.....wondering why in the world I woke at 3 am! The alarm doesn't go off until 4:30!:(

Shoot! I knew it was a goddam conspiracy!;)

Mohegan

06-29-2011, 04:47 AM

Got some unexpected, but good news today. I'm being considered for the open family worker position at our site, so I now have an interview tomorrow after work. This is the job I was working towards before I was forced to leave my job to finish my degree; the job that I initially applied for when I came back; and now it is in my grasp.... I'm both excited and nervous.

Yay! Good luck!

I'm in a ton of pain. Pushed my workout too much last night. Slept for 13 hrs and am ready to go back to bed. But emotionaly I'm doing great. Giving all that emotion over to Frat Boy was really freeing.

ray

06-29-2011, 06:28 AM

the nurse and I have decided to stop things, maybe re-evaluate later...but pretty much done. I feel very, very sad.

Kay

06-29-2011, 06:52 AM

Very sleepy but doing well. Now living in Seattle and all I need is a job and a car :) Besides that well

transitapparent

06-29-2011, 10:34 AM

I leave to go home in a month or so. probably be the longest month of my life. not getting too excited until I actually see the itinerary.

BrigidsDaughter

06-29-2011, 09:58 PM

Yay! Good luck!

I'm in a ton of pain. Pushed my workout too much last night. Slept for 13 hrs and am ready to go back to bed. But emotionaly I'm doing great. Giving all that emotion over to Frat Boy was really freeing.

Wish there was a like button for this.

marksbabygirl

06-30-2011, 02:01 AM

Taking hubby and kids for a walk shortly. Then spending the remainder of my evening studying for my exam next week...

RunicWolf

06-30-2011, 02:05 AM

Crappy week turned around.

Tonight we put a gift card for the movies we got at Christmas to good use and saw Transformers: Dark of the Moon. Awesome time was had at a really good movie. Was tons of fun.

Breathesgirl

06-30-2011, 09:24 AM

Getting excited!

Eight more hours to work and I'm on VACATION for ten days! WOOT!

Not going any where, no plans, just won't be at work, lol.

transitapparent

06-30-2011, 09:36 AM

Getting excited!

Eight more hours to work and I'm on VACATION for ten days! WOOT!

Not going any where, no plans, just won't be at work, lol.

my favorite kind of vacation!!!! right now, I'm just looking forward to the trip home. I'll take 3 days of air travel over 4 months of working without a day off anytime.

naughty

06-30-2011, 01:06 PM

really, really excited. my new skates are supposed to be delivered today :D

opalescent

06-30-2011, 03:03 PM

May have some time over the 4th with a new friend. Happy about this!

Decided to recognize that Oil Man and I are not going anywhere. So I am going to let him know - fun memories, no hard feelings, best of luck. A bit bummed but ready to move on.

Morningglory629

06-30-2011, 09:34 PM

Happy. Not sure what else to say. Laughed so hard last night that I am still smiling about it. David Sedaris gets me every time!:D

Breathesgirl

07-01-2011, 02:09 AM

my favorite kind of vacation!!!! right now, I'm just looking forward to the trip home. I'll take 3 days of air travel over 4 months of working without a day off anytime.

Three days of air travel? Where the heck are you from and where are you now? That's a LOT of flying!

Course, I wouldn't mind it if the flight attendant were cute as all get out, either, and they had lots of coca-cola and snackies, lmao!

Ariakas

07-01-2011, 03:21 PM

so tired, I am seeing double, or maybe thats just my eyes haha.. really have a lot of cobwebs today.

LT4everu2

07-01-2011, 04:00 PM

:-( that is all i can be today! This sucks!

Derbylicious

07-01-2011, 04:06 PM

Happy Canada Day! Today we're off to kick off the begining of pride week with the drag ball game and then to a friend's house for a bar b q. Tomorrow I'm getting my derby on and then to RP's house...all in all this is shaping up to be a pretty spectacular weekend. :D

Ariakas

07-01-2011, 04:18 PM

BrigidsDaughter

07-01-2011, 06:59 PM

Feeling frustrated today. Too many things went wrong; faxes wouldn't send; the office closed early, but I got out late; Runic Wolf couldn't get his car inspected so now he can't drive it; they pushed up the deadline for end of the month reports for my second job to before 4 today (just finished them) instead of the 3rd; they didn't pay Runic Wolf for his vacation time for Rag; and the list goes on. So instead of me getting to do what I needed/ wanted to do after work, Runic Wolf is running most of his and my errands. When he gets home, we're going out to dinner because I am tired of being couped up inside. In the meantime, I am trying to find out when Wendigo wants to come over this weekend which isn't going to be easy since he's working on an animation project and I don't want to interrupt.

transitapparent

07-01-2011, 10:40 PM

Three days of air travel? Where the heck are you from and where are you now? That's a LOT of flying!

Course, I wouldn't mind it if the flight attendant were cute as all get out, either, and they had lots of coca-cola and snackies, lmao!

I'm currently in the middle east, heading back to the east coast. C-130's don't fly very fast.....I have to bring my own snacks and normally the flight attendants aren't very cute, at least not for me ;).

Breathesgirl

07-02-2011, 12:48 PM

I'm currently in the middle east, heading back to the east coast. C-130's don't fly very fast.....I have to bring my own snacks and normally the flight attendants aren't very cute, at least not for me ;).

I suppose that if I had read your profile I would have learned a thing or two, lol.

I can handle bringing my own snackies and I know NOTHING about aircraft so, unfortunately, telling me C-130 means nothing, lol. Is it a personal plane? Cargo plane? One the military uses to transport troops and personnel?

Karma

07-02-2011, 02:02 PM

C-130 is a ginormous cargo plane, I believe that all four branches use them to transport.... well, damn near anything, really. You can fit tanks into them, seriously.

Breathesgirl

07-02-2011, 05:57 PM

C-130 is a ginormous cargo plane, I believe that all four branches use them to transport.... well, damn near anything, really. You can fit tanks into them, seriously.

Cool! Thanx!

I just know that when I fly it's a pain in the butt to go through customs! lmao

transitapparent

07-02-2011, 07:32 PM

Breathesgirl

07-02-2011, 09:30 PM

C-130's are more for transporting troops and cargo. they can fit a tank or 2 in them but the C-5 is the ginormous one. they hold helicopters.

customs is always a pain. if you think it's bad trying to fly within the states, it's even worse trying to fly into the states.

I live in Canada so I HAVE tried flying into the States! lol

It's easier to fly almost any where else in the world!

transitapparent

07-02-2011, 09:42 PM

I live in Canada so I HAVE tried flying into the States! lol

It's easier to fly almost any where else in the world!

gotcha. on a trip like this, we usually luck out. customs comes to us. they inspect our stuff at work, then we get on the plane and go. when we stay overnight somewhere, whatever stays on the plane doesn't have to be reinspected, so we all carry a 3 day pack for the hotels and such. it's still a pain depending on what countries we stop in.

Ariakas

07-02-2011, 11:46 PM

I live in Canada so I HAVE tried flying into the States! lol

It's easier to fly almost any where else in the world!

Getting to the states is easy peasy.

Betting back used to be the bitch. The longest I have ever had to wait to get into canada was almost 4 hours.

The longest it has ever taken to get into the states took about 45 minutes, and that was with a terrorist stop in immigration.. hahaha

Breathesgirl

07-03-2011, 12:50 PM

Getting to the states is easy peasy.

Betting back used to be the bitch. The longest I have ever had to wait to get into canada was almost 4 hours.

The longest it has ever taken to get into the states took about 45 minutes, and that was with a terrorist stop in immigration.. hahaha

Well, you see, I'm still American so it's an American returning home...horse of a different colour.

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I'm disappointed in my son. He was stealing from his dad and blaming a friend who is a bad influence for it. His conscience finally kicked in and he came clean to me last night and his dad this morning. *sigh* I thought I was doing a good job :(.

Any way, he and I talked last night and he's been reassured I still love him--I can love HIM without loving the actions. He's going to church this morning and going to talk to his minister and then he has to go and face the music with his dad *sigh*. I'm disappointed, upset, confused....trying to figure what's going on with him and help him through his own problems and emotions with this.

Ariakas

07-03-2011, 02:31 PM

Well, you see, I'm still American so it's an American returning home...horse of a different colour.

Ahhhhh.. yes.. my mistake.. :)

I'm disappointed in my son. He was stealing from his dad and blaming a friend who is a bad influence for it. His conscience finally kicked in and he came clean to me last night and his dad this morning. *sigh* I thought I was doing a good job :(.

He eventually told you, thats a good thing :)

Ariakas

07-03-2011, 03:17 PM

Breathesgirl

07-03-2011, 07:12 PM

Sitting here drinking coffee, in a quiet house watching updates on the tour de france, wimbledon and.. enjoying some me time..

I have to remember to steal time when I can.. it helps me centre myself..

I have a regular weekly date night with myself! It's even written into my calendar! I am free, obviously, to change those plans but those who know me know that Friday nights from 6:30 to about 9:30 are MY time to myself.

He eventually told you, thats a good thing :) Yes, he did and I'm going to make sure he knows that that IS a good thing.

opalescent

07-04-2011, 03:55 AM

Had a lovely time with two new friends! I don't have enough friends in my life and it's so good to connect with new people.

Breathesgirl

07-04-2011, 12:59 PM

eating breakfast, drinking coffee, about to clear off some housework, cruising email and forums and waiting for lunch time when Possibility will be here for a few hours! WOOT!

BrigidsDaughter

07-04-2011, 03:01 PM

After a late night/ early morning of cuddling with my guys, I'm feeling pretty good. Getting ready to tackle a few loads of laundry before the clam bake at my mother-in-law's and trying to think of a polite way to remind her that I only like my clams deep fried. *crinkles up nose at the idea of rubbery clams*

Ariakas

07-05-2011, 03:27 AM

I am fried.. I have been talking since today at 11am.. had a good lunch meeting, a coffee with a friend and then dinner with an older friend..

My throat hurts.. hahaha

Day started at 4:30 but I am sooo looking forward to how this week unfolds. Its going to be a good week for me I think :D

Now working on a proposal which is due at 8am.. *yawn*... I love my job... seriously..

transitapparent

07-05-2011, 04:13 AM

finished checkpoint number 2 on the list of things to do before I go home. #1 is the mandatory password change on our discrepancy database (how we know whats wrong with the helo's) did that last week. #2 is my PIMS (deployment eval) next up is my post deployment health assessment. an online questionaire then I get to talk to the doc. I'm figuring I'll be leaving this country in just over 3 weeks now wooooohooooooo:D:D:D

Breathesgirl

07-05-2011, 11:11 AM

Worried about my son so I'm going to stop by the counselling center today to try to get him an appointment and hopefully fill out any paperwork so that won't be added to the stress.

The one I'm going to has a sliding pay scale and special days and times for teens so here's hoping! It's also only a ten or 15 minute walk from their house and just down the street from school and right across the parking lot from the coffee shop, lol. I think I've got it all covered.

Transitapparent, awesome news! Here's hooping for you as well :).

Ari......sometimes being fried can be wonderful!

Breathesgirl

07-06-2011, 04:38 PM

I HATE dealing with government offices! The beurocracies, the missing documents that you didn't know you needed, the finding those same documents or waiting for the inept lawyer to find, the time wasted waiting in line to be told you're missing vital documents (the ones you knew you needed but didn't realize it had to be GOVERNMENT ISSUED AND SIGNED!) *sigh*

Just where does a 16 y/o get a government issued ID when he's not 19, not military and not yet ready to take his driver's test and can't find his social insurance card?

I'm on VACATION. This means rest and recreation NOT hunting down documents, spending MY valuable time waiting in line in not one, but two, government offices all in the hopes my son can get his passport in time to go to Ohio in August *sigh*.

His dad is frustrated beyond words! One would THINK he would remember what would be needed for the OHIP card since he has one as well (government coverage for health care in Ontario). I KNOW what's needed & my requirements are different, lol. *shrug* The joys of motherhood & being married to a moron who can't remember from day to day anything important! (The only reason he remembers his name is because everyone uses it so he's conditioned to respond to it.)

Frustration is the word of the week, lol.

Ariakas

07-06-2011, 05:11 PM

fhnsfanldfnfakl;fankl;famnfa

I need a pause button.. I can't wait till this weekend to decompress..

*runs away again*

BrigidsDaughter

07-06-2011, 11:25 PM

Is looking forward to a fun evening, not the one I'd initially expected, but fun non-the-less.

nycindie

07-07-2011, 02:16 AM

fhnsfanldfnfakl;fankl;famnfa

Hmm, eloquently stated!

RunicWolf

07-07-2011, 03:37 AM

I'm mildly amused.

One of my friends posted a link to an article. While I agree with the core statement of the article (SWAT teams are to common, large, over-equipped, and over used), I disapproved of the sensationalist reporting (OMG! SWAT teams are getting items they'd buy anyways from the military!) and the use of fear mongering language in the article itself (tanks? Really? A real tank would laugh at it, insult it's mother, and then run it over. They where armored cars at best). But because I showed disdain for the delivery, I got jumped on by one of his other friends.

Since when does disagreeing with how a message is delivered the same as disagreeing with the message itself? These things amuse me. Not sure why.

Morningglory629

07-07-2011, 04:41 PM

Happens on here all the time.:eek: People read what they want...they see things thru their own perspective USUALLY without thinking about how the writer may have meant it...and often a reader's interpretation is completely different, and a reaction may not always be to the message but how it is delivered as you stated. I even get annoyed with texts...sometimes I am wrong in my interpretation, sometimes I am dead-on. I know I often react before thinking that perhaps the writer meant something else...I am working on that!;)

Oh and by the way, feeling pretty good...mostly good- always a bit of unease but definitely getting better. I think so anyway.

River

07-07-2011, 07:53 PM

Amid all of the challenges and confusions and etceteras, I'm still the happiest, luckiest guy on the freaking planet.

You other guys will have to fight me for the right!

ray

07-07-2011, 07:58 PM

Blah, today/yesterday is not my day. The whole world can go eat a bag of dicks.

Pardon my....french....

River

07-07-2011, 08:00 PM

Dude, it's not the whole world's fault.

opalescent

07-07-2011, 08:12 PM

The whole world can go eat a bag of dicks.

Awesome! I'm going to use this phrase continuously now...

River

07-07-2011, 08:29 PM

Awesome! I'm going to use this phrase continuously now...

Oh, good! :rolleyes:

ray

07-07-2011, 09:09 PM

Yes, it really has been a miserable day and no, it's not the whole world's fault.

Dear river.

I have one word for you.

Hyperbole.

BrigidsDaughter

07-07-2011, 09:24 PM

Having a good day! Got out of work early, got my new contacts in the mail, and have an interview to get back on food stamps later this month. All good things. Also, never underestimate how being appreciative changes ones outlook.

River

07-07-2011, 10:46 PM

I have one word for you.

Hyperbole.

That's a fine word, indeed. :)

I'm just doing my human best to offer you kindness.:) An easy job toward queer boys!

Ariakas

07-08-2011, 12:15 AM

Hmm, eloquently stated!

thanks :D

I am soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo looking forward to tomorrow..

ray

07-08-2011, 12:35 AM

Thanks river. Sometimes it can be difficult to properly interpret tone and intention. I appreciate the kindness.

RunicWolf

07-08-2011, 01:27 AM

Blah, today/yesterday is not my day. The whole world can go eat a bag of dicks.

Geez. As I told my wife, I'm not THAT a big a fan of penis!
Just teasing. I hope your day gets better for you and that things work out.

BrigidsDaughter

07-08-2011, 01:59 AM

Geez. As I told my wife, I'm not THAT a big a fan of penis!
Just teasing. I hope your day gets better for you and that things work out.

Nope, but I am! ;)

Karma

07-08-2011, 09:09 AM

Just found out that D got one of my friends high on X and took advantage of her while she couldn't do anything about it.

I am going to end him. Maybe not today, or tomorrow. Maybe not physically. But I am going to end him.

Derbylicious

07-08-2011, 12:42 PM

NeonKaos

07-08-2011, 03:30 PM

Has she gone to the police? Sounds like something that should be put in their hands.

Probly not since illegal drugs were involved.

nycindie

07-08-2011, 03:32 PM

Hmmm.

Derbylicious

07-08-2011, 04:18 PM

Probly not since illegal drugs were involved.

If he gave her the E in the first place with the intent of drugging her so he could have sex with her I would think there would be even more of a case. I guess it depends if she took the E knowingly or not.

nycindie

07-08-2011, 04:33 PM

So, I am feeling a bit renewed after talking with Burnsy and sharing a pleasant late lunch with The Writer yesterday. Tonight this young guy I met last week is taking me out to dinner. I am so-o-o very excited about that! He's really cute.

I am enjoying all the male attention, but still preoccupied a bit with Burnsy. I think I may have to do a search later to learn a little bit more about LDRs. It's so challenging when I just want to be able to reach out to him, and see him, but I can't.

Happily taking myself out to lunch now....

Derbylicious

07-08-2011, 04:42 PM

I'm packing up the car to go camping in about 3 hours!

transitapparent

07-08-2011, 08:05 PM

just biding my time. hopefully I'll be on my way home in 3 weeks.

BrigidsDaughter

07-09-2011, 02:34 AM

Spent an hour last night agonizing over whether or not I should confront a friend about the way she's been treating me.... I don't like conflict, so I guess I was looking for a nudge. Runic Wolf, the amazing husband he is, suggested I find out what Wendigo thought about it and he gave me the nudge I needed. Unfortunately, the reply didn't really answer my question of if she is mad at me or if I did something to upset her. She needs a break, but from what? I told her to take a break and I'd be here when she's ready, but it is still frustrating.

Pretty Lady is fighting with writer's block, so Wendigo is still waiting to hear if he'll be available tomorrow to spend time together. He is supposed to be helping me refit my corset before next weekend and with his leg healing slower than any of us would like, I know he's getting frustrated.

Tonight I am in pain; my shoulder feels like it went back in wrong somehow. Runic Wolf has been awesome and attentive, so no complaints there. I <3 my life, even when it is imperfect.